Kids screaming in garden next door!

She didnt say they had screamed/shrieked, she just said they had played happily and loudly-
She used shrieking at the end of her post as if she expected it at a future point.
Even if they do shriek on occasion, I do not see the problem, they are children and it's to be expected. If they can't shriek on their own back garden on occasion, which it's clear this is, then where can they? Perhaps they don't live near forests/fields/beaches where they can let of steam and the gardens all they've got- why can't an adult just suck it up, why is it always the child that has to.

YANBU, but I don't think you can really say anything without offending the parents. Hopefully at some stage the parents will get fed up of listening to it!

I have a 7yo and 5yo and I tell them off for screaming. No one wants to hear that, me included! Normal playing, chatting, giggling, goodness knows what else fine, but screaming and shrieking isn't neccessary. I also had to have a quick conversation around "we don't under any circumstances comment on what is on the neighbour's washing line guys, it's a bit rude" earlier today when they started shouting about next door's knickers - cringe!

All fine, but not the point. Screaming, literally screaming their heads off, not really what you're ok is saying. Is it?

Yes my kid does on occasion shriek with delight while being chased around the the garden by her friends/dad/aunty- frankly I would be concerned if she did not, and unless she was screaming all day long at unearthly hours I would not stop her. Children have a right to play outside and enjoy life and i think complaining about some kids playing 'happily and loudly' five times during the three months we've already had of spring/summer is unreasonable.
Yes I was bought up to be respectful of elders but I also believe that we should be respectful to children, treat them as the humans they are- the humans we share this earth with- if there's only been five occasions in which they've made a noise, OP has had her time to enjoy her peace so should live and let live.

But you're 'experience' isn't the same as the OPs. You just described a perfectly normal, boring day that some of us have with our neighbours, while the kids play. You clearly don't have shrieking kids next door so...unless your kids are the shriekers? Are they?

Oh Dino...what a wanker you are. Feel free to report my comment. That wouldn't bother me at all.😂

And as an adult, I believe there are times to be considerate to children.

OP asked if she was being unreasonable, based on my experience of both having children and neighbours and their reaction- I think she is.

That wouldn't bother me at all. You are entitled to play music in your garden. My children know some words are "rude words" and for adults only. In fact, we sometimes play music with explicit lyrics in anyway, so this wouldn't deter us in the slightest. Although, loud music could be a noise abatement issue with the council, where as children playing isn't.

Not poor kids at all! We were brought up the same way - to be considerate of our neighbours-

But OP says she really likes the children’s parents. Presumably they are otherwise nice neighbours!

And another poster describing a normal day with kids...and having a nice neighbour😂Wtf does that have to do with the OPs post?

You'd find them learning all the explicit lyrics to the foulest music I could find if you did that to us.

You're serious that a polite request to ask them to not shout/scream would be met by petty revenge? No wonder people think some parents are entitled twats is it!

The kids feel comfortable as its in their own home so they do tend to let go a bit and will probably be louder then when out and about and at school. Excessive screaming is different though you just have to access what category they fall into and act appropriately.

Wtf is going on with this thread? Why are people blatantly ignoring what the actual thread is about. This poster here has described nearly every street/estate in summer that we all live on...of course we fucking know we'll hear all that noise, we'll even be the ones making some of that noise. Total silence? 😂What the hell are you talking about? Have you even read the thread or just jumped straight in on defence mode because you're are one of those parents with shrieking kids?

I don't think you understand what this thread's about. Most of us have kids who play out and can be quite noisy, that's normal for children. It's the ones who shriek and scream and the parents do nothing about it that people are having problems with. Do you not know the difference?

I know right. I don’t even have kids but I find this attitude miserable. Only in Britain.

Mumsnet - "How can I solve a problem I have with someone without speaking to them? Can't I just magic it away without them knowing?"

Yeah but these children aren't screaming for someone, they're playing loudly.

It is a huge school though. 4 classes per year. I actually just had a look on the Gov.uk schools service - 810 pupils on the school roll but a capacity of 914!

No, it's about 50m away. There are 800 of them, however... so I think it all washes out.

Well I actually said they can play how they like.

Wow, my neighbour buys my child toys to play with in the garden, while we have a coffee- she's happy to hear her& her friends having fun. She is kind to us and helps us out and vice versa.
I'm pretty glad to have her and not you, grumbling on about the five measly times you've been disturbed by your poor neighbours children actually enjoying their lives.

So the mumsnet definition of a shit parent nowadays is someone who's kids play in the garden and can be "quite loud"

AS IF your kids don't. All this site seems to be nowadays is people out- nastying each other it's really tedious isn't it.

None of us were there so none of us can tell how unreasonable the noise level was.

But on the face of it, it wasn’t a reasonable time of day. It’s presumably only school holidays and weekends. You really like the parents - which presumably means they’re otherwise good neighbours? Having good neighbours and maintaining a cordial relationship with them is so important.

Based on what you’ve told us I think I’d suck it up and wouldn’t jeopardise a relationship with an otherwise pleasant neighbour over it. There’s far worse noise out there than happy children playing in the middle of the day in school holidays. And you never know when you might need them to be understanding of you.

But only you know whether you can tolerate it.

Tell us you're a shit parent without saying you're a shit parent...