Not huge decisions like where to live or which car to buy, but little things like where to keep the house plants.
I have a problem with my husband always moving things around (and he feels the same way about me).
Today we discussed whether to keep recipe books in the kitchen or the lounge shelves. I've put up with the books in the kitchen for about 2 years and they get used probably annually. But today I moved things off the windowsill and it was so lovely to see some space! When I mentioned the idea of moving the books back to the lounge I got a sharp "no!" and so if I really want to I clearly will have to do it by stealth (he won't bother to change it for a while and might even forget).
But I don't want to control him and don't want to be controlled by him! I just wish he didn't want to live in such a mess and expect me to as well.
Whenever I've talked to him and explained this, he's got a bit huffy and said he shouldn't have to do what I want. I return that idea back at him but he then gets huffy and seems to think its all one sided, and won't look at it reasonably.
So mumsnetters - do you have the same sort if skirmishes over silly little things and how do you decide who fairly 'wins'?
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How do you make little daily decisions without controlling or being controlled by a partner?
Contemplates · 18/02/2014 22:56
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