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To relocate from the south east up north??

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BadgerLovesMash · 05/03/2023 09:35

Just to start I have never moved away from where I grew up so this would be huge!! But now after having our landlord decide to sell our home again (5th time in 12 years this has happened to us!) We are seriously considering moving somewhere cheaper. But some things making me wonder whether we should.

We currently live just outside of Brighton so are very used to easy and cheap public transport which is vital as we don't drive.

Our daughters are 14 and 10, so 1 heading into GCSE years and the other just about to start secondary school.

We have a good support network of friends and family here. All the girls friends are here.

However we are both on minimum wage. DH works for a company that would let him change locations. I work in childcare so could find another job in that field (I was looking to change anyway as no longer need term time once dd2 starts secondary and theres no chance of increased hours where i am) so financially we would be significantly better off.

For reference our current rent for a 3 bed is £1500 per month and this is cheap, others in this area are closer to £1800. I was looking at Grimsby and for a similar sized 3 bed it is £515. But that is 5hrs on the train from here!

So has anyone done this and what are the pros and cons?

Oh and this is all quite outing if you know me! 🤣

OP posts:
bellswithwhistles · 05/03/2023 22:00

If you're thinking NE, I'd be thinking more Hull way - Hessle, Nottingham, Anlaby, all nice areas (and it's not grim in Hull despite what people say!)

Very cheap living and Hull is a great night out! i lived in Hull for 6 years, did sixth form there. Really miss it tbh and would move back n in a heartbeat. Beverley is also fab and in your budget.

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/132193343#/?channel=RES_LET

Justforlaffs · 05/03/2023 21:46

Goldenbear

I saw The Fresh Prince aka Will Smith and Jazzy Jeff, and The Strokes (all the way from New York) amongst others, perform at an open air concert in Blackpool a few years back - beat that 🙌 🎤

Listen, I bloody love Blackpool for what it is - and Brighton - but I wouldn’t want to live in either places 🤷‍♀️

WalkinginNemphis2 · 05/03/2023 21:45

I think it might hard on your eldest though maybe wait until post GCSE and think about college up North.

WalkinginNemphis2 · 05/03/2023 21:43

Oh christ not Grimsby! Said as a northerner, man alive no, nowhere on the Lincolnshire Coast. Just no.

It’s not much cooler with global warming, probably really quite pleasant comparison but Manchester/Liverpool and West Yorkshire are very wet.

Parts of East Yorkshire are really nice and cheap. Doncaster area…..surprisingly lots of leafy villages and access to countryside not sure about schools as we’ve lived elsewhere since having DC but they normally follow don’t they. Doncaster is on the East Coast mainline so 1hr 45 mins is it (might be slightly less actually to KX).

NorthStarRising · 05/03/2023 21:40

Oh dahling, sounds so delightful

It is. I’ve just had the Festival guide come through for this year.
And although minimum wage in the SE is tough, there’s a lot of fantastic stuff that’s free down here, especially for children.

havetochangethis · 05/03/2023 21:37

How about Driffield? Good schools and a nice market town where you could get this for £750 www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/85975842#/?channel=RES_LET

NattyNamechanger · 05/03/2023 21:37

userxx · 05/03/2023 21:35

@NeshNamechanger 🤣 that's more like it.

It's such a great word!

userxx · 05/03/2023 21:35

@NeshNamechanger 🤣 that's more like it.

catfunk · 05/03/2023 21:32

Op is there any way you can both increase your income by applying for new jobs and changing jobs for a better salary every once in a while as you get more experience ?

Both on min wage in the south east is always going to be very difficult!

NeshNamechanger · 05/03/2023 21:27

NattyNamechanger · 05/03/2023 21:05

Guilty! 😂

Hopefully now I've changed my name people will stop telling me it's not cold when it's bloody freezing 😆

Theyresexpeoplemn · 05/03/2023 21:08

Op. You sound lovely and I wish you well in whatever you decide. Being happy and in a loving family is far more important than social climbing. Despite whatever Hyacinth Bucket says. 😉

NattyNamechanger · 05/03/2023 21:05

userxx · 05/03/2023 20:43

@NattyNamechanger You're one of those nesh types.

Guilty! 😂

Callmenat · 05/03/2023 21:05

Goldenbear · 05/03/2023 21:01

Justforlaffs, 'Blackpool of the south', yes of course it is, reflected in the comparative price to live here?! It is literally London prices by the sea! Well 'proper Brighton' is. Last minute my DH and I went to the comedy night with Ed Gamble, Ivo Graham, etcbasically TV comedians all in one venue for the night, last summer we walked 5 minutes to our local park and it was a comedy festival with similar names. We made the decision at 5.30 and it started at 7.30 just because we can and it is Brighton. Are you seriously suggesting that is akin to the offerings of Blackpool!

Oh dahling, sounds so delightful

Goldenbear · 05/03/2023 21:02

This was last night and we were bored.

Goldenbear · 05/03/2023 21:01

Justforlaffs, 'Blackpool of the south', yes of course it is, reflected in the comparative price to live here?! It is literally London prices by the sea! Well 'proper Brighton' is. Last minute my DH and I went to the comedy night with Ed Gamble, Ivo Graham, etcbasically TV comedians all in one venue for the night, last summer we walked 5 minutes to our local park and it was a comedy festival with similar names. We made the decision at 5.30 and it started at 7.30 just because we can and it is Brighton. Are you seriously suggesting that is akin to the offerings of Blackpool!

RoseThornside · 05/03/2023 20:54

Newark, Nottinghamshire? Train to London from Newark Northgate takes 1hr 15mins. Easy to get to Newark, Lincoln etc for work. Cheap housing. Newark itself is actually a really nice market town.

x2boys · 05/03/2023 20:43

chopc · 05/03/2023 20:32

@BadgerLovesMash I am sorry to have offended you. I don't think you will understand where I am coming from as our worlds are very different.

You haven't experienced most of what life has to offer. I get you are happy with your lot as you don't know any better. And I understand a lot of people who are better off would prefer your life full of a supportive network etc.

However to me, it's so important to have choice. You don't have choice in life. If you are choosing not to travel that's fine. But you don't have that choice. This is just an example.

Your attitude is one of the reasons for lack of social mobility in the UK. Yes you will be angry when reading this and again, I am sorry to have offended you.

You really are very rude and it's totally unnecessary.

cassiatwenty · 05/03/2023 20:43

Watching like a hawk

userxx · 05/03/2023 20:43

@NattyNamechanger You're one of those nesh types.

Luckylau · 05/03/2023 20:42

Hi just wanted say I think the fact that someone who works on catering and childcare- both occupations in short supply in this country cant find secure rental accomodation says more about the complete failure of the country's housing market than you and your partner jobs. But if you could move someone slightly cheaper nearby and make it work then it is probably the way forward.

Callmenat · 05/03/2023 20:41

boredbored15 · 05/03/2023 19:46

Unfortunately this is true - I was told this by former colleagues. Apparently the trainers hanging over the telephone lines is also apparently a signal

Why would dealer's use fireworks and trainers over telephone lines to communicate. Wouldn't they use Whatssap or something? Genuinely interested in the reasons.

NattyNamechanger · 05/03/2023 20:40

x2boys · 05/03/2023 20:26

You are wrong the North is a big place maybe you were in some tiny little arctic bubble but I can assure you we have spring and summer just like the South .

I was in the NE.
I didn't say there wasn't Spring or Summer it just didn't compare to where I live now.
So much rain and much colder.
Mind you people would rip their tops off at 18 degrees 😂and I would be in a jumper !

I feel so much better living here ☀

ImSoShiney · 05/03/2023 20:37

Please don't do that to your kids, Hold off till they've finished secondary school

Callmenat · 05/03/2023 20:36

RampantIvy · 05/03/2023 15:27

I really feel the cold, so while it may be bullshit for you it isn't for me.

The bullshit is that you think it's significantly different.

PurpleFlower1983 · 05/03/2023 20:36

I would 100% do it but not to Grimsby. Leeds would be a good fit, good public transport and easy, regular trains to the London.