To ask my parents to move out ?

You need to start your own thread and then people might give you some advice - this one is over ten years old!

Hi I have my mother living with as she moved in with me when she got her pension and her sick benefits stopped as she has blood cancer and other health problems and I was pregnant and needed help but 2 years later its starting to get to much as we in 2 bedroom house and my son needs to go into his own room and we just seem to be arguing all the time Im just starting feel like it was when I lived at home as a teenager cant have people over which is why my last relationship didn't work feeling bad but I think she should move out but she not going to be happy about it

You do not have to become her carer. You so not have to sacrifice your life and your dd's in this way. Give your own children the life your mother should have had herself.

Just wanted to point out that if someone is found intentionally homeless by the Council's housing options/homeless department, that makes no difference to whether they can claim housing benefit or not. Housing benefit purely looks at a person's income and savings. Being intentionally homeless will only affect if they want the council to rehouse them... If they secure their own accommodation in the private sector it won't matter.
You deserve happiness OP... I hope you get things sorted x

if it could be the first signs of dementia (my grandmother & great grandmother had it). Mum is 62

This is what I was thinking when reading your original post - has she always been like this or has her behaviour got worse recently - if it's a complete personality change it may be something to consider - maybe they could get a council place if your mum is vulnerable?

It is possible that your relationship might actually improve if you weren't living together.

Childcare vouchers take one phone all to employer, then test usually done online. Really easy.

Well it could be, yes, but from what you've said, she's always been a bit like it - is that so? In which case, it's less likely to be dementia and more likely to be older-person inhibition/care loss! But yes, dementia is also a possibility so perhaps a) suggest it to both your parents and b) suggest that she goes to the GP for a check. That should be interesting!

They are adults, try somehow to stop making their housing your responsibility. And please make a move now if there is a chance that you'll end up caring for her forever if she does develop dementia (did the other family members have it so early though?). I'm sure that sounds heartless but I don't see any evidence that your mum has treated you with any heart.

Well they should give notice to their tenant's, put the house on the market, sell it to buy something smaller/more affordable.... None of this is your problem

Hi sorry to change the direction of the thread but you say you are not entitled to child tax credit. Do you claim childcare vouchers through work? You receive them from your gross salary thus reducing your childcare costs. This combined with your lower bills once they leave may help. Apologies if you already claim them. And apologies for changing the topic.

Good crikey your mum has really done a number on you, hasn't she!! They won't be homeless, as in on the streets, they can move out to a B&B or even small hotel until they find somewhere to live/remove the tenants from their own house!!

Your brother absolutely should not take them - it's only further enabling their godawful abusive toxicity.

How dare she say that to you!! I'm livid on your behalf - after what she's said to you over the time she's been living with you she has so much cheek!

As for "i just want her to love me" - she doesn't and she isn't going to. I doubt she's capable of loving anyone other than herself, and from what she's said, she probably doesn't even love herself that much either. BUT! That is not your problem, and you can't fix her - you can only do what is right for you and that is to insist that they leave as you refuse to live in the atmosphere that she is creating in your home, and absolutely refuse to have your DD put up with it too!

mummy they wouldnt be though would they? They can afford rent, just not the mortgage on the massive place they bought. They just dont want to spend anything by the sound of it.

She is manipulating like tóxico abusive people do.

Don't fall for it.

Whatever you do, dont let your brother take them.

You know that it will end up with him being taken advantage of just as you have and feeling just as you do.

You must present a united front and tell your parents together that your free B&Bs have stopped doing business and they need to stand on their own 2 feet.

So your dad shouts at you? In your own home. Does he shout at your DD while looking after her?

And because he "only" shouts when your Mum causes it it's not his fault, obvs, so he has no reason to change the way he treats you. In your own home.

You really need To get out of this tóxico situation. Be that strong person you already are and tell them to sling their hooks.

You say you have a single Mum friend. Would it be possible for her to move in, when the parents are gone, you could help each other out with childcare and splitting the bills might help both of you out?

Sounds like your mum hates being there.

I wonder how much more difficult your life would be without her in your home. ok, you'd have more practical stuff to do but you wouldn't have to live in what sounds like a miserable situation all round.

I know it's scary to take the plunge into total independence, but really, do you want to continue to live like this?

I would say look, it's not working out, you're not happy, I'm not happy, it's not good for my child to be raised in a home where there's an atmosphere and unhappiness, you need to leave.