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Is it gross to fancy someone twenty years younger

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Hatethetermcougar · 11/02/2024 20:24

It feels ick to like someone that age, but I don’t feel my age (46)
Its only an actor, not anyone in real life, but still seems so young at 27 and not a crush I’d usually have
Eurgh it’s depressing, seems not long ago that all crushes were older or at least the same age

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Jungkook419 · 10/08/2026 03:33

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getthroughonemoreday · 10/08/2026 03:31

LOL. Love how everyone is just ignoring the fact that this old thread has been revived by a real life 'celebritie' who just happened to notice some fans chatting about him on Mumsnet. 😅

Delilah26 · 10/08/2026 03:09

It's always gross - male or female - to act on it. But you can have whatever thoughts you like, just keep them in your head.

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maxslice · 10/08/2026 02:56

A crush on an actor you don’t even know is fine, even if they are younger than you. Your fantasy is victimless and free.

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AmiablePedant · 07/06/2024 17:54

I'm a lady of advanced years, so my list of crushes spans the decades, and I treasure them dearly. My dear partner avers that if one doesn't get a spark of desire from time to time for unsuitable (or at least unavailable) people, one doesn't actually have a pulse. I will not give you the whole list, but it does include Alan Rickman, dead or alive, and Charles Dance and the significantly younger Benedict Cumberbatch.

fiddlesticksohyeah · 07/06/2024 11:01

SpringerFall · 07/06/2024 05:48

Well for a woman it appears to be OK, but if a man did it the police would be called

Can you imagine how that conversation would play out?

Hello, I'd like to report a crime. I'm a woman in her 50s who finds someone on the telly in his twenties attractive.

Hold on love, we're sending the SAS round right now. Grin

MustBeNapTime · 07/06/2024 07:45

SpringerFall · 07/06/2024 05:48

Well for a woman it appears to be OK, but if a man did it the police would be called

Eh? That's a silly thing to say isn't it? The police would be called if a man fancied a woman 19 years younger? What's the crime? There are lots of people who are dating or married (shock horror!) to people 19 years their junior nevermind just fancying them. I'm fairly sure the police wouldn't be interested that a 27 year old and a 46 year old had a thing.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 07/06/2024 06:23

If this was a man everyone would be disgusted but seems ok for a woman. My friend always fancies young men when we go out. I always say it's like her son's age. Yuck

Mummadeze · 07/06/2024 05:54

Leo Woodall is gorgeous so you are definitely not being unreasonable.

SpringerFall · 07/06/2024 05:48

Well for a woman it appears to be OK, but if a man did it the police would be called

Miriad · 07/06/2024 05:22

I fancy men 20 years younger and older than me. It’s not a big deal, I’m never even going to meet them in real life, and if I did fancy a real person in those age groups I wouldn’t act on it.

I also fancy men who aren’t that age any more, like I’ll fancy a 40yo in a movie but in real life maybe he’s 80 now, or maybe he’s dead.

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Mamai100 · 07/06/2024 04:15

I'm 42 and can't imagine fancying anyone more than 10 years younger.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it mind, but dating anyone 20 years younger is a bit ick.

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