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My boyfriend gets mad if we don’t have sex

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Poppy23xx · 03/08/2023 01:48

I have been with my partner coming up to 4 years, are sex life used to be really good multiple times daily. Obviously a lot has changed and life has got much busier over the years and due to this we tend to have sex around 3-4 times a week mostly due to busy life’s being tired and I’ve been prescribed 150mg of sertraline.

I haven’t been on any medication for a few days due to running out and waiting on my prescription due to this I’ve been feeling unwell. I’ve been feeling crappy for the past two days, today I haven’t been able get out of bed. As soon as he gets home from work he just wants my absolute attention he has to be constantly in my space which I don’t mind but when I’m not we’ll and I’m sweating one minute and cold the next the last thing I want to be doing is being cuddled. after about an hour of cuddling I moved away to sit up because I felt sick and I told him I just need my own space for a minute he then said to me that I never show him any intimacy I never let him touch me that I never touch him that we never do anything. I told him that we had literally been cuddling and I needed some space as i feel Ill and he laughed at me like yeah okay then you feel ill.

so after a couple of hours doing our own thing we was chilling again cuddling and watching tv. He’s then trying to make a move on me sexually which I told him I don’t want to do as I do not feel well. He then proceeded to push me of him he told me that im boring that I never want to do anything. He said that he is a man and a man has needs, he went on to accuse me of cheating and fucking someone else and told me that he is leaving tomorrow to find someone who’ll have sex with him when ever he wants.

well I got up out of bed and went downstairs to sleep on the sofa, he was continuing to shout me and kept coming downstairs waking me up. I told him I wanted to be left alone and he just kept coming in and turning the lights off. He makes a lot of jokes about our sex life to people he’ll say things like “you must be mad if you think I get touched” , “ mines not been used in ages”. But I really don’t understand because it’s not like we don’t ever have sex we do have sex. I’ll name the days when we last had sex and he’ll tell me that I’m lying and it’s been longer than that.

i Really don’t know what to do should I be having more sex with him. I do try to as much as I can but I am tired a lot of the time

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AndTheSurveySays · 03/08/2023 02:03

I depend on him for everything

You're an adult. You move out, claim benefits you're entitled to and / or get a job to pay your way.

You have agency and can improve your situation if you actually want to. Call the police if he threatens suicide or any other nonsense.

Treesinmygarden · 03/08/2023 02:02

Sod him, he won't commit suicide and if he did, that's on him!

You need to get rid of this shithog.

I wish I could knee him in the balls on your behalf!!

QuestionableMouse · 03/08/2023 02:01

He's a prick and his behaviour isn't going to get any better. Get out while you can.

Poppy23xx · 03/08/2023 02:01

He really doesn’t I’m the one sleeping on a sofa tonight whilst he is upstairs in bed sleeping sound asleep. Every time I do try to leave him he’ll come round to my house and harass me or cry suicide. I really do feel stuck at the moment.

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AndTheSurveySays · 03/08/2023 02:00

I bet if you left his pathetic arse you'd find yourself not needing medication.

Is staying with such a man what you really want from life? Imagine the next 50 years with such a guy..

Treesinmygarden · 03/08/2023 02:00

Good luck to him with getting all the sex he thinks he is entitled to.

He doesn't give a single shit about you, sorry! You need to move on x

Poppy23xx · 03/08/2023 01:58

I do feel really really crap I feel like I’m less of a woman because I can’t fulfill his needs but I am really struggling at the moment especially with my mental health I’m in the process of getting a medication change I’ve been so so depressed and he doesn’t even care. He’s more bothered about the sex, I do really want to go but I don’t even know where I would begin I have next to no one I depend on him for everything x

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spilltheteapot · 03/08/2023 01:58

this is an abusive relationship: he’s trying to guilt and coerce you into sex. Vile.

mrswaldron · 03/08/2023 01:56

Please get rid of him while he's still just a boyfriend. Anyone who thinks it's ok to behave in this way while you're feeling on top form, never mind when you're feeling unwell, does not deserve for you to give him the time of day. As for making comments to others about your sex life, how disrespectful. You don't owe him anything and you shouldn't feel like you have to have sex just to keep him happy. He sounds like a complete dickhead, get rid of him and find someone who is worthy of your attention. You might find your mental health improved once you get away from him! Good luck x

MicrowaveRice · 03/08/2023 01:56

BIN!!! He's a twat.

Stillamum3 · 03/08/2023 01:53

Never said it before, but LTB. He's selfish and doesn't care about you.

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