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Has Dubai become a coded word on the Internet for prostitution?

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debbrianna · 22/05/2021 11:18

I was reading a thread earlier and constant use of the word Dubai in association with influencers has grown so much. However, no one really mentions who pays for these trips. During lockdown the running jokes about Dubai was rife regarding influencers.
I have also read about people duped in going thinking it was with friends on holiday and it all goes wrong.

Not longer ago, lots of people were being paid by wealthy men or companies to fly of to Dubai on party yachts. A few documentaries on YouTube pointed towards prostitution. Some of the most vile and dehumanising things happened to some of them.

ONLYFANS is full of people flying off to Dubia and this set alarm bells ringing for me. AIBU for thinking this?

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KarensChoppyGob · 23/05/2021 17:15

I thought that was humour no? She obvs couldn't name names Grin.

SofiaMichelle · 23/05/2021 17:12

[quote Deathgrip]travellingjezebel.com/dubai-porta-potty/[/quote]
Are you people really reading this ^^ and thinking it's real?

"Prince Bin Fakin..."

🤣

ZaraW · 23/05/2021 17:11

It was happening twenty years ago and obviously well before that. So I stand by my comment. It's nothing new.

KarensChoppyGob · 23/05/2021 17:07

It's nothing *new.
*
Dubai is though, considering it was little more than a fishing village on the edge of a desert little more than half a century ago. It's made on new money and attracts it.

ZaraW · 23/05/2021 17:03

I remember being in a hotel in Dubai 20 years ago. An elderly M.E. man was with his wife and they were walking along holding hands.

A few hours later he was in the hotel bar with 2 Asian prostitutes. It's nothing new.

habibihabibi · 23/05/2021 16:24

Patup5
I have also seen really young girls loitering in lobbies. I think hotels mist be given backhanders to ignore "guests" as its a law to present passports. This is all going on in the higher end places. I would hate to hear whats happening in Deiras dodgy dives.

Patup5 · 23/05/2021 14:37

Leaving my Dubai hotel at the crack of dawn for an early flight I noticed two tired young girls perched on a window ledge and sharing a can of Pepsi. They were dressed cheaply but provocatively, looked Eastern European.

Could this scenario have been anything other than them waiting for their pimp to collect them after a hard nights work in the hotel?

They were so young, kids really.

People traffickers are everywhere.

TheQueef · 23/05/2021 14:14

It's really depressing Candy imagine the emotional cost of that, in your mind and memorialised forever on video.
Imagine that following you, for the rest of your life? Makes me shudder.

It's such a degrading act.

CandyLeBonBon · 23/05/2021 13:51

@TheQueef degradation of western women is absolutely part of it.

EishetChayil · 23/05/2021 13:49

Makes me want to herd up all the women and girls and keep them safe in a big female-only utopia. The men can shite all over each other on the wastelands surrounding it.

TheQueef · 23/05/2021 12:52

Sorry to lower the tone even further.

Was the shitting always a part of it? I always thought yachting was just escorting.
I knew a kink existed but the overarching Dubai toilet thing feels more about degradation than skat iyswim.

Smurfsarethefuture · 23/05/2021 11:28

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Because they are commodified, too. Just in a different way. I have very successful, friend who is publicly known to come from a wealthy family. The requests he gets for money, etc shocked me. It is how the world sees him (and only someone as clueless as me didn’t see it. )

Men are commodified from an early age for their physical strength (working class men), their soft skills (middle class) and their connections (wealthy). They also brutally know this. Some see women as the reward for the expectations society has of them. How that works out from the spectrum of dating to escorts, depends to some extent on how people negotiate that territory. Either way, we are not the prize.

Hopdathelf · 23/05/2021 11:27

It’s a power thing isn’t it. The powerful show their superiority and/or disgust towards the economically/morally weaker.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 23/05/2021 11:19

Why do rich men like shit ? Truing and failing to think of a logical reason

nolongersurprised · 23/05/2021 11:00

I didn’t think the Jezebel article was that bad - very specifically said what the women were doing (gross stuff for money) was less of an issue given presumably mutual consent. It called out the rape of children and sex with animals though Envy (not envy)

Smurfsarethefuture · 23/05/2021 10:56

@Dailywalk

Me too. I am Shock

I knew it happened but not at this extent, so blatantly.

I have an Instagram account for drawings, landscape photography. All very bland really. My username sounds make and I was very shocked at the invitations I received early on to ‘join’ a group from women I didn’t know.

I have also noticed lots of posts from women with vinyl strategically placed on their thighs whilst they wear very skimpy shorts, etc.

I’m not buying it that they are really into an obscure white label Brian Eno track.

Absolute commodification. Legitimised. Who remembers all of that stuff about sugar dad dying your way through university? At a time of student loans, it really was a way of saying to low income women they had to earn their right to that space which they don’t.

I also remember reading an interview with the belle de jour blog writer who thought she would go on to university work and no one would know. She also said her father used prostitutes.

I really hate this stuff. I was working as a freelance web researcher whilst doing my postgrad and everything I researched was educational programmes, code based stuff but I still got unwanted pop ups on some of the sites. I also remember the postgrad Berkeley university student who got a grant to help ex working women get into computing and she showed them how to set themselves up as webcam girls.

Some days, I am deadly serious about joining a convent. I’ll renter the world once it values us.

apalledandshocked · 23/05/2021 10:42

@Deathgrip

That “Tag the sponsor” website is fucking horrible - lots of men “exposing the hoes”, you know those women who are just agreeing to what men are asking them to do. Utterly disgusting men the lot of them.

Whether any of it is legit, or just men pranking women desperate for money into agreeing to the worst stuff they can think of, is unclear.

Agree - its very telling that the "exposing" is all centred arounf the instagram models and not the gross men who are actuall paying for that depraved shit. I really think its a lesson all those saying OF is "empowering" to women should take note of - at the end of the day the male clients are always protected. The women are the ones shamed (or occassionally killed) I also didnt like the tone of that travelling jezebel article - again it seemed to be all about those trashy women, and fell over itself not to "kink shame" the men. e.g. ""Kink shaming is not my bag, and just because I PERSONALLY don’t want a dude shitting on my face, I really couldn’t care less if you want to accept money for that. I mean, it’s a dirty job and all but someone’s gotta do it I guess, lol."

LOL indeed

wizzywig · 23/05/2021 10:41

This reminds me of a Turkish film on Netflix about this topic. I can't remember the name of it. Utterly depressing

CandyLeBonBon · 23/05/2021 10:28

@thenightsky

I can't see anything glamourous about lying back and letting a man shit in my mouth FFS. Not even for £70,000
Nope. Me neither
habibihabibi · 23/05/2021 10:05

There are a lot of male prostitutes too. At Christmas I stood waiting or a lift and the doors opened to reveal 3 identically dressed young guys with sequined face masks. They werent on the way to a panto ..Grin
It is a very dangerous profession at the best of times but in the ME it is really really risky. There is no police officer going to be quoting sex workers rights when you get beat up ,strangled, dragged out to the desert and set alight.

GerryManderson · 23/05/2021 09:46

I have heard that the highest earners are the ITV2 reality stars. One particular dating gameshow set on an island Wink Apparently the sheiks go crazy for those boys and girls.

MrsJBaptiste · 23/05/2021 09:45

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

‘All of the male influencers are going too. Are they also engaged in prostitution?’

Never heard of ‘gay for pay’?

No! But I haven't heard of a lot of the things on this thread and I didn't think my 45 years had been particularly sheltered 😮
KarensChoppyGob · 23/05/2021 09:32

Yy obviously male prostitution is in as much demand as ever in a country like that.

I was referring to heterosexual male influencers/ reality show types in Dubai, being just the same as your typical sex tourist.

Dailywalk · 23/05/2021 09:32

I have clearly led a sheltered life. Reading this thread has been an education for me! The humiliation and degradation these women are prepared to endure is staggering. And what do these men think of women?! It’s sickening.

reallyreallyborednow · 23/05/2021 09:26

I assumed influencers were paid to promote tourism there? Unless - are the male influencers prostitutes too?

In a country where homosexuality is illegal, there is a need for foreigners willing to provide that service.

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