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Hair removal for girls - what age to start?

(49 Posts)
charmkin Mon 31-May-10 10:17:13

And what method? My dd who is 10 and does a lot of ballet is asking if she can remove the hair on her arms and legs.

The hair is fair but there is a lot of it and it's quite long! Kids in the class have noticed it and commented. I'd let her do it at 11 or 12 I suppose, but is 10 to early?

charmkin Mon 31-May-10 10:17:32

Sorry, too early?

TrillianAstra Mon 31-May-10 10:23:28

Somewhere between 8 and 16, depends when she gets hairy and feels uncomfortable about it.

I don't know that anyone removes the hair on their arms though, so not sure what you'd do there.

deaddei Mon 31-May-10 10:23:36

Tricky one, and this will probably kick off!
DD (13) has just had her legs waxxed as she's gone on a school watersports trip- lots of fair hair on legs. She has been self conscious for a while, and does lots of gym etc, so long legs always on show.
I don't want her to shave, and she is so pleased with the results- didn't even flinch.
10 is young- but then girls mature earlier, and I know I was shaving at 12.
Is she year 5?

castille Mon 31-May-10 10:27:05

I would say when it is bothering her and she is old enough to do it herself and understand the implications (ie the upkeep)

But removing hair on arms? Is that necessary (unless you mean underarms?

charmkin Mon 31-May-10 13:07:31

No she actually has really hairy arms!! Fair and long. Unusually so . And if she wasn't dancing so much it may not notice. She's year 5.

I'm thinking veet cream or something. And i don't know anyone who removes arm hair. Worried that if I don't help her then she'll experiment herself...

Maisiethemorningsidecat Mon 31-May-10 13:11:48

I've been known to remove my (long, blond) arm hair blush

10 doesn't seem to young imo if it's really bothering her - better that than she gets going with a razor when you're not around.

janeite Mon 31-May-10 13:14:39

I think 10 is far too young. Dd1 is 15 and shaves her legs; dd2 is 13 and doesn't bother. I would steer well away from doing anything with her arms, ever.

Chandra Mon 31-May-10 13:17:20

If she is uncomfortable with it, let her do it. There's nothing worse to be teased for something that has a solution.

Chandra Mon 31-May-10 13:17:41

Not the arms though...

MrsMargate Mon 31-May-10 13:21:14

If it's bothering her, at 10 she's not too young imo.

The most important thing is that she understands why shaving - especailly her arms - is a Bad Idea.

What about silky mits?

PosyPetrovaPauline Mon 31-May-10 13:26:39

way too early
14/15 if ever

Maisiethemorningsidecat Mon 31-May-10 13:31:51

As someone who shaves/veets her arms - why is it a bad idea?! No side effects, dark stubble here..

Chandra Mon 31-May-10 13:43:08

Because not everybody is lucky enough not to end with stubs?

flumperoo Mon 31-May-10 13:50:38

I agree with those who say that if she is really bothered by her body hair, then why not remove it? My daughter had very dark hair on her legs and so she used removal cream or silky mits.

Maisiethemorningsidecat Mon 31-May-10 13:52:32

But some people are - surely not a good enough reason to not allow her to shave/veet. If it becomes a problem, then fair enough, stop, if it's not a problem - then, not a problem.

MrsMargate Mon 31-May-10 15:23:58

By the time she finds out if it's a problem she will have stubbly arms and then possibly darker thicker hairs on her arms, that's why.

Why start soemthing that MIGHT become a problem when there's an alternative?

rasputin Mon 31-May-10 15:32:29

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

muggglewump Mon 31-May-10 15:39:53

What's wrong with removing arm hair?

I do, it's really long and looks awful. I epilate it and over the years the regrowth is much less.

I'd go for waxing or epilating straight off, as it lessens the hair over the years.
My DD is not at all concerned yet, she's 8, but when she is bothered by her hair I'll offer her the use of my epilater (to try, with buying her own if she's happy with it) or waxing.

If she wants to shave, or use a silky mitt or cream then I'll show her, but I do think hair removal from the roots is best and wish I had discovered epilating earlier.

MrsMargate Mon 31-May-10 15:40:05

rasputin do you shave your legs/underarms etc?

jellybeans Mon 31-May-10 15:42:16

Many people have hairy arms. I would leave them. I would say secondary age for legs unless you feel last year of primary is OK. My DD is also 10 and asks to shave as she has longish blonde leg hairs but I have said at secondary school age which isn't far away and she seemed happy with. She did try do them herself once though!!

Maisiethemorningsidecat Mon 31-May-10 15:52:14

Nothing wrong with removing arm hair, Muggle! It's a personal choice and certainly doesn't always result in stubble. It depends on their texture - mine are long, thin and blond.

rasputin Mon 31-May-10 15:55:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

muggglewump Mon 31-May-10 15:56:56

Mine are long, thin, but dark!

They are fine until they get really long, but I find epilating has not only lessened the growth, I can do it before they get too long.
No stubble either.

I agree that stubbly arms wouldn't look great.

No reason why different methods can't be used on different areas either.

My Mum was no good at chatting about this sort of thing, though she was happy to buy whatever I asked for, I'd have welcomed some advice and direction from her.

Maisiethemorningsidecat Mon 31-May-10 16:02:19

It's honestly not a slightly mad, lifetime commitment! My arm hairs are very fine but quite dark, and grow very long. From time to time I'll remove them with a razor or veet them, if the notion takes me. I agree that different methods can be used on different areas.

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