Kids screaming in garden next door!

A PP said re her children she “encourages them to laugh as loud as possible” Why? Just to be extra annoying and fuck everyone else? Kids need to be aware of their neighbours and to acknowledge the world doesn’t revolve around them. They need to be told to pipe down. I honestly don’t know who people think they are and why the fuck do the parents themselves want to hear it all. Bizarre

Why should my kids’ enjoyment impact others negatively though? It isn’t me doing me, it’s my family slotting into a civilised society and my children understanding that their enjoyment shouldn’t be at the expense of others.

We do actually have neighbours who don’t like the sound of kids playing. Unluckily for them, they live in a suburban area surrounded by families - who are all very considerate might I add. As long as my kids aren’t screeching, screaming and banging a ball constantly, my view is they should suck it up somewhat. I think that is a very balanced view. If they want silence then they are in the wrong area, and in fact I would argue their constant pressure washing and leaf blowing is probably more anti social (and worse for the environment).

My kids are now all grown up... next door has quite young kids (6 through to 12) and I like hearing them in the garden. I can see that long term screaming might get a bit on the nerves but generally I think it is a nice thing to hear kids playing in the garden and I am very happy to send the balls back when they come over. As an "empty nester" be aware that sometime soon you will have silence. I do not like silence.

Kids that age can play without screaming. Mine like to make a lot of noise but pipe down if i remember to tell them.

I wouldn't mind a neighbour saying something nice to them about not needing to scream when out in the garden.

Well said!

I have never allowed my children to screech in the garden. We live in a terrace and others want to enjoy the nice weather w/o my own children dominating the airwaves. It's just consideration. I'm not talking about playing and laughing, but screaming and shouting.

We had a party at my sister's house a few weeks ago. There were 6 kids. We all had fun on the swing ball, the trampoline, football etc, but 2 of the crowd were just too loud and their parents didn't do anything.

Where is the posts about people moaning about kids PLAYING and making noise in their own garden? I can't see any. Do you mean the people talking about kids screeching? How is that playing? People like you seem to forget that most of us are parents who take responsibility for our kids and teach them how to respect people's spaces. Then there's the likes of you...

I am slightly bemused by all the instructions to move.

You have to love MN and its extremes.

Any thread asking about luxury holidays, or spending a bonus on a nice handbag, is met by torrents of criticism about tone-deafness during a cost of living crisis etc.

Yet people are also simultaneously expected to have the means to be able to up and move to a detached house in acres of rural landscape with no immediate neighbours.

Have you tried closing the kitchen door? 😬

We have screamy children next door. I haven't said anything as their Mum is very nice and they are genuinely lovely, polite and friendly children. They just get carried away when playing and are prone to absolutely ear-splitting shrieking (which you can hear through closed windows). As in, help-I'm-being-murdered type screaming.

However we have grinned and bore it because she is otherwise a very good neighbour and with each year that passes, the kids get a little less deafening! I like hearing them playing, it would be lovely if it could be without screaming. But it won't be forever.

And this sums up the attitude of selfish neighbours. It's my house, my garden, so to hell with everyone living around. I'll do what I like.

If it wasn't for this family being mainly girls, I'd think you may have lived near one set of my ILS.

They didn't have a year-round bouncy castle (just 3 months one year, so it could be used for 2 of their children's birthday parties), but a lot of the rest applies. They had a house in a 0.5 acre plot on the edge of a village, but on a quiet day you could hear the screaming on the other side of the village. They also had very bright garden lighting so that they could play outside until late in the evening. But they were "just being children", and ILs wouldn't make any effort to get them to quieten down, even when the vicar approached them because the noise was disturbing weddings and funerals. Any suggestion from the family that they might actually be incredibly noisy and that their neighbours might have a point is dismissed out of hand.

They pissed off so many people that when their kids started at the village school, they rarely got invited to play dates and few kids accepted their invitations, and there was such a lot of opposition to their extension proposals that it took several years and a huge amount of money before they finally got planning permission.

They moved from there 8 years ago, but still go on about how vile that village is, and how vindictive, unfriendly and up themselves the people are. They are utterly lacking in self-awareness and consideration for others.

I completely understand where you are coming from OP.
We have really really loud kids next door too. 3 of them ages 6 4 and 3 , and all they do it scream, fight, cry, kill each other, shout etc. I work from home and I dread the summer months.
Someone mentioned close your door. In the heat of summer I have leave my windows closed and I can STILL hear them.

I get that kids are kids but I believe it is really bad parenting as the kids on the other side of me play normally and yes they make noise but normal kid noise. The noisy kids are an another level altogether. Their father is really loud too and kicks the football against the wall for hours.

So much so that we have decided to put our house on the marker or rent it out and buy somewhere smaller with no neighbours.

This is prob very outing now that I think about it but feck it, maybe they should know how bloody loud their kids are and how they have zero self awareness.

Move away from other people then

Mumsnet is honestly crackers. People moaning about kids playing and making noise in their own garden and its height of bad manners, terrible parenting etc. Yet start a thread about children and babies in pubs and restaurants and its all 'they are just children, entitled to eat out, of course they make noise they are children, you don't see this in the med, children are welcome everywhere etc etc'. 😂

Grand children next door...little one about 3 is screeching away and they're singing their little hearts out.
It's quiet where we live so I love the noise and am happy that the weather is good enough for them to play out.

This is a miserable comment. Close your door or move!

After years of MN and RL hyperbole I don't especially trust people's descriptions of childrens' noise any more. I have heard everything from conversation to laughter and singing described as 'screaming' and 'screeching'.

It is half term. On Monday they will be back in school. It is a good thing that the children are outside and not in front of screens. As long as the noise is restricted to sociable hours then YABU.

Time to play something rude on your outdoor speakers-WAP? Je t’aime? only joking!

@thelinkisdead there's being considerate and allowing your kids to talk loudly 'at times'

Bit harsh my in my opinion but as I've said, each to their own. You do you.

@theemmadilemma I haven't made any stupid assumptions unlike you.

The poster specifically said absolutely no screaming is allowed in their house and that talking loudly 'at times' is fine. 'Talking loudly' is alright now & again? Each to their own but IME that sounds harsh, especially when they're in the own house/garden, hence my 'poor kids' response.

One can always spot the parent-type who allows this to happen.

We have neighbours children on both sides of us. On One side are three brothers who play out all day long, when they are not at school. They play together quite happily the majority of the time. I love to hear their happy voices and laughter. Even the thump of footballs is preferable to what we hear from the other neighbours!
On the other side are two children who scream and cry all day long. The screaming is intolerable and incessant. I can’t imagine why they are such difficult children. Their parents are lovely neighbours but seem clueless when it comes to helping their children play happily. The children are very pleasant when they aren’t at home. They come and bake cakes with me and are no problem when I baby sit occasionally.
We are thinking of moving.

I do parent my kids thank you, get off your high horse. When they’ve got the slip and slide or paddling pool out they’re louder. Of course we tell them to keep the noise down but noisy plays makes noise. Kids can play in their own garden and make noise.

Welcome to terraced living!!

I live on a family housing estate so there are always kids out. It doesn't bother me, they're just kids having fun. What does bother me is next door's dog whining and squealing to be let in, constantly.

It really, isn't the way it is. It's the way you parent, many cba to tell them to turn it down a bit.

Kids very able to play happily without disturbing neighbours. Try it, go on.