So I'm a step parent to a 6 year old and have my own 1 year old, have a DH, work 4 days a week 12.5 hour shifts. Just a bit of information incase any maybe relevant...
I am finding step parenting harder and harder, my step child is quite well behaved and a nice kid but the upheaval when they are here for 3 days just stresses me out so much that I don't enjoy it at all and I am in fact beginning to really despise the time they are here. The extra mess, the occasional cheekiness, always needing attention and entertaining, the constant demand for food/pocket money/to go anywhere expensive drives me mad. There is always an arrangement of when they will be taken home but it's never, ever, stuck to by their mother, she always has an excuse as to why they can't go home or need to stay another night with us or times get changed etc. It really pisses me off and can quite often ruin plans I make with my own child due to needing use of the car!
She has also claimed to her father that my DH doesn't pay child support, he does, it leaves our joint account on the first of every month. Her father sent my DH abuse messages until he sent him PDF's of all the payments. There is just always a drama and I'm so sick of it all. Sick of the mess, sick of the uncertainty of when step child will be going home and sick of the drama. I feel like it effects my relationship with my own child, I'm not even looking forward to Christmas this year, just want it over and done with I'm working anyway but feel there will be some drama at some point and I'm just feeling really down with it all at the minute.
Can someone just please offer some support? I don't know what I'm even looking for, someone in the same situation, a kick up the arse, some sound advice on how to cope with these negative feelings towards step child?
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TheQueens · 22/12/2019 20:32
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