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MuddySnowflake · 16/12/2021 18:17

For the last 18 months, I’ve been finding it really hard to breathe. It feels like I can’t breathe in deeply enough to inflate my lungs, and it’s impossible to take a full breath. The only way to take a full breath is to yawn. It feels like my lungs are filled with cement, or that there’s something very heavy pushing down on my chest. Sometimes the anxiety is in my stomach, too, and I have this acid, sick, cramping feeling in my stomach.

It’s the breathing that’s the worst though. Has anyone else had this, and how did you deal with it? (I’ve been to the GP and had an X-ray, blood tests etc - all is fine. I had a course of CBT and a lot of therapy, but nothing has helped this symptom specifically).

I wake up every morning with this feeling of dread, too. I open my eyes and then it’s like the Dread arrives and I think, ‘oh, there you are’. I feel so lethargic and like I have no energy, ever.

I think…I feel very unhappy when I consider this might never go away. And if it doesn’t, how will I live like this? I find no joy in anything, and I’ve made terrible choices in my life and destroyed a beautiful relationship with a very understanding man because I felt I was going mad. I just don’t know how to live this life. It’s all too much.

Has anyone else had this chronic breathlessness/ difficulty breathing? And what did you do to help?

Thank you 🙏

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LondonWolf · 16/12/2021 18:28

This is going to sound so trite but I always noticed that when I would go out for the day to somewhere pretty or to the sea, I would feel better on the day and for a few days after. It felt very counterintuitive to do these outings as I felt so down I could barely summon up the energy to open the front door but once out, I always felt better.

LondonWolf · 16/12/2021 18:23

Yes I have had this intermittently over the years at times of stress and worry. It will go on for a few weeks or months then gradually dissipate…till the next time 🙄

I used to be terrified when it happened and believe I had a heart condition and was on the verge of having a heart attack. I now know it’s part of how stress, depression and anxiety manifests itself for me. I’ve learned to manage it to a certain extent. Medication never worked for me so I try to just ride it out. Sometimes I will realise I haven’t had “an episode” for months and months.

Are you menopause age by any chance? Things got a lot worse and feelings scared and depressed became more extreme when I was in perimenopause.

Itsnotdeep · 16/12/2021 18:19

Yes I have. It was the main symptom for me (and insomnia and lack of appetite). Even now it comes back if I get anxious.

I mainly used meditation actually. Or running. (Tried smoking for a while which I wouldn't really recommend). I was running or meditating pretty constantly for a while.