Sister announces wedding just before mine

How is two months "months before"? (for all those saying Christmas is months before February) Im baffled.
I get why you are a bit narked op. I would be too. But your best bet I think is to ignore those feelings and carry on as planned.

Assuming here could be shared guests at both weddings, family members etc, I suspect they will think your sis has being unreasonable by laying it on so close. The cost etc

But she's prob got a cheap deal, a cancellation and decided to go for it.

Unless she actually said "I'm doing this to steal your thunder, I'm going to copy everything you do so you look like you copied us etc" - then YABU.

Two family weddings is a thing to celebrate.

Honestly OP I'd have thought the same as you before I organised my own.
Having gone through the process it's such a PITA that I'd not really consider anybody else's.

But then again 'stealing my thunder' isn't one of my thoughts, I'd have happily shared a wedding with one of my cousins but she got engaged a year after me :(

If it was 2 weeks before I would understand you feeling put out but 2 months? No, I think you are being a bit precious.

If she wants a winter wedding then might not want to have to wait another year. She may not even have considered you may be upset by this because there is such a gap.

No one cares about anyone’s wedding this much.
No one will think it as ’stealimg thunder’.
Mostly they will think (for those who are going to both) the money, time, effort they have to spend on, yet, another wedding.

Hmmm...I did this to my sister but she had a 3 year engagement/wait and I planned a year ahead. There was 3 months between the weddings. I didn't want to wait longer than a year and I didn't want a winter wedding. I felt bad. I knew my sister would never outwardly oppose my choice but I did worry that she would resent me.

Anyway, it had no impact on invite acceptances. We both had a lovely time wedding planning together in the build up. I think that as long as your sister's wedding has no impact on your guest attendance then it shouldn't be a problem. By that I mean, that you don't have family living in the US or something that might opt to come to your sister's wedding instead of yours for whatever reason etc.

I understand. You'll be told you're being unreasonable etc etc but yes, it's OK to feel a bit funny about it.

My brother got engaged before me and we were both planning weddings at the same time. I'd have liked a wedding at the time of year they picked but I chose a later date as I didn't want to tread on their toes. We all get on very well but I thought it was the right thing to do.

They're a couple of months apart, no one else will link them, other than may e from some of the relatives you only really see at weddings funerals etc, we had a wedding and a funeral in pretty quick succession last year, the wedding second and the only comments were around, nice to see you again so soon in happier circumstances.
The only reason I'd be annoyed is if people are traveling and might only travel for one because of distance, but it sounds like your invitations will have gone out before hers anyway.

What's the need to be "first"?
It's literally not a race, and if she's been married before then she already won it!

Seriously I don't see why it's better to go first? Or why you think that means she's trying to one up you? I am more likely the first one as a warm up for second

You'd probably have a point if it was a fortnight before yours and you know that a large number of the guest list would overlap.

But she's getting married months before you so you're being unreasonable.

So when would be acceptable?

Just before = a few weeks , not a couple of months and a different year .

YABU OP. If they wanted to save money they have very little choice to get it done soon-ish.

Winter weddings are the cheapest, Oct- Feb. March - April cost a bit more then that, then the summer months are full on wedding seasons everything shoots up in price and most vendors are fully booked!

Even April/May would be close to your wedding so you wouldn't be happy. Otherwise it's wait a whole year and personally as someone who hated wedding planning and just wanted the darn thing to hurry up and finish I CBA wait that long.

They've done it well just before Xmas rather than get any closer to you. I'd be HAPPY actually that this shows some consideration. If anything it's them that will get a smaller turnout.

Not bad for someone you deem 'showy and materialistic'.

Btw.. you know a small wedding doesn't necessarily mean 'less materialistic' right? You could have a small venue but buy loads of expensive themed things... especially if you use words like 'quaint' and 'rustic' to describe your wedding venue.

Or you could go for an all-inclusive package with all the standard deco included which can work out much cheaper, like a licensed restaurant.

I just do not see how this has any bearing on your wedding whatsoever. I definitely think yabu.

It wouldn't bother me but I suppose if your relationship is not great then I could understand not feeling too happy about it, 2 months difference is decent enough though.
I wouldn't say anything imo.

This

But it just made me feel a bit..funny?! Am I being stupid?

Funny how?

Are you worried that if people go to your sisters wedding first they’ll not want to attend another one a couple of months after?

Or are you worried that she’s materialistic and showy that you think hers is going to trump yours?

Either way, your entitled to have your wedding when you want and your sister is entitled to have her wedding she wants.

No one is going to steal anyone’s thunder. Like you say, you’re different types of people. You’ll have different weddings.

Life is too short to be upset about something like this. Very “first world problems”.

P.S. I know it's not a given but I would be prepared for a pregnancy announcement too. Often these follow quickly arranged weddings.

If anything people will be really annoying and spend a lot of her wedding asking people if they are going to your wedding.

She’ll do well organising a wedding this side of Christmas plus everyone will find it as big hassle at that time of year when there’s so many other things going on. And it’ll be quickly forgotten as everyone will immediately move on to Xmas.

It's not even the same year

But I get why you want your wedding first esp as she's been married before

But it's a small one

You may find as it's only 2mths notice some won't manage to make it esp around Xmas time

Sure you will have a lovely time

Our family had two weddings a fortnight apart because of an important overseas contingent - so closer than you and your sister. It didn't really matter to either couple. I can see it's a bit of a breathtaker of an announcement, but yours is two months later. I'd just wish her well as a pp has said, and crack on with your own lovely wedding. Congratulations BTW!

YABU it's months before yours!