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Has Dubai become a coded word on the Internet for prostitution?

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debbrianna · 22/05/2021 11:18

I was reading a thread earlier and constant use of the word Dubai in association with influencers has grown so much. However, no one really mentions who pays for these trips. During lockdown the running jokes about Dubai was rife regarding influencers.
I have also read about people duped in going thinking it was with friends on holiday and it all goes wrong.

Not longer ago, lots of people were being paid by wealthy men or companies to fly of to Dubai on party yachts. A few documentaries on YouTube pointed towards prostitution. Some of the most vile and dehumanising things happened to some of them.

ONLYFANS is full of people flying off to Dubia and this set alarm bells ringing for me. AIBU for thinking this?

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InFiveMins · 22/05/2021 19:38

It's awful.

Really seedy and actually really sad.

Backstreetsbackalrightdadada · 22/05/2021 19:16

I knew yatching was a codeword for prostitution and I know the Daily Fail hint at it a lot when some celebrities are on a yatch with an unknown businessman... I’m more wondering how these businessmen make money! Not sure about male celebrities in Dubai etc

JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil · 22/05/2021 18:32

My friends SIL is working out there as a teacher. She went a couple of years back to visit and said never again. As a woman in her 40s she was routinely ignored or treated as inferior. Her husband was treated ok but even he said he didn’t like the vibe.

I don’t follow Instagram but you have to wonder how some of these girls can afford their lifestyles. Having XXX followers won’t keep you in Mulberry and YSL handbags, clubbing every week, champagne, Botox, micro blading and lovely apartments without a regular high income. Cheques from random brands like Fit Tea won’t cut it.

SinkGirl · 22/05/2021 18:18

@Smurfsarethefuture

Blimey I received an invite to Cannes from an organisation I work with. Its not all like that, is it? I 'm a film fanatic and was thinking of goingShock
No!

I used to work for one of the big festivals in Cannes and spent nearly a month there every year - it’s an amazing place during festivals, and I never saw any of this stuff (lots of parties, none of this!)

Babygotblueyes · 22/05/2021 18:04

Lots of these countries are trying really hard to improve their image - like the Saudi stuff - so think that it is very possible they are being paid for PR rather than sex work. Whether it is right or not is a whole other story......

Smurfsarethefuture · 22/05/2021 17:58

Blimey I received an invite to Cannes from an organisation I work with. Its not all like that, is it? I 'm a film fanatic and was thinking of goingShock

JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil · 22/05/2021 17:48

They all used to go to Cannes and ‘party’ as Yacht girls. It’s moved to Dubai.

Tealightsandd · 22/05/2021 17:10

@Jente

Horrible place, the way migrant workers are treated is gross.
People in glass houses...

Maybe not quite as bad, but we don't exactly cover ourselves in glory when it comes to migrant workers (likewise British ones at the bottom). Beds in sheds, modern day slavery.

As for our human rights failing of the disabled.

We need to sort out our own wrong doings before pointing the finger at other places.

Tealightsandd · 22/05/2021 17:05

I hadn't heard of any of this.

There's loads of male influencers who go out there too.

I assumed influencers were paid to promote tourism there? Unless - are the male influencers prostitutes too?

skirk64 · 22/05/2021 16:50

@Jente

Horrible place, the way migrant workers are treated is gross.
100% agree, the attitude is that money buys you whatever you like and it doesn't matter how many lives are ruined along the way. Immoral, disgusting place.
stressbandit · 22/05/2021 16:46

Years ago I was asked to go out to Dubai to party. I turned it down because don't get me wrong the money was life changing but some girls go over there and don't come home. I was maybe 19? The money would of been easily maybe 15 grand for two nights of shagging blokes but who wants to do that?. I don't know what happened to the guy who asked me but I stalked the other girls he asked Instagrams for a whilst and they were living it up.

thenightsky · 22/05/2021 16:43

Bloody hell, I just googled Shock Some of the videos are unbelievable. I can't see how they could be faked.

mindutopia · 22/05/2021 14:49

It's not Dubai so much, but more the influencer lifestyle. Yes, there are lots of influencers who do sex work. They are flown all over the world, lovely locations, parties, lots of nice photos, but they are basically 'party girls' as in women hired by rich men to attend parties and they are expected to make themselves available to guests. It's not specific to Dubai though and happens everywhere, including in the UK. It's how many of them afford to have the lifestyle that they do. It's nothing that women haven't been doing for ages, but now it's just more present and visible on social media.

Jente · 22/05/2021 14:37

Horrible place, the way migrant workers are treated is gross.

KarensChoppyGob · 22/05/2021 14:01

Oops DeathGrip got there before me.

Should have guessed by the name 🙈.

KarensChoppyGob · 22/05/2021 13:59

@nolongersurprised

A good friend of mine from years ago used to work as a hostess in Tokyo. She was very beautiful. After she’d left she had a few similar stories, including how some rich men would ask the women who was willing to shit on a glass table, with the man watching from under the table.
travellingjezebel.com/dubai-porta-potty/
3Britnee · 22/05/2021 13:51

@PastaLaVistaBBY

I’ve read the rumours but nothing remotely substantiated, plausible or verifiable has ever been made public. Imo it’s a lot of sensationalist fake gossip spread by people who want to denigrate apparent ‘influencers’, and Middle Eastern men who want to pretend western woman are disgusting, immoral Jezebels.

I’m not saying sex work doesn’t occur in Dubai - I’m sure it is as prevalent there as anywhere in the world. But all the stuff about sex with camels and woman being shat on is just lurid fantasy imo.

Well it's where Duffy was abducted to so it's probably all true.
3Britnee · 22/05/2021 13:49

@applepineapple

Yep, anytime I see a 'celeb' (usually reality tv) in Dubai, there's a high chance they're 'yachting'
Well, if it's good enough for 'royalty'...
debbrianna · 22/05/2021 13:27

Thanks for responses. It has bugged me for while. I wondered what had replaced the South France.

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User5485421134 · 22/05/2021 13:16

Dubai is actually surprisingly affordable and the prices went down spectacularly during the pandemic. So that's why lots of wannabe Instagram influencers/models flocked over there because they could show off the jet-set lifestyle on social media for a fraction of what people assume it cost. Apparently 4-5 star hotels were available for $100 or so per night.

mscynical · 22/05/2021 13:16

I know someone, not an influencer, who spends most of the year in Dubai catering to a 'niche' market and making a lot of money. She is very well known in this particular brand of 'prostitution'.
I think the sex/sugar daddy/escorting market is by far the most lucrative than any other country in the world at the moment.
When you think of the strict laws there it is rather strange but then the men making the laws are most likely the punters!

Hopdathelf · 22/05/2021 13:15

Dubai is definitely the new yachting. That Tag The Sponsor site is just abhorrent though. Yet again it’s the women who are ‘shamed’ rather than the disgusting individuals who pay them.

applepineapple · 22/05/2021 13:13

Yep, anytime I see a 'celeb' (usually reality tv) in Dubai, there's a high chance they're 'yachting'

nolongersurprised · 22/05/2021 13:12

A good friend of mine from years ago used to work as a hostess in Tokyo. She was very beautiful. After she’d left she had a few similar stories, including how some rich men would ask the women who was willing to shit on a glass table, with the man watching from under the table.

Deathgrip · 22/05/2021 13:06

That “Tag the sponsor” website is fucking horrible - lots of men “exposing the hoes”, you know those women who are just agreeing to what men are asking them to do. Utterly disgusting men the lot of them.

Whether any of it is legit, or just men pranking women desperate for money into agreeing to the worst stuff they can think of, is unclear.

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