To be so upset about our living situation?

Small children aren't that fussed about gardens they just want to be where you are. In 5 years time when he is bigger then if you really want a garden you might be in a better position to move. For now though your situation sounds perfect. FWIW we've always had a garden and DD has always chose to play out the front with her friends instead.
This isn't something you need to worry about, enjoy what you've got instead.

so instead of a garden your son will have a park with other children, and a stream to play with? Sounds lovely, much better than your own garden. He'll make friends there too.

You might miss a line to dry your laundry, and being able to let your kid play unsupervised in your own garden, he won't be missing out on anything. It sounds like he will have a lot of outdoor space that you won't need to maintain yourself.

The allotment is a very good idea too.

Your house sounds lovely and the surroundings sound positively idyllic. The lack of a garden is really nothing at all because within such a short distance your child with have plenty of places to run around and play I think that that's probably better than any garden would be.

When I was growing up my family moved county 4 times due to my dad's work. The gardens and houses got bigger with each move! Now I'm lucky enough to own a house in a large city but with have no front garden and a minute back garden! We do have a small green near the house and we are very near several large parks including the largest walled park in Europe. My two daughters didn't miss out by not having a garden to play in!

Sorry maybe I'm missing something have you got a back yard or a front yard or nothing outside at All.

It’s sad that you feel so low.

The house itself sounds lovely. Does it have no yard at all? You could fix one of these outside for washing if you have even a strip of land:
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If you have a yard similar to houses in York etc get on right move looking at terraces on the south bank for example and you will see many tiny yards which have been made lovely with outside seating and pots.

Practically your DC has great outside space if you live across from a rec. Of you’re not a gardener it can in some ways be a blessing to have little outside space as nothing to feel guilty about neglecting.

Bit of a long term suggestion but if you are anywhere near Saltaire go to the open houses art trail which sadly isn’t until next May. This will give you an opportunity to nose in many Victorian millworkers houses which people have made lovely in all sorts of different ways.

Also if you watch the first episode of this series of Old House New Home that had a small Edwardian workers cottage which I thought they really made the best of.

Could you put your name down for a local allotment? That way you could teach them to grow veg, grow flowers etc, spend time down there as a family.

I wouldn't worry. We have a big garden and spent a lot of money on a huge climbing frame, trampoline etc.... It is slowly rotting away, unloved. The kids want to play on computers or go out and play with other children. Sounds like your house is lovely, you don't have the headache of a garden (ours is unmanageable) and I'd swap to something like yours in a heartbeat!

Houses can be exceptionally cheap in yorkshire. Either you need to go back full time to afford the extra space, move to a cheaper location, or you accept what you have is enough.

I cannot afford my own home. My daughter will never have a garden. She will live and it won't be the end of the world. I'm currently sat in the dark on mumsnet because we live in a studio flat and dd is asleep. We don't have light fittings, let alone a garden 😬. Count your blessings.

You have the country on your doorstep, go out and explore. Millions of kids grow up without having a garden or indeed the beautiful surroundings you seem to have.

Read back your OP and surely you can see how you sound spoilt?

Does it really not even have a yard?😮

Sounds lovely OP! I agree with Teachermaths, change what you can. My DP and I were in a similar situation earlier this year (disappointed with some features of the house/garden, stuck renting in an area we didn't want to buy in, but wanted to stay in catchment area). We watched a few episodes of Marie Kondo on Netflix for inspiration then changed as many things as we could with a small amount of money. We felt like we had fallen in love with the house again when we had finished.

I thought you were going to be posting that your two sons and daughter have to share a room in a two up two down or that the walls were covered in black mould due to the damp or something.

You obviously live in a lovely area so just go out to parks/countryside every day. Kids don’t care about the weather and with waterproofs/thermals and flasks of hot chocolate & a picnic, no matter what time of year, our DC had a fantastic time. We do have a garden but had a very active dog so we’re always out with her, to the point that the garden was hardly used tbh until after she had passed and we stopped going to the country park every day when DC was 11.

Maybe a visit your dr if your anxiety/depression is making you feel like this. Prehaps an increase/change in medication/counselling could help you feel a bit better but you, honestly, are not letting your son down.

It sounds gorgeous. My dB brought up their child in a house with no garden in a village that had a huge park at the bottom of the road - they just went there after school every fine day.

Blimey, I thought it was going to be something really awful like mould on the walls or unsafe appliances. Honestly OP, he's not missing out if you're surrounded by green spaces. It sounds bloody gorgeous, lots of space to play outside even if it's not your own private bit, and there's lots of ways you can grow things as well even if you don't have a garden. You've got a safe and secure roof over your heads. Please see it as a positive.

OP, I'm guessing that yours isn't the only mill worker's cottage in the village; it sounds an amazing place to grow up! Generations of children have grown up without a large garden.

(Have you posted about this before? I'm fairly certain I've seen a similar thread previously)

OP, there are kids out there who will spend a lot of their summer holidays sitting in a flat in a tower block. There are kids out there whose parents won't be feeding them properly. Stop worrying about something you can't immediately do something about. Plan for the future but at the moment make the best of what you have.
Have you had any help with your A and D? This could be a symptom of PND. Have you had a chat with anyone else about how you are feeling?

I didn't mean for mine to come across mean so sorry if it did, I thought it might help give you some perspective, your home sounds lovely.

I bought my kids up in a flat. No outside space apart from a tiny balcony. You don't need a garden. We just went to the park lots often with a picnic for the whole day. A garden would've been nice but not be all. You can move when your child is older if you think you really need one

Wow the vipers are out tonight.

Comparison is the thief of joy OP and vipers.

Enjoy what you have. If you personally don't like it and don't enjoy it, then change it. Don't compare to others. Change what you can within your control.

Go back and read the description of where you live. This is not something to be depressed about.

Sounds lovely.

It sounds lovely, and realistically, unless you're in certain pockets of North Yorkshire, you couldn't have afforded a lovely house in lovely surroundings with a nice garden, in the SE.