Why would a mother do this ?

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SharonMitchellsBaby Sun 18-Aug-19 13:50:08

Currently on holiday with DH and his 2 children . SD is 15 and her Mum sent a message on the day before we were leaving to ask if we would do laundry that night for the daughter . WTF ? Daughter had been away at a sports camp for the week in the UK BUT not the same clothes she would need for here in hot climate .Mother claims she doesn't have drying space where she currently lives.
Why would you do this ? Why would you not encourage SD to be packed and ready to go at the beginning of the week ? When my DH queried it she said she would tell SD we couldn't do it . Why would you do that ?

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Rachelover40 Sun 18-Aug-19 13:51:53

I've no idea, Sharon. However I would have just put the stuff in the washing machine, no big deal. It's good to help each other at times.

LegoPiecesEverywhere Sun 18-Aug-19 13:52:42

I am not sure what the issue is. If she doesn’t have the drying space and you do then it makes sense to me. SD at 15 is old enough to pack herself without encouragement.

MsPavlichenko Sun 18-Aug-19 13:53:51

She told you why. She didn't have drying space.

Namechangeforthiscancershit Sun 18-Aug-19 13:54:56

Why wouldn't you just wash it?

SharonMitchellsBaby Sun 18-Aug-19 13:55:17

Exactly - 'she told you why " ... wtf ? I'm supposed to be told what to do last minute by someone who can't organise /assist her daughter to be ready for a major holiday ?

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MrsDimmond Sun 18-Aug-19 13:58:08

You're clearly pissed off but I still don't understand what happened to cause it?


LegoPiecesEverywhere Sun 18-Aug-19 13:58:35

It is your holiday. Surely if any assistance is needed it falls to her father.

BogglesGoggles Sun 18-Aug-19 13:58:45

She has a father too you know.

MsPavlichenko Sun 18-Aug-19 14:00:47

She asked you/ Dad if you could do it. Reason as above.

You can do it or not. Your choice.

Also your choice to waste time on holiday winding yourself up. Try to relax.

MrsDimmond Sun 18-Aug-19 14:02:50

If your dsd needs organising and assisting to prepare for the holiday you and dh are taking her on then that is dh's responsibility.
Washing the clothes from a sports camp is a separate issue and doesn't sound like a big deal.

SharonMitchellsBaby Sun 18-Aug-19 14:12:18

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes .

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SharonMitchellsBaby Sun 18-Aug-19 14:12:34

wash not ask.

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SharonMitchellsBaby Sun 18-Aug-19 14:13:27

What are the thoughts on the fact that a 15 year old should be doing laundry/getting organised herself ?

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PortiaCastis Sun 18-Aug-19 14:16:45

What's her Father doing about it can't he throw some things in the machine for his own dd

SuzieQ10 Sun 18-Aug-19 14:17:04

Sounds like you just want a reason to moan about the ex.

SmartPlay Sun 18-Aug-19 14:18:07

I agree with most pp - don't really understand what the big issue is. Why can't you or her dad wash her clothes?
And you should know why your 15 year old stepdaughter doesn't think of it herself, how should strangers on the internet know? But considering that she apparently is/has been going away with you right after coming back from another trip, I guess it's fair to assume that she was occupied with preparing for her first trip and didn't think about packing for the second one.

MrsDimmond Sun 18-Aug-19 14:18:45

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes

Eh? What's pride got to do with it??

She dhoukd have asked your dh as he's the other parent but I still have no idea what the problem is.

And yes, I'd encourage dsd to put the wash on herself and dry it ...

Duvetdazed Sun 18-Aug-19 14:20:12

At 15 she should be more than capable of doing it herself.

Blondieg Sun 18-Aug-19 14:20:13

Sorry, I'm confused, was girl at camp? Didn't have time to pack?

chemenger Sun 18-Aug-19 14:20:52

It’s washing; it’s a trivial request unless you have to take it down to a river and beat it on rocks. If this is the whole story you just sound petty.

crustycrab Sun 18-Aug-19 14:20:55

Why couldn't her dad put a wash on or let SD use the washer? Are you saying none of her clothes are suitable for the climate?

MrsDimmond Sun 18-Aug-19 14:22:34

OP hasn't said what issues there were with preparation for holiday or what she thinks dsd's dm should have done.

Redglitter Sun 18-Aug-19 14:29:49

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes

Ffs shes asked you as the girls step Mum shes not stopped some random in the street. I really cant see what the big deal is

MrsHound Sun 18-Aug-19 14:30:07

Sharon, bung the wash on and be grateful this is all you have to worry about!

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