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New love interest expecting a baby with his ex

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MyNameIsNotYourName Thu 25-May-17 20:24:36

I met this guy online and have been seeing him for the past couple of months. I really like him and want to see what happens between us but he's just found out that his ex is 3 months pregnant with his baby. They already have two children together so this is their third.
He's reassured me that nothing is going on between his ex and him and I'd like to trust what he says as he hasn't given me a reason not to.
I chose to stick around because I really like him but the situation worries me. Am I right to try and see what happens between us or should I walk away and find someone else?

Plumkettle Thu 25-May-17 20:25:47

I'd be very cautious OP. Only 3 months pregnant? And you've been seeing him for 2? Yes, very very cautious.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Thu 25-May-17 20:26:39

Don't walk away.
Fucking run!

2014newme Thu 25-May-17 20:27:13

Run. You'd be bonkers to get involved.

Blossomdeary Thu 25-May-17 20:28:47

If I were you I would lose interest at great speed. Do you need anyone else to tell you this?

MyNameIsNotYourName Thu 25-May-17 20:29:03

He seems to really like me though, I don't doubt at all that he doesn't. We see each other every weekend and it's always so lovely being in each other's company

number1wang Thu 25-May-17 20:30:23

grin Blimey, he doesn't hang about, does he OP?
I'd be astonished if anyone on this thread tells you any differently.

Alisvolatpropiis Thu 25-May-17 20:30:48

I wouldn't want to be involved with that in all honesty.

MyNameIsNotYourName Thu 25-May-17 20:31:03

He's been split with his ex for a while but this pregnancy resulted after a one night thing they had together

Mamagin Thu 25-May-17 20:31:16

What reason has he given as to why he split up with the mother of his children?

2014newme Thu 25-May-17 20:31:32

He really likes you because most women wouldn't be as stupid as to get involved in this scenario

ShelaghTurner Thu 25-May-17 20:31:37

I don't usually get involved in the relationships topic but blimey. He's working fast to have been seeing you for 2 months and have his ex 3 months pregnant. Run like the wind!

user76895432 Thu 25-May-17 20:31:38

Run far and run fast.

He has wrong un written all over him.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Thu 25-May-17 20:32:05

Run away as fast as you can!

MyNameIsNotYourName Thu 25-May-17 20:32:26

He doesn't want to be with his ex. They don't work as a couple

Lunar1 Thu 25-May-17 20:33:25

Run, very fast.

2014newme Thu 25-May-17 20:33:51

You aren't listening so why did you bother posting

2014newme Thu 25-May-17 20:34:19

12 weeks ago we shagging her so...

MyNameIsNotYourName Thu 25-May-17 20:34:21

I messaged his ex who confirmed to me that nothing is going on between the two of them

MyFavouriteName Thu 25-May-17 20:34:33

3 months pregnant means they slept together 2.5 months ago. So a couple of weeks before you started dating? I wouldn't bother. Far too complicated and messy.

Umpteenthnamechange Thu 25-May-17 20:35:25

Why did you post OP?

ravenmum Thu 25-May-17 20:35:29

For someone who doesn't want to be with his "ex", he's not working too hard at not being with her, is he?

Come now, no-one is going to say this is a good idea!

Georgieporgiepuddinandpie Thu 25-May-17 20:35:47

Do you generally like any man who likes you?

That's a genuine question. Some women are happy with a man just on the basis that he likes them. Strive for something more OP

UpYerGansey Thu 25-May-17 20:40:43

Madness. Run away 🏃

Hermonie2016 Thu 25-May-17 20:41:37

You just don't know what you are getting into..its going to several years before everything settles.

He was online in a matter of weeks or earlier..if he did this to the mother of his 2 children he will do this to other women.

His past behaviour is likely to be an indicator to his future behaviour.
He must be a charmer..his ex fell for it.
It's massive red flags..can you see he's on his best behaviour?

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