Been in relationship for a few months. A few weeks in I saw a side to him I really didn’t like. We were at a food counter and the server asked what I wanted - I hadn’t decided so deliberated a bit and he bent down to me and said “go on, tell the nice lady what you want”. Once we were out the shop I said “why the hell did you do that?? Don’t talk to me like I’m a child!” he apologised and said he was just messing around but it really annoyed me and made me feel small. I let it go hoping it was a one off.
so at weekend we were at a Mexican and I ordered Fajitas. When they arrived it all came separately - tortilla wraps, a bowl of salad, a bowl of grated cheese, a meat mixture and pots of salsa etc. I jokingly said “wow, where do you start!” - he immediately called the waitress over and told her I didn’t know what to do and could she please explain how to make them for me. I was mortified!! I said “what are on about, of course I know how to do them!” And he replied “you’ve just said you don’t know what to do”. I apologised to the waitress and assured her I was fine. She walked off. I’m annoyed at this point. We carry on eating and change the subject. Later I make an obvious joke about eating there on Christmas Day and laugh and say “I wonder if they’re open!” He calls the waitress across and says “she’s asking if you’re open on Christmas Day?” I again brush it off and apologise to her saying I’m not asking that at all. She walks off understandably looking irritated. I then tell him to stop calling the waitress across constantly, she’s busy and it’s embarrassing. He apologises and says “I didn’t know you were joking” - it was fucking obvious!!! I didn’t say much for the rest of the time there and as we left he said “you’ve gone quiet?” So I said “well I don’t want you calling the waitress over to take the piss out of me”. He insists it was all a misunderstanding but how could he possibly think I didn’t know how to roll a fajita etc?? He was deliberately trying to show me up right?