To leave my DB’s house after 1 day?

I agree with others that you have massively overreacted, but you seem quite resistant to the view that this is quite extreme behaviour, despite the vote being very clear that YABU. It seems that the possibility of your daughter getting a fairly minor illness has ballooned in your mind and wiped out your ability to be objective or reasonable. For instance, it doesn't sound like you gave much thought to how your brother and his family might be feeling, you say he was fine with it but I suspect he was just trying to make you feel better especially as you had already made the decision. I would be so hurt and disappointed if a family member upped and left in similar circumstances. That really wasn't very kind. Catastrophising can be a form of anxiety or OCD, so I really hope you are getting some help for this, as it is clearly restricting your life quite significantly for you to act in this way, and your child is likely to pick up on that anxiety as a result. I am sure we all understand the need to want to protect your child, but you need to try and look at the bigger picture - her overall wellbeing (and yours) could have been massively boosted by a lovely family holiday. I think you need to listen to the consensus here and reflect on whether it was really in her best interests to cut short your holiday. Was there really such a risk of harm to justify such action? Or is it perhaps your inability to deal with anxious thoughts that might be pushing you towards a need to try and control what are normal and everyday risks?

How pathetic 😂

Could you not have found a hotel if you were that worried?

I do sympathise as I have a lot of anxiety around health and travel but have never actually cancelled or cut a trip short

If she has symptoms she was contagious yesterday too so you won’t really escape it. Unless you prefer to be at your home in case your DC gets sick

Then she runs straight to MN for validation lol

Agree with this and also don't forget your hazmat suit on the plane.

Could you not have moved to an airbnb to avoid this drama? Still a bit dramatic but not as bad as flying home.

If you had been in driving distance and said "Oh poor neice is off it, shall we try again in a couple of weeks so she can get better and you dont have to deal with us here too?!" and then driven home then a bit OTT but ok. But booked earlier FLIGHTS with all of the cost involved on the basis that your DD MIGHT have caught a cold.....

What do you think is the worst that could happen, even if it was slapped cheek? Your DD is in a child centric enviroment daily, and your spent a fortune running away from a sneezy snotty relative?

Talk us through your catasrophising.

YABU
As they were playing together your DD has probably caught it anyway, slapped cheek is very contagious
What are you going to do? Send her to school in a hazmat suit, just in case?

@Isittimeformynapyet No.read it again or scroll by.that way i wont get upset.

Come again .... ?

You are very naive to think parents won’t be sending their DC to pre school if there is a remote chance they may be carrying germs, same with school. Even if they are in full blown snotty, coughing, vomiting and worse mode, I can guarantee many of them will be sent in. Welcome to the germ factory

YES! no you n little microbiobe spreader gony pretty much infect the entire confined space plane.....plus any sorta cross contanimation to from airport-checkin might trigger.HAVE a word with yourself-even poorly...they can have snufflebabe fun..cosy in time?pyjama parites.HAPPY memories?cool doon doll.

Never mind OP you will have given your brother and his partner something to talk about with the rest of your family for at least a decade.

On a more serious note I would seek some additional mental health support.

I’m not going to join in on the pile up…but if you were a close friend of mine, I would tell you I get you’re anxious. However, when we look at your natural fight or flight the flight the flight is too strong and results in a negative impact on your child. Therefore, this is something we will need to look at and address xxx

I would of booked into a hotel near by BUT I have an immunocompromised child

@Mumanddone this may be the push needed to either get help or for you to start working on this yourself.
It seems like there has been no harm done to your DD or relationship with your DB so that's good and it's given you others perspectives on your decisions

Did no one else try to talk you down? You said your brother was OK with it... did no one seem taken aback at your decision, show surprise that you booked a new flight just to escape a cold?

Apart from anything else, this must be a costly thing to do

I think by the responses that you may know YABU so I'm not going to add to it but it does seem a very extreme reaction to a child maybe catching a cold. What did you think would happen to her if she did catch it, do you suffer from health anxiety or normally catastrophize situations?

It's just as well that you only have one child. Because if she had a sibling with a cold you could hardly whisk her out of the house.

None of this makes any sense. You let her be with kids with colds at nursery, but you fly home from another country, abandon your DB and family who'd planned for your visit, and disappoint both them and your child, for the sake of a cold.

Really, there is no justification for this.

This is crazy op. I'm sure your child will be ok if she catches a cold, to take her back home because of coughing and sneezing is not a normal way to live, you can't protect her from every virus going that's madness.

Slapped cheek no longer contagious once the rash appears.

Your dd has already caught it. She'll be spreading it across two airports, as well as missing out on cousin playtime for nothing

I don't think there has been a single day in the last 6 months when one of my grandchildren hasn't been spreading one germ or another. I'm immunosuppressed but if I had kept away whenever one of them was coughing or sneezing I'd have missed months, in any case by the time you know they are sick, the damage is already done. I do try to avoid large crowds of strangers whenever is reasonable but life has to go on really

Sorry I misunderstood, I thought your daughter had already caught the cold off her cousin.

Still, I think yabvu. Especially the slapped cheek thing, nhs website is very clear that contagion is before symptoms. They're actually not contagious once the rash appears.

I'm guessing your dd doesn't go to nursery? You are in for a big shock once she goes to school! Coughing and spluttering is an everyday thing there!

And wait till you discover real annoyances like headlice.