Basic demographic statistics tell me that there must be loads of folk with 20, 30 or even 40 years of stable and happy marriage behind them who could provide valuable support to users of Mumsnet Talk. These same people could also provide a wealth of stories explaining how they coped with the various problems identified by current users of the site. The sad truth is I am not convinced that many of them would want to get involved: certainly not as anything more than lurkers.
Giving advice, certainly anything more than very general advice such as ?see a doctor?, based on only knowing half the story is clearly a very risky process. I respectfully suggest that anybody who has made their marriage work for many years would be well aware of this. Sadly it looks to me as if few posters make the effort to present a balanced review of their situation since time and again I have waded through lengthy lists of the faults of a husband without seeing any mentions of faults attributable to the wife. I suggest that experienced ?marrieds?, the very type with most to offer, will not get involved on this basis. Frankly we have more sense.
The older potential users of the site have a much lower tolerance of bad language than the younger generation and the routine use of bad language by some people giving advice will scare off exactly the type of person with most to offer. In the same way the ?all men are bastards? view of the world expounded by some posters is almost wholly counter-productive if providing support to people in distress is really own aim.
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MaryfromBrum · 18/06/2009 08:31
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