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To think that a lot of genuinely beautiful people ruin themselves with plastic surgery etc?

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BeTheRabbit · 22/01/2020 17:47

As a self confessed utterly ugly bug I just can't understand it... There are truly beautiful women out there who do it to themselves time and time again and end up almost caricatures of themselves.

Just a thought after seeing the latest pics of Catherine Zeta Jones who was incredibly gorgeous. Not a caricature yet, but perhaps in danger of going there.

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Siameasy · 06/09/2021 12:02

I thought Tori had had a fair bit done - I understood that her parents were cruel about her appearance?

DottyHarmer · 06/09/2021 11:07

I agree all the men look the same. Even worse they look comical.

OhWhyNot · 06/09/2021 11:01

Botox and fillers can do some strange things to the face. Bradley Cooper has started to morph into Barry Manilow who was morphing into Rod Stewart

They do look alike Tori and Khloe have always been taunted for their looks

Classica · 06/09/2021 10:41

you sure about that, @BrisbaneandGone?

To think that a lot of genuinely beautiful people ruin themselves with plastic surgery etc?
CounsellorTroi · 06/09/2021 10:31

I know someone who is naturally beautiful. She still has Botox and lip fillers and any photos she puts of herself on FB are always heavily filtered. It’s sad.

BrisbaneandGone · 06/09/2021 10:28

@Classica

There has been a strange Kardashianisation of beauty standards. So many minor celebs and Instagram models look almost identical.

Tori Spelling has had a little (!) work done and now looks like a clone of Khloe Kardashian. It's so weird.

She looks nothing like Khloe Kardashian lol!
Gonnagetgoing · 06/09/2021 10:08

@malificent7

Some horrod comments here...no wonder women are getting so much work done ! Im 43 and if i can stave off wrinkles i will. Id rather have a shiny forehead than deep furrows myself but each to their own.
This woman I saw yesterday in a 'naice' village in London.

At first glance I thought, oh she looks 'good'. On a second glance, before sitting down etc and I moved slightly I could see a face which looked like it had been carved from marble and slightly cartoonish, lots of angles and there was no way she was a model. In fact my aunt, who is now in her early 60s was a fairly successful model in her teens and 20s and looks good now - but I guess she has good or fairly good genes. As far as I know she wouldn't touch plastic surgery, botox etc.

I mean if you like that stuff you'd say she looks 'good'. And it shouldn't matter a blind bit really what I think about her looks, she should be able to enhance her looks any way she likes.

I worked for a short period with a perfectly pretty woman in her early 30s with fillers, duck lips etc - who spent most of her money on skin care etc - and had now regretted it, so she told me - but I think she must've looked fine before she had this done as she was naturally pretty. I just think it is such a shame these days there's so much pressure to look X way and to stave off each and every wrinkle.

Gonnagetgoing · 06/09/2021 10:00

@Maggiejardine

I suppose a minor amount of surgery, skilfully done can be justified if you have a particular hangup about part of your appearance eg if gives you more confidence and makes you feel better about yourself. But I do agree with previous posts that many girls have it done too young when they are naturally beautiful and need no enhancements. Some have so much work done that they look frankly ridiculous and resemble drag queens. Above all I think personality and character should shine through, too much value is placed on appearance these days, that’s the media for you
The vast majority of people who even have it skilfully done - a lot of the time I can tell they've had it done. Some people I need pointing out to me.

I was at a nail salon on Friday night and the owner was complaining about her big nose saying she'd always got teased about it - it was fine! Maybe a feature but certainly not huge and in proportion with her face,

It is so ridiculous to think that in the eyes of a lot of people and including media, you need to be a perfect symmetrical face etc or on the other end of the spectrum to have huge lips and bambi eyelashes and plump cheeks to look 'good' or acceptable even.

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 06/09/2021 09:59

I think some people take it too far, loads of film stars etc have had plastic surgery…its just very good subtle work

I also think its many fillers that cause some of the problems on older people who just aren’t meant to have plumped cheeks and lips

I would have work done in the future and ive already had a lower face lift for my neck…but my neck is genetics the face oift is just staving off the inevitable for a few more years

DottyHarmer · 06/09/2021 09:54

I think men are just as prone. Has anyone seen Paul Stanley?!!!!!!

Some look good (Bruce Springsteen, eg) but most men end up looking like bad women, and with big flashing teeth that are too big for their mouths, startled round eyes and luxuriant hair that no man over 50 has had ever.

Maggiejardine · 06/09/2021 09:46

I suppose a minor amount of surgery, skilfully done can be justified if you have a particular hangup about part of your appearance eg if gives you more confidence and makes you feel better about yourself. But I do agree with previous posts that many girls have it done too young when they are naturally beautiful and need no enhancements. Some have so much work done that they look frankly ridiculous and resemble drag queens. Above all I think personality and character should shine through, too much value is placed on appearance these days, that’s the media for you

Bangolads · 06/09/2021 08:54

Yup all the women out there who have had stuff done and you don’t realise!! My friend got away with it for years- now had her lips done and looks ridiculous.

EmeraldRaine · 06/09/2021 07:33

Society won't accept beautiful women ageing. I just had a look at her Instagram and she's funny, clearly a devoted mother and has a whole host of talents. Sad that you are more interested in her looks. And i expect that's why she has a hard time allowing herself to age.

Gonnagetgoing · 06/09/2021 07:29

Yes probably. Re beautiful people ruining themselves with plastic surgery.

@LipstickLou - I’m similar to you. Very similar skin, age but not the fish! I think it’s partly down to excellent skin on parents side but my maternal grandmother always said to use facial sunscreen every day!

I don’t think expensive creams help but some sort of cream does. I’ve worn foundation on and off throughout my life.

I don’t use Botox etc but do use retinol, vitamin c cream or serum when I remember.

I can’t definitely tell most women who’ve had Botox/fillers etc. Just the frozen look, over inflated lips etc - even more defined lips etc I generally think most have had work done. I was out with family yesterday and in a cafe I obviously didn’t say anything whilst she was there but the woman behind us had definitely had fillers/Botox/lip enhancement etc and after she left I mentioned to my brother I’m sure she didn’t need it before!

My friend who has Botox and other work panics looking like her mum who’s a normal late 60s/70 year old woman who’s had nothing done, grown a fringe to hide forehead wrinkles but looks really great!

I do get told I look younger - mostly by relatives but most of my friends look good too, looking after yourself helps generally.

LipstickLou · 06/09/2021 07:17

I have worked in beauty for over thirty years. I don't have facial wrinkles. I have always worn sun protection and foundation. I also eat fish daily. On my arms I have wrinkles and hyper pigmentation from driving and I don't put on body sunscreen for everyday. I have never had botox or fillers. Would I? Nope. I think a good lipstick and dental work can achieve wonders. I once had a client who insisted I didn't have work done so she could say my complexion was due to her creams. The caveat was irrelevant but she didn't believe I was au naturale. I think if you are facially disfigured or have a huge nose, ears etc go ahead. But age catches us all. I don't mind telling people my age. I just wish my body looked as good as my face.

LavenderAskew · 06/09/2021 07:16

@malificent7

Some horrod comments here...no wonder women are getting so much work done ! Im 43 and if i can stave off wrinkles i will. Id rather have a shiny forehead than deep furrows myself but each to their own.
Comments about people looking worse after having work done is the cause of women getting work done? (Which is what the "horrible" comments on this thread are about).

It's society's obsession with looking youthful that is the driver. Such things as total horror about wrinkles, soft jaw lines and non-plum lips.

In reality shiny foreheads and faces that don't move make a person look old, just not in the way nature intended. And while some older women look better than others they look better than of they would of they had surgery.

As I mentioned early, CZJ's mother is stunning, so no doubt CZJ would have aged extremely well too. Amd if she's had work she saw a better surgeon than her daughter.

Actually there's a question, do surgeions do fillers? Or can you get those at a beauticians? Same with botox?

thenumberseven · 06/09/2021 06:22

Many Spanish actresses look their age and even older than their peers yet still get work and are not criticized for their looks.

malificent7 · 06/09/2021 06:13

Some horrod comments here...no wonder women are getting so much work done ! Im 43 and if i can stave off wrinkles i will. Id rather have a shiny forehead than deep furrows myself but each to their own.

CanIPleaseHaveOne · 06/09/2021 05:05

@RuffleCrow

The way i see it, what have we got to lose by working to change the culture that says the worth of a girl or woman resides largely in her appearance?

We all need to fight the urge to focus on female appearance and instead make it about character.

Charactercharactercharacter is how i will be responding to any thread or rl comment on a female appearance from now on.

I will join you!
Plumtree391 · 06/09/2021 05:02

@Backwaterjunction

Sharon Osborne looks good errrrrr ok slowly stepping out of the room of insane people
I was thinking exactly the same when I first looked at this thread. She has matured into a beautiful woman and her face is not wrecked at all, looks natural. Living in France may have helped, the cosmetic surgery performed there is far, far better than here but we don't know what, or even if any, work she has had done.
ellyeth · 06/09/2021 00:25

Yes, it's very sad.

Bbq1 · 05/09/2021 23:35

@COPPER3

Carol Vorderman.... bloody hell the woman looks amazing!! But clearly has had cheek implants, arse implants, breast....botox,....filler... JOAN COLLINS..she's always denied any surgery and has claimed that it is keeping out of the sun and good genes that has given her youthful looks...yeah right love! You have been blessed, but you have had a bit of help....just admit it, at least make me feel better about my sagging, aging old jowls and wrinkles..
Blimey, Carol Vorderman no longer looks like herself, she just looks plastic... And odd. She looks far from amazing.
Backwaterjunction · 05/09/2021 23:25

Sharon Osborne looks good errrrrr ok slowly stepping out of the room of insane people

Backwaterjunction · 05/09/2021 23:24

Only seen real housewives a few times and I think because there all in the same circle they all get it done and they all encourage each other and as a result they actually do not know how bizarre they look, when I catch it it’s like looking at strange creatures. I also find it ageing, and as for Botox yes let’s inject botulism into ourselves that’s never going to go wrong is it.

COPPER3 · 05/09/2021 23:19

Carol Vorderman.... bloody hell the woman looks amazing!! But clearly has had cheek implants, arse implants, breast....botox,....filler...
JOAN COLLINS..she's always denied any surgery and has claimed that it is keeping out of the sun and good genes that has given her youthful looks...yeah right love! You have been blessed, but you have had a bit of help....just admit it, at least make me feel better about my sagging, aging old jowls and wrinkles..