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To leave my DB’s house after 1 day?

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 20:17

For background: DB has a 4 year old, I have a 3 year old. Have travelled from London to European capital to be with his family and for the DCs to spend time together. This morning, my niece has woken up with streaming nose, sneezing, coughing, spluttering: literally a walking microbe 😂 I rebooked our tickets this morning and we’re flying out tonight (was originally meant to stay for 4 more days). Did I overreact?

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Sparkletastic · 08/04/2024 21:38

How...odd.

Axx · 08/04/2024 21:38

You know it'll be too late if she's going to catch it don't you?

Berlinlover · 08/04/2024 21:41

The hysterical overreaction to Covid had made people terrified of headcolds, that’s it in a nutshell.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 08/04/2024 21:42

Fucking hell this must be a joke?! If there was ever a PFB thread….. I’m hoping it’s a joke thread though - surely?! No one in their right mind would think this was normal?! SURELY.

Ilovelurchers · 08/04/2024 21:43

It's your life and (apart from the impact on the planet of all this flying to and fro) doesn't impact anybody else too much I guess - you say your brother isn't bothered - I would worry about the impact on your child tho, if you are going to make a habit of making these rash decisions in order to avoid minor germs. I don't think this is great for the little one who was presumably looking forward to their holiday?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 08/04/2024 21:45

Gymmum82 · 08/04/2024 21:01

Absolutely batshit. Also your kid will get sick the second you get home

100%

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 21:45

tennesseewhiskey1 · 08/04/2024 21:42

Fucking hell this must be a joke?! If there was ever a PFB thread….. I’m hoping it’s a joke thread though - surely?! No one in their right mind would think this was normal?! SURELY.

Not a joke. I was in two minds about it and you guys are definitely making me feel shitty. I know illness is a part of life but I do try to avoid it when I can ie: pulling DD away from a snotty child at soft play like last week. Guess I may have jumped the gun this time around, but there’s only so many sneezes you can take to the face before you’ve had enough lol

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 21:47

Ilovelurchers · 08/04/2024 21:43

It's your life and (apart from the impact on the planet of all this flying to and fro) doesn't impact anybody else too much I guess - you say your brother isn't bothered - I would worry about the impact on your child tho, if you are going to make a habit of making these rash decisions in order to avoid minor germs. I don't think this is great for the little one who was presumably looking forward to their holiday?

DD was disappointed to leave as was I. I would have made the flight back anyway, just made it earlier.

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LifeExperience · 08/04/2024 21:53

Viruses are contagious a few days before symptoms show, so you were already exposed before you left. You cut your vacation short for nothing.

Fiddlerdragon · 08/04/2024 21:57

What a horrible way to shit on a family members efforts. I’d have been so ashamed of myself if I pulled this on a relative after the effort they must have go to

Lighteningstrikes · 08/04/2024 22:01

A very extreme reaction.

Young kids pass germs around like wildfire and more often than not, there’s not a lot you can do about it.

On the positive side, your DC will be building up her immune system.

Crowgirl · 08/04/2024 22:03

Slap cheek is contagious before the rash shows. By the time you know you've got it you've already spread it.

AsphaltBeach · 08/04/2024 22:03

what a fabulous example to set to your kid. You’re in danger of raising a child with serious germ issues.
Oh, and chances are, child was contagious long before the symptoms started to show

ParsonsPont · 08/04/2024 22:07

I have a child where every time he’s caught a cold, we’ve needed a trip to A&E and he’s had several admissions as well as stays on the high dependency unit.

And even I wouldn’t have done that.

And in fact I haven’t. After driving 10 hours for us to see my in laws and his cousin arrived with a runny nose and cough, I just hoped for the best rather than jump in the car and drive back to London!

Bonkers!

Farnhamgallll · 08/04/2024 22:12

Kindly, please seek therapy for your phobia of the common cold.

ToxicChristmas · 08/04/2024 22:13

If you've been taking your kid to soft play no amount of grabbing her away from snotty kids will help. Those places are germ factories -snotty kids have sneezed and coughed and dribbled on everything. She's been crawling bare handed over play equipment and no doubt wiping her face and mouth.

MiltonNorthern · 08/04/2024 22:16

Do you have anxiety diagnosed by a medical professional? If not, perhaps it's time to discuss it with one. It's really not a normal thing to do. She's probably also got it already as the niece was contagious when you arrived.

caringcarer · 08/04/2024 22:23

thistimelastweek · 08/04/2024 20:21

Yup, you overreacted.

This. It's just a cold.

Crazycrazylady · 08/04/2024 22:29

Honestly this behaviour would concern me. It's nice your brother was kind but I guarantee you they discussed you afterwards as being incredibly over anxious .
You're going to find the school years tough if you don't get to grip with what ever this is.

WhamBamThankU · 08/04/2024 22:33

Are you super anxious about your child catching normal childhood illnesses? As this is very extreme.

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 22:34

Crazycrazylady · 08/04/2024 22:29

Honestly this behaviour would concern me. It's nice your brother was kind but I guarantee you they discussed you afterwards as being incredibly over anxious .
You're going to find the school years tough if you don't get to grip with what ever this is.

my daughter and I are out and about every day, she goes to preschool full time. There’s nothing germphobic about our life. But when there’s a visibly ill child who is constantly around yours and you have a chance to manage it, I think many would. That being said, I can be anxious and it’s something I’m working on. Perhaps this will be a learning curve. May just take all future trips with the caveat that she may get sick and suck it up.

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WhatTheFuk · 08/04/2024 22:35

I'm fairly covid-cautious (for good reason) but if you're willing to go to soft play, nursery, and travel by air (presumably without respirator masks), then I think your fears are misguided. Your child is just as likely to catch a bug in any of those places as from the cousin.

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 22:35

WhamBamThankU · 08/04/2024 22:33

Are you super anxious about your child catching normal childhood illnesses? As this is very extreme.

Not really. It someone I know is ill and coughing/ sneezing, I would reschedule with them. Otherwise, we go everywhere and do everything like normal people. She goes to preschool full time.

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 22:36

WhatTheFuk · 08/04/2024 22:35

I'm fairly covid-cautious (for good reason) but if you're willing to go to soft play, nursery, and travel by air (presumably without respirator masks), then I think your fears are misguided. Your child is just as likely to catch a bug in any of those places as from the cousin.

I agree with this. I just literally saw the sneezes going into my child’s face, the incessant coughs into her mouth etc and panicked. Think many mums would want to manage the situation but I agree, perhaps I acted rashly.

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SD1978 · 08/04/2024 22:37

Your kid was exposed before the symptoms started in the other kid. In a non immunocompromised child, yes, sorry, as pretty much everyone else has said you massively over reacted. I would not have cur shirt a trip based on this, but you did. I'm not sure what you though you were going to get from posting this on AIBU, except being asked if you have severe health anxiety and that you were, in fact, unreasonable