Bit of background. My ex used to pay me £160 a month maintenance for our 2 children. I pick them up from his Monday morning and do all the school runs and drop them off at his Friday after school.
He's just got married, he's never worked due to mostly laying on a disability and receiving DLA. He used to get around £1000 in benefits which meant he contributed £160 a month. Now he gets his £400 DLA plus tax credits and working tax joint as she works part time whiles he looks after her children. Over all from what he told me they do very well for money and she receives maintenance for her kids too.
Three weeks ago she messaged me saying she wasn't letting him pay a penny anymore. We argued, I decided that I couldn't stop my children seeing their dad as it would make them hate me, that his dad should contribute to things such as school uniforms etc. They refused that too! Saying they are only providing for them the time they have them and nothing more!! That my OH is now responsible for them.
Now my OH does provide for them, has for the 2 years we live together. But I'm disgusted they can decide I have to do everything Mon - Fri. Pay for everything, pay for every holiday. I've asked them to help out more with uniforms, school trips, do more during the week so things are more equal so I can work more. They refused!!
I feel so trapped :( I can't refused to send the kids as they would be upset, but they want to provide zero, they never take them out or on holiday. Every week they change the plans and say they can't pick them up and ask me to drop them off which is an absolute piss take as they have a motability car for ex. I can't exactly say contribute and pull your weight or u can't see the kids. I've tried that and it's the kids who suffer as they just wait it out till the kids cry to see their dad and I can't bare to make my kids suffer over money!
Has anybody been in this situation ? I've decided all I can do is my best by my children and they will grow up and see the truth. However I'm furious and upset too as he even demanded I give him half my tax credits even though we don't parent 50/50!
Sorry for the long disjointed post, 2 poorly children jumping allover me as I'm trying to type
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children's dad is refusing to pay maintenance?
Missqwerty · 03/12/2014 14:56
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