DD10 is an only child. I'm close friends with the parents of her two oldest friends. They have multiple children. I would say my household income is the highest out of the three of us, although we're not rich at all. One of the two friends will always make comments about how it's unfair DD gets "so much". It will come up in passing or she'll see me post a picture and she will message.This has been going on for years, since I was a single mum on benefits (she was as well), and I've finally hit a point where I'm a bit sick of it,
Previous complaints have included -
DD had a bigger bedroom than her girls (she doesn't in our current home)
We take DD for a weekend away on her birthday and she can't do that with her girls
When they were little it was that it was that DD had a party at a "better" soft play to her DD.
DD has her own Nintendo switch when her kids have to share one
It's not fair that I get "time off parenting" in the holidays because DD goes to her grandparents for a few days.
It's not fair I got to move to the southwest and she'll be stuck in the north forever
There have been loads more, but these are the ones that spring to mind.
AIBU to gently point out that it's not my problem that she chose to have two children and has to split her resources accordingly next time she does this?
Also, in case it's relevant - DH and I don't have more children for multiple reasons. We found out he is infertile a couple of years ago. DD is from a previous relationship, I had her in my late teens. Prior to finding out, DH and I decided we didn't want to explore having more children until we had bought a house and settled. We should hopefully buy in 12-18 months when we're in our early 30s, and then we'll explore fertility treatment if it's still something we want.