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To be angry over a name

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Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 19:55

My baby is 6 months old and we named her a very uncommon name that was special to us. Recently we met an old friend of my husband's, they are still in the same circle but not close friends anymore. He asked us the usual questions about a new baby including her name. He and his partner had a baby in the last few days and called their baby our daughters name.
He did not mention anything about her name when we told them it and I am feeling irrationally angry that they have used our daughters name.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 22/01/2023 20:47

This happened to me when I was trying to create an email account. In tbe end I had to add a number to the end.

It seems that it was not the first time this had happened, in fact I am number 87!

Could you do something similar to create a unique name?

MichelleScarn · 22/01/2023 20:46

Renlea · 22/01/2023 20:45

Erm....cough cough. Check out my username!!

I'm not happy with you OP. You've used my name.

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Renlea · 22/01/2023 20:45

Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 20:20

Her name is Renlea after her two grandmothers. Half of each name.

Erm....cough cough. Check out my username!!

I'm not happy with you OP. You've used my name.

BellePeppa · 22/01/2023 20:44

Oysterbabe · 22/01/2023 19:59

Yabu. You didn't invent the name.

Even if she did she still can’t stop others using it.

It must be annoying but you’ve got to let it go as there’s nothing you can do about it. In a couple of years there might be lots of them if others like the name too.

Businessflake · 22/01/2023 20:42

TheYearOfSmallThings · 22/01/2023 20:30

This is clearly made up because nobody would call a child that, let alone two families.

Ha that’s what I thought!

MajorCarolDanvers · 22/01/2023 20:41

I am feeling irrationally angry that they have used our daughters name

You are correct - it is irrational

2023WeAllNeedToTalk · 22/01/2023 20:41

I’m waiting for ‘what do you all think about the name Renlea?’to appear on the baby names pages 😂

MarchingBand · 22/01/2023 20:40

ThirtyThreeTrees · 22/01/2023 20:37

I hate to be the one to break to you but there are 8 Renlea's on Facebook.

Yep, I found at least 6.

Reugny · 22/01/2023 20:39

Tiani4 · 22/01/2023 20:27

Sorry cross posted
Renlea

Yeah that's not even a name
They completely copied your new baby's name
W>>kers

It is a name.

It is US in origin. It means beautiful, powerful, kind heart.

cheeseandquackerz · 22/01/2023 20:39

Completely irrational I’m afraid, you need to get over this before you think about it too much and you drive yourself mad. You are being completely illogical.

ThirtyThreeTrees · 22/01/2023 20:37

I hate to be the one to break to you but there are 8 Renlea's on Facebook.

Mangogogogo · 22/01/2023 20:37

Renly is a game of thrones character! (Just cos someone mentioned it)

op my kids both have names native to my family’s country and yet still!! My son started preschool and I took my newborn daughter and a lady walked up with her 3 year old and asked me what I’d called her.. when I told her she looked at me like I was taking the piss and introduced her 3 year old with the same name!

then my daughter started school many years later and I met a mum with a boy the same age as mine with the same name. It just happens and it isn’t a big deal at all. ‘Uncommon’ names are just as attractive to other parents as they are to you

PuppyIsGreat · 22/01/2023 20:37

A friend of mine named her daughter the same name as my name, and her other daughter the same name as my sibling. I don't think it was on purpose, she just likes the names. I'm not angry, actually I'm really pleased :) They r only names! Feel flattered! You'd never ever name a child the same name as someone you didn't like, or their children's names.

Businessflake · 22/01/2023 20:37

Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 20:06

I know I can not "own" a name but we live in a small town, anyone who has ever asked her name has always responded with oh I've never heard that before or the likes. Maybe I am being unreasonable, probably because my baby is only 6 months old and someone else is already using the name.

They’re not that close if your DD has got to 6 months before you’ve even told them her name.

Fluffluff · 22/01/2023 20:37

You can't change this situation so don't worry.
It's a compliment

PaulRobinsonsSeventhWife · 22/01/2023 20:36

How very dare they. Speak to your lawyer first thing tomorrow morning.

Harrysmummy246 · 22/01/2023 20:35

DH cousin has named their second Ds same name as ours. Special to the family. What's more strange is both his wife and I have the same name too

Sleepless1096 · 22/01/2023 20:35

At least you know they really actually liked it and weren't just being polite. Makes a change from all the insincere "what a lovely and... unique... name" comments you generally get if you name your child something a bit out there, when really the person you're speaking to is thinking "wtf...poor bubba".

TrentCrimm · 22/01/2023 20:34

It sounds a bit like a lactose free cheese.

2023WeAllNeedToTalk · 22/01/2023 20:33

I understand how you feel, it’s annoying when you have an unusual name for your child and it’s copied.
However, now you have written the name on mumsnet there may end up being a lot more Renlea in the world!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 22/01/2023 20:33

It will legitimise your choice. Maybe they’d been combing the 1940 US census.

NextPrimeMinister · 22/01/2023 20:32

MichelleScarn · 22/01/2023 19:58

Is it Balonz?

Still makes me laugh every time. 😆

MichelleScarn · 22/01/2023 20:31

It's been about since at least 1940....

To be angry over a name
To be angry over a name
TolkiensFallow · 22/01/2023 20:31

Yeah…given the made up name you can feel copied.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 22/01/2023 20:30

This is clearly made up because nobody would call a child that, let alone two families.