To ask that if you don't work but your husband/partner does, do you get an allowance for clothes?

It's family money in our house and we just spend sensible amounts as we need to as we both know our agreed budgetary limits. Neither partner feels that they have the right to deny the other party necessities like clothes when they need replacing.

Although in an ideal word this should have been a discussion you and your dh had before stopping working (for whatever reason).

Not an allowance! Money is split between various accounts - a set amount goes into one joint ac for food, bills, petrol, etc, another amount into another account for yearly bills, contingency and kids activities, other sums into jt savings accounts, and the remainder split evenly between our two personal accounts. It's how we did it when I worked, how we do it now I don't, and how we'll do it when I work again.

We have a joint bank account, all the bills etc come out of it and his salary goes in. We discuss largish purchases but if I need something for the kids / myself I buy it. 'Need' is very wide and includes would like to treat the kids to a toy etc. We generally discuss more expensive treats like clothes etc as money is a bit tight.

We've had this set up for a long time, including when I was working and we had no children. I stopped work to look after the children. Only issues have been due to money being tight with only one salary coming in, DH does not begrudge me buying treats for myself. I view it as family income, so does DH.

You are married - that should mean sharing all you have. You shouldn't have to ask, or discuss. If you can afford treats you should be able to buy them just as he can. Not sure that clothes are treats anyway.

Agree on what you have each in the way of personal spending money per month but spend it as you wish I'd say... Anything else risks setting up an awkward parent-child dynamic, one person's luxury being another person's essential and all that.

This is why I would never stop working unless I had absolutely no choice, tbh.

All money in the same pot. Not his or hers or childrens just 'ours'. Bills paid and equal spends allowed afterward whether it's £1 or £100/ month.

Joint accounts. One for house stuff (so there is always enough for mortgage/bills/car etc - we don't touch this account) and another account for food shopping and everything else including clothes.

What does your DH think? Presumably he buys himself 'nice to have' things?

Dh works i dont, the money goes into my account as i manage all the bills etc, if i need or want to buy something i just buy it, i dont ask.