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Husbands Farting and What to Do

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CatchTheCulprit · 04/07/2020 23:41

I have reached the end of my tether and find my Husband's farting repulsive. I have moaned and nagged and begged him to stop forcing one out as I find it revolting. He finds it funny. The state of his pants and shorts tell the tale and the other week he farted and followed through on the sofa. I know farting is a natural bodily function but FFS enough is enough. I don't know what to do to get through to him that this is just not on anymore.
Has he no respect? Is this the way he's been brought up or does he simply not care about my feelings? And don't ask me about cleaning the skid marks off the toilet every day. What the fuck do I do?

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Silvergreen · 05/07/2020 00:31

Did he clean the shit off the sofa or did you do it?

StormzyInaDCup · 05/07/2020 00:30

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Stompythedinosaur · 05/07/2020 00:28

Tbh I don't think farting in front of your partner is a big deal, but shitting on the sofa is a different ball game.

The idea that your husband knowingly leaves you to clean up his shitty pants is astonishing and no part of a normal relationship.

funkylittleboatrace · 05/07/2020 00:28

He shat on the sofa and you didn't leave him there and then?.

Cramitmaam · 05/07/2020 00:28

If he's actually shitting his pants then that it pretty out of control. Is there a medical reason?

If not then maybe you need to tell him that you can't live with it anymore are think about a trial separation. I know it sounds very extreme but maybe he will realise how much it bothers you then.

I couldn't live with someone who was shutting their pants because they were trying to squeeze out farts. That is ridiculous.

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CatchTheCulprit · 05/07/2020 00:24

@MadameMeursault Oh for heavens sake - really??

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CatchTheCulprit · 05/07/2020 00:21

It's gross and I find him totally unattractive as he doesn't seem to take on board how revolting his behaviour is. It seems to be quite drastic to end a marriage over farting and shitty pants but it is so horrible to live with. Reading your replies has helped me re-confirm to myself that it's not acceptable (which I knew anyway) but it's just what do I do next.

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DuineArBith · 05/07/2020 00:16

Stop washing his clothes.

Northernsoullover · 05/07/2020 00:15

🤔

BobFleming · 05/07/2020 00:15

🤔

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 05/07/2020 00:13

There was supposed to be space between marriage saying and the medical bit😂

VodselForDinner · 05/07/2020 00:12

Interesting first post, OP Hmm

SchrodingersImmigrant · 05/07/2020 00:11

Everybody farts. And farts can be incredibly funny. I can't help to giggle.

But he isn't farting! He shat himself on a sofa 😳

There is a saying:
Marriage is like a fart. If you have to push it, it's usually shit. Unless he has medical issues he shouldn't be regularly sharting himself

WeAllHaveWings · 05/07/2020 00:11

We both let the odd one slip out occasionally with a oops sorry and a grin, but forcing out for comic effect when you know your partner finds it vile, skid marks and following through are revolting. I wouldnt put up with it.

Evelefteden · 05/07/2020 00:11

Leave.

Honestly do you still find him attractive after that?

NoSquirrels · 05/07/2020 00:11

Just tell him, in no uncertain terms - I find this repulsive.

If anyone needs to follow through, it’s you - lea e him if he can’t change. And stop cleaning his shitty pants. He can do that.

ExhaustedBeyondBelief · 05/07/2020 00:10

Farting isnt so bad

Following through is , well, just 💩

Goslowlysideways · 05/07/2020 00:09

I just don’t know what to say!!!

saraclara · 05/07/2020 00:08

The family habit and it having gone on for years makes anything scary a lot less likely then.
Obviously my husband didn't find it funny because it was something that happened for about six months in his 50s, having been able to control his farts (and never having skid marks) in all that time. And the uncontrolled farts could happen anywhere, which was obviously embarrassing. If your husband can save them for when he's on the sofa at home, it's unlikely to be worrying.
Sorry to scare you.

Kittykat93 · 05/07/2020 00:06

And that's coming from someone who finds farts quite funny usually.. But even I would never be that gross or disrespectful to my partner.

Kittykat93 · 05/07/2020 00:04

You clean his shitty skidders off his pants and the toilet everyday? What the hell op!! Stop doing that right now, you're not a mother to a 3 year old this man is your husband ffs.

And him forcing himself to fart and going ahead and curling one out on the sofa...i don't really have the words for this. Surely you're not having sex with this pig!

He needs to clean up his act (literally).

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CatchTheCulprit · 05/07/2020 00:03

Oh God - I hope not rectal cancer otherwise I will hate myself for posting. This has gone on for years. His mum would fart in front of me, his Dad would openly loudly fart (on the same sofa - think it's time to get rid of the sofa TBH) and not even acknowledge it - he'd just carry on with the conversation. I can't file for divorce citing 'Out of Control Farting' but it's awful and so unattractive. How do I get through to him without sounding like a prude. He obviously doesn't care or have any shame.

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saraclara · 04/07/2020 23:54

Is this farting and following through (and messy toilet) relatively new?

I never know whether to say things like this to a stranger on a forum, but after months of the same things happening with him, my husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer.

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