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Is this cheating ?

(128 Posts)
Lilacflower Sat 20-Dec-14 20:42:21

Man and woman cuddling, holding hands, general touching and kissing on the cheek. They are both married.

FreudianStockingFiller Sat 20-Dec-14 20:50:50

Not if the man and woman are married to each other and kissing, holding hands, general touching and kissing the cheek of their spouse.......no.

And your point is?

Lilacflower Sat 20-Dec-14 20:52:38

both married to other people

FreudianStockingFiller Sat 20-Dec-14 20:52:50

Although they could be parent and child....

again, what is your point?

deserttrek Sat 20-Dec-14 20:54:11

Lilac
This is a riddle? Yes?
They are brother and sister....haha
What's your point?

GingerbreadPudding Sat 20-Dec-14 20:55:43

If my husband was doing this with another woman I'd be heartbroken.

Tobyjugg Sat 20-Dec-14 20:56:58

Presumably you're witnessing this in rl while you're out somewhere?

Lilacflower Sat 20-Dec-14 20:58:09

No, it was me doing it, I was the woman. Not sure if I can talk about it to anyone in real life but wanted another opinion or two.

FelicityGubbins Sat 20-Dec-14 20:58:47

It's disrespectful as hell at the very least...

mandy214 Sat 20-Dec-14 20:58:51

On the basis that you're asking because your spouse is doing this with a married man / woman then yes, it would be cheating as far as I'm concerned because it sounds as though there is an emotional connection between them.

Tyzer85 Sat 20-Dec-14 20:59:14

I'd consider it highly inappropriate and cheating.

FreudianStockingFiller Sat 20-Dec-14 20:59:31

Have someone said you're cheating? Do you think you were?

NaiceNickname Sat 20-Dec-14 20:59:36

Would you be happy with your husband doing this with another woman?

CountingThePennies Sat 20-Dec-14 20:59:40

I dont think its cheating, but its something that you shouldnt really be doing

AuntieStella Sat 20-Dec-14 21:00:29

What do you think your DH would conclude if he saw it?

deserttrek Sat 20-Dec-14 21:00:31

Well, actually it wouldn't be cheating if they were actors and this was a scene from a Hollywood film. hmm
Hmmmm......lots of possibilities....
But we don't know what Lilac's point is, so this is a pointless post really.

chemistc Sat 20-Dec-14 21:01:05

YES it is cheating!

FreudianStockingFiller Sat 20-Dec-14 21:02:11

Yes, lots of possibilities. OP I'm not sure what you're looking for.

lunar1 Sat 20-Dec-14 21:02:32

I'd think it was cheating if this was my dh.

deserttrek Sat 20-Dec-14 21:03:02

No, Lilac, its not cheating.
Not if you asked your DH for permission and then he gave it to you.
Why ask? I presume you are an adult?
Good luck.

Lilacflower Sat 20-Dec-14 21:04:24

I just feel wrong about it, was with a colleague I've had a mad crush on that I've been trying to get over as not fair on my DH sad Then we had team drinks and thid happened. Feel sick about it.

NaiceNickname Sat 20-Dec-14 21:06:24

Maybe tell your DH what has happened. Surely it's up to him to decide whether it's cheating or not.

Lilacflower Sat 20-Dec-14 21:06:47

Just wanted to know what people thought as I ferl guilty about it.

zaracharlotte Sat 20-Dec-14 21:08:01

Yes, it is. I'd be devastated if DH did that.

originalusernamefail Sat 20-Dec-14 21:09:09

The fact you feel guilty is all the answer you need..........

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