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To be angry over a name

264 replies

Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 19:55

My baby is 6 months old and we named her a very uncommon name that was special to us. Recently we met an old friend of my husband's, they are still in the same circle but not close friends anymore. He asked us the usual questions about a new baby including her name. He and his partner had a baby in the last few days and called their baby our daughters name.
He did not mention anything about her name when we told them it and I am feeling irrationally angry that they have used our daughters name.

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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/01/2023 21:24

@porpy 😂

pinkpotatoez · 22/01/2023 21:24

How rare are we talking?

ShirleyPhallus · 22/01/2023 21:24

porpy · 22/01/2023 21:22

My nans are Valerie and Gina so I’m glad my mum didn’t use that naming method :/

my granddads are named Peter and Dennis

Starlitestarbright · 22/01/2023 21:23

You basically copied twilight with the renesmee. It doesn't sound right to me but each to their own.

porpy · 22/01/2023 21:22

My nans are Valerie and Gina so I’m glad my mum didn’t use that naming method :/

TheOnlyKoiInAPondOfGoldfish · 22/01/2023 21:21

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 22/01/2023 20:07

I had similar. Women in small village baby & toddler group named her son the same name as my 2y.o. She heard his name and liked it. I was well chuffed.

I have the same (not very common) name as my parent's best friends' daughter. they loved her name and chose the same one for me - she's less than a year older than me. (we are both in our late 60's)

No one was ever confused about whose daughter was who - and went I went to secondary school there was ONE other girl with the same name. We were in the same class too, for the whole of secondary school. No one ever confused us either. It's still MY name.

2chocolateoranges · 22/01/2023 21:18

Since it’s an unusual name then it would piss me off too,

however they will continually get oh that’s the same as @Barbie46 daughter.

we had the same with our eldest, we named him a slightly usual name and then only 4 weeks later another person in our village named their son the same name and the gran of the other child was saying to MiL that she would have been rich if she had £1 for every person who said oh that’s the same as @2chocolateoranges son.

Squirma · 22/01/2023 21:18

Wren is a very popular name at the moment. Is it spelt the same as yours?

Maireas · 22/01/2023 21:17

Anyone else remember Brookside and Casa Bevron?

Bethany7 · 22/01/2023 21:16

own not knows I meant!

RenleaTheFirst · 22/01/2023 21:16

mozzachester · 22/01/2023 21:16

@NoImRenlea

Im Renlea and so is my wife!

Hmmmm. Imposters.

mozzachester · 22/01/2023 21:16

@NoImRenlea

Im Renlea and so is my wife!

Bethany7 · 22/01/2023 21:16

Yes no one knows a name etc but I am with you on this O.P!
You created this lovely name based on family. They clearly copied you. But let it go because everyone in your town will know you created it first and also what can they say if someone asks about their child's lovely unusual name. You have a lovely story to tell, what can they say?!
It's annoying but don't worry now anymore.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 22/01/2023 21:15

Check out my username!!

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lifeinthehills · 22/01/2023 21:14

In the context of where the name Renlea came from, it's a bit of a weird copy. I generally do agree with no-one owns a name, but that is a little weird still.

However, names come from somewhere and maybe you've just invented a name that will spread further, OP?

IAmAlreadyRegrettingMyGreyColourScheme · 22/01/2023 21:14

Oh no! You have every right to be miffed considering its such an unusual name youve thought up with special meaning for your daughter. You may need to put a bit of thought into this and make sure they're in different schools to each other or you'll be constantly reminded.
I'd avoid them like the plague moving forward. They sound very odd.

NoImRenlea · 22/01/2023 21:13

Renlea · 22/01/2023 20:45

Erm....cough cough. Check out my username!!

I'm not happy with you OP. You've used my name.

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Ummmm well this is awkward…..

LemonSwan · 22/01/2023 21:13

Gosh pretty embarrassing for them! Cringe 😬

mozzachester · 22/01/2023 21:13

Oh lord, I was thinking please don't let it be Renesmee!

Judgyjudgy · 22/01/2023 21:12

Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 20:06

I know I can not "own" a name but we live in a small town, anyone who has ever asked her name has always responded with oh I've never heard that before or the likes. Maybe I am being unreasonable, probably because my baby is only 6 months old and someone else is already using the name.

OK well that makes more sense. Unfortunately not much you can do, do I'd just try and take it as a compliment

Mumuser124 · 22/01/2023 21:12

It is sort of a bit disrespectful.

bowlingalleyblues · 22/01/2023 21:12

When people ask ‘why did you pick the name’ all they can say is ‘I just liked it copied it off someone else because I have no imagination or soul’ but you’ll be able to tell your child about all the special meaning behind the name.

Mumuser124 · 22/01/2023 21:12

I normally never comment on threads like this as I feel nobody has the right to a name but then I saw she was called ‘Renlea’.

They have definitely copied and it’s quite embarrassing actually. I’m not sure I’d be speaking to them again as it’s very odd that they have used you particular unusual name.

BarryKentPoet · 22/01/2023 21:12

lifeinthehills · 22/01/2023 21:11

Ofred could work. Oh dear.

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Under his eye!

Calphurnia88 · 22/01/2023 21:11

I was ready to think YABU because you'd chosen a name you thought was unique but is actually really popular (e.g. Ophelia) but the fact its a made up combination of your grandparents names does make this pretty weird.

I would find this odd 😕