I'm posting about difficulties with my Grandsons behaviour.
He is almost 11 and for about the past year has been having extreme out bursts of anger, ( he has always had quite a temper from when he was small). The past year or so his anger has got much worse, he has become verbally abusive, and physically threatening and abusive towards his family. In school he is doing ok educationally, he is sociable with other children, quite popular actually....he wouldn't be if they could see how he behaves at home!!!! His parents have been back and forth to the doctors about his behaviour. The doctors doesnt think that he has Autism, Aspergers, ADHD because he behaves well in school, at rugby, football etc. The doctor says that if he had any of these above conditions he would be like it evereywhere?? and is putting his behaviour down to "Behavioural Issues"?? Every day for the past 9 - 10 months he has meltdowns several times a day, before school, after school, before bedtime are the most "usual times" but he can go ballistic at other times too over the smallest of things that he is not happy about, that annoys / upsets him. He can say the nastiest things, swearing, threatening, insulting and do things like throwing things about, ripping things up, breaking things, totally wreck his bedroom, throw things at any of his family, run at them fist raised, or with something to hit one of them with, actually hit one of them, push them etc. The doctor after several visits has, finally, referred him to CAMHS and other family relationship services / councilling etc but all this is taking time and he and his family are really really struggling to cope. They have taken him to A & E twice in desperation for some answers, had the police talk to him twice out of desperation to get the message across to him that he can't threaten and attack them. He has had a a couple of councilling sessions with Local Authority Mental Health type people who with no improvement in his behaviour what so ever then tried to sign him out of their care??, been to a couple of private councilling sessions which made a very slight difference for a few days. Our main problem, I think, is not having a proper diagnosis of what is actually wrong with him? so any ideas / advice from anyone would be most welcome.
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CherylDbb · 30/11/2019 13:02
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