Is a wedding day worth it?

Going to go against the grain. Ours was totally worth it! Having everyone we love in one room having fun and laughing together, especially people who hadn’t met before, was incredible. Best day ever and I still grin to myself whenever I think about it.

We had a low key wedding and I don’t regret it al all. It was the marriage that was important to me not the wedding day.

My wedding cost £20k. It was a fantastic day with all our friends and I absolutely loved it. I remember it happily often and it was definitely worth it despite the horrendous cost. I've been married 11 years and counting now.

We are getting married in December and it's costing about £1000 for everything. There are only 8 guests (plus our baby DD) and it's very informal and low key, but I'm still very excited about it It'll be a lovely day with the people we love most. Neither of us enjoy big gatherings of people or being the centre of attention particularly, so a small ceremony and then a nice meal out is perfect for us. Maybe think about which aspects of a wedding are actually important to you and which are things that seem important but actually aren't.

Just remembered, I used to work at a local government office overlooking the registry office. A couple drove up in a clapped out car wearing matching stripey pyjamas. They looked so happy and it was so cute! And then off they drove afterwards.

You can easily get into a mindset of FOMO re weddings but it’s a whole heap of hassle and stress which is over in a day.

Spend it on the honeymoon!! Seriously 1 Ridiculously expensive day vs 14+ glorious days with your new husband in a preferably exotic location. If I had my time again 😉

Like fuckloadofcheese We both say now we wouldn't have spent anywhere near what we did, however sometimes I think you need the experience so you have no regrets (assuming you dont get into debt)

All that matters now is he's my husband and im his wife, the wedding was a day, our marriage (I hope) is forever

My first wedding (aged 23) cost over £25k. Parents paid. It lasted 3 years before now ex husband cheated. It was a nice day but now I think what I could have done with that money instead it makes me cringe.

I got married last year to the most amazing man, we went to a hotel with just the kids and our parents, ceremony, afternoon tea, 2 night stay with spa and dinners. Cost under £3k. I wouldn’t have wished for anything else.

Like most girls I’ve been imagining what my wedding would be like since I was little but now I’m older I’m wondering if it’s worth all the money?

I find that^ really sad.

You don't need to spend thousands, many people have a joyous time having only spent a couple of hundred.

Definitely not worth it. You can so easily get caught up in the wedding industry selling you all sorts of "must haves". A simple ceremony to legally protect you would do the necessary and leave you with £000s to improve your life in the long term. Whether that is a house deposit/paying off mortgage/education/travel or whatever.

By all means have a celebratory party later - just don't mention the W word.

Me and dh could easily of afforded a big wedding day, but we didn’t. We married just us and our parents in San Francisco, it was perfect.

A massive wedding to me = A lot of stress. Why pay for stress?

Me and DH often say we wish we hadn’t spent all the £££. We wish we had just done it on our own somewhere. A lot of people who came are no longer in touch with us as we moved and had kids etc. So tons of people in our photos are now long gone from our lives. I mean, we had a nice day for sure but if I could have a do-over we would go away the two of us and get married.