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To be angry over a name

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Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 19:55

My baby is 6 months old and we named her a very uncommon name that was special to us. Recently we met an old friend of my husband's, they are still in the same circle but not close friends anymore. He asked us the usual questions about a new baby including her name. He and his partner had a baby in the last few days and called their baby our daughters name.
He did not mention anything about her name when we told them it and I am feeling irrationally angry that they have used our daughters name.

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Jellybean23 · 22/01/2023 23:12

Unusual names and street parking spaces - no one owns them. Your baby is no less wonderful because someone else has the name.

Mari9999 · 22/01/2023 23:02

I think that you are being a bit absurd about the name. You do not own a name. There are few names that are so unique that no one else has that name.

Do you think that they should have asked your permission to use something that did not actually belong to you?

How exactly do you think that this is going to in anyway impact your daughter?

Much ado about very little!

Ncgirlseriously · 22/01/2023 22:58

I’d just laugh it off and say clearly you’ve started a trend. My kid has a quite common name though, so I’m not fussed about that sort of thing.

Though it’s an interesting game to play to see what name your kid would have if you mashed together your grandmothers names, it would have been Hara or Vezal for us, neither of which is particularly catchy!

OnLockdown · 22/01/2023 22:53

Oops, nice ring to it.

OnLockdown · 22/01/2023 22:52

I would be Rutene (Ruth and Irene), which has got quite a nice ring too it.

AssumingDirectControl · 22/01/2023 22:52

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/01/2023 22:48

If that was me, I’d be Lyngary, or knickers.

Was Gary his full name? You aren't allowed to use the full name - only part of it, so surely you'd be Lyngar.

Then, when your parents announced your name to everybody after you were born, they'd all be responding (in their best Irish accents) "Did you have to, did you have to, did you have to?!"

😂

Permanent ear worm.

AliceOlive · 22/01/2023 22:51

Reugny · 22/01/2023 22:36

MaryMary

"Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just want to praise you..."

(Sorry!)

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I was thinking Mary Mary, why ya buggin’

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/01/2023 22:50

It could be an old Surrey name?

Astonishing how many men of grandfather age there are in Surrey called Balthazar and Onzlow.

Theunamedcat · 22/01/2023 22:49

We had this I was irrationally pissed we named our son after two grandfathers dh stepbrother used the same names just reversed them then I realised stepdads golden boy named his son after his father's wife's first father in law and a man he had never met soooo fucking stupid 🙄 they arnt even rare names just family names 😂 not his family though

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/01/2023 22:48

If that was me, I’d be Lyngary, or knickers.

Was Gary his full name? You aren't allowed to use the full name - only part of it, so surely you'd be Lyngar.

Then, when your parents announced your name to everybody after you were born, they'd all be responding (in their best Irish accents) "Did you have to, did you have to, did you have to?!"

mathanxiety · 22/01/2023 22:47

It could be an old Surrey name?

AssumingDirectControl · 22/01/2023 22:44

ShandaLear · 22/01/2023 20:59

I always felt sorry for the actress Malandra Burrows. She was named after her dad, Malcolm, and her mum, Sandra. I

In your case, they clearly liked it so much they named their own baby after yours. That’s kind of cute.

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If that was me, I’d be Lyngary, or knickers.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/01/2023 22:44

My Grandads were called Bogdan and Rollo.

TrentCrimm · 22/01/2023 22:39

Tbf we named our firstborn after both our grandmothers.

Grannanny is 24 now, never met another in any of his classes at school, college or Uni.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/01/2023 22:37

I can't get it out of my head hearing Scooby-Doo tell you where he went to the regatta.

This (kind of) reminds me of the old thread about the woman who called her baby Farah and was furious to hear another woman in the local shop had called her baby the same, as she (the first mum) was convinced that she'd invented it.

iLovee · 22/01/2023 22:37

@HedgeWench Renley is his younger brother! But I also thought of Game of Thrones 😂

Reugny · 22/01/2023 22:36

AliceOlive · 22/01/2023 22:14

Both of my grandmothers were Mary. Does that make me MaryMary or MarMar?

MaryMary

"Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just want to praise you..."

(Sorry!)

StalkedByASpider · 22/01/2023 22:36

AliceOlive · 22/01/2023 22:14

Both of my grandmothers were Mary. Does that make me MaryMary or MarMar?

You could always take one half of the name from one, and the other half from the other.

Grandma 1 - Ma
Grandma 2 - ry

Result = Mary

Oh. Wait....

Neededanewuserhandle · 22/01/2023 22:35

MichelleScarn · 22/01/2023 19:58

Is it Balonz?

No it's 19383537273474537%%%%%7

alchemies · 22/01/2023 22:33

Jenasaurus · 22/01/2023 21:07

Just been working out what my 3 would be called.

DS 1 - So combo of Oliver and Fred = Olifred
DS 2 - Comb of Robert and John = robjoh
DD 1 - Combo of Amy and Nellie = Amynel

Quite like Olifred. almost sounds like a real name

Now my own DC have to name their first born Jenrow if a girl or Davhar if a boy

*Just been working out what my 3 would be called.

DS 1 - So combo of Oliver and Fred = Olifred
DS 2 - Comb of Robert and John = robjoh
DD 1 - Combo of Amy and Nellie = Amynel

Quite like Olifred. almost sounds like a real name

Now my own DC have to name their first born Jenrow if a girl or Davhar if a boy*

2 would be Jobert or Rohn/Ron

DD would be Namy

AliceOlive · 22/01/2023 22:32

Barbie46 · 22/01/2023 20:57

In a room full of mutual friends, "oh did you hear x and x had their baby and called her Renlea too ?"

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How did you respond?

How weird to take such a personal name and use it!

Floralnomad · 22/01/2023 22:31

If it’s so important to you to be unique change your babys name to Neelea .

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 22/01/2023 22:27

My Mums sister named her kids Cliff, Norm and Diane (not real names obviously, can you tell I've been watching Cheers)

My Mums friend also had 3 kids, all coincidentally born about six months later than my cousins.

Sister and friend never met each other, only knew of each other through my Mum

Child 1 was named, Cliff, then child 2 got named Norm, child 3 turned out to be a girl, Diane was mooted, and when my Aunt found out, she was ready to drive the 200 miles with murder in mind. (She got named something else in the end)

3 siblings with the same name, maybe you'd be justified, but one kid with the same name as yours, I think you're going a bit ballistic over nothing

RoseHansBolo · 22/01/2023 22:25

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HedgeWench · 22/01/2023 22:25

And Robert Baratheon's illegitimate son.