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About people who talk in cliches?

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Ritascornershop · 22/09/2019 16:50

My exhusband and I are from different English-speaking countries (think Australia and Scotland or England and America etc). So when I met him (& was quite young) I don’t think I noticed that he talks in cliches as I likely put it down to him being fascinatingly foreign.

It’s difficult to explain, but it’s like he can’t speak more than a couple of sentences without falling back on cliches/idioms/figures of speech. It’s almost like he is from another planet and trying to copy human speech but “over-shooting the mark” as he’d put it.

Fortunately I don’t have to interact with him anymore, but I’m curious about this way of using speech. Is it lack of original thought, habit, class, intelligence? I don’t notice it with anyone else (outside his family!).

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Riojasmoothy · 22/09/2019 19:15

*only obvious (fat thumbs)

Riojasmoothy · 22/09/2019 19:15

Not quite the same but my husband uses the word "obviously" in every sentence.
The inly onvious thing is that he doesn't really understand the meaning of the word Hmm.

MsTSwift · 22/09/2019 19:07

We’ll burn that bridge when we get to it

MagicKingdomDizzy · 22/09/2019 18:59

I agree OP.

Even worse are people who mix two up in the same sentence.....

"Don't count your chickens before the cows come home."

Etc etc etc Confused

zafferana · 22/09/2019 18:54

My pet hate at the moment is 'You've got this' (or even worse 'You got this'). Arrrggghhhh! It's in ALL the children's films. In every single one, that lame, annoying line gets trotted out at some point - Toy Story 4, The Lion King, you name it.

barryfromclareisfit · 22/09/2019 18:50

My ex did that, forty years ago.

Walkamileinmyshoes · 22/09/2019 18:38

When people say “it is what it is” trying to sound all philosophical I feel like saying to them “you do realise that phrase has absolutely no meaning whatsoever?”
It’s the modern day equivalent of “at the end of the day”.

I also think it’s down to reality tv. Hours need to be filled without anybody saying anything.

My pet Mumsnet hate is “you’re over thinking this”. I genuinely wish it would be banned.

zafferana · 22/09/2019 18:32

I really think it has to do with the rise of reality TV

I agree! The TV is full of unscripted dimwits pontificating in cliches.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/09/2019 18:24

YADNBU - that is not acceptable in any way, shape or form Grin

PositiveVibez · 22/09/2019 18:22

I can't stand it. I really think it has to do with the rise of reality TV. They all speak in clichés. 'it is what it is', being the worst fucking phrase ever invented, which I hear a lot of people using in day to day life.

MsTSwift · 22/09/2019 17:55

At the end of the day each to his own op don’t sweat the small stuff

I agree with you op. Annoying !

SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad · 22/09/2019 17:53

Different strokes for different folks, to be fair.

Are you absolutely certain, OP, that you don't have any annoying verbal tics of your own? No "ums" liberally peppering your sentences? No words that you mispronounce? No reflexive pronoun abuse? No rising inflection at the end of a sentence? No Americanisms?

Because you'd be pretty unique if there's absolutely nothing you do that could irritate someone when talking. And, y'know....people who live in glass houses, and all that....

GhostCurry · 22/09/2019 17:38

I know just what you mean OP, it’s particularly odd when they repeatedly use the same idiom, again and again. I remember a post on here where the OP used the phrase “she threw me under the bus” two or three times, and it came across very strangely!

LemonYumYums · 22/09/2019 16:54

I think it indicates a kind of laziness of thinking. I’ve noticed in the last two or three years though that more people than ever seem to speak in cliches. It’s very dull and I can’t really be bothered talking to people who do it.

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