We have been together for 16 years. I don't even know where to begin, he's very work driven. I work PT and do all the childcare/housework blah blah blah. This doesn't bother me.
Recently though things have just deteriorated. He comes home from work, barely speaks to the children or asks how they are. First thing he said to ds1 (15) tonight was to take the dog out, nothing else.
I've tried speaking to him on numerous occasions about taking more of an interest in dc's but he thinks it's a personal attack on him and gets all defensive then storms off.
Financially he pays the bills. I pay for the dc's phones every month and a couple more Direct Debits then buying shoes, clothes etc for dc. I never buy myself anything. We actually argued on my last pay day whilst out shopping because he said he doesn't know what I do with all my money. I work 20 hours pw on minimum wage. Not exactly sitting on a fortune every month.
I don't smoke, drink, go out at all. My whole life is work, kids, work, kids. Don't get me wrong I love my kids, they are the only thing keeping me going right now.
As the title says I can't even speak to him at all. I feel utterly miserable. It's half term here, I'm off work and can't even afford to do anything. At the moment I'm in the bedroom and he's watching football.
It probably reads like a big jumbled up mess but just had to get it down. I just want to scream. I even thought about just walking out the door yesterday and not coming back. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells half the time. The laughter and fun we used to have has just gone and I don't know if it will be back. I just don't know what to do right now.
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I can't even bring myself to speak to my husband anymore.
MrsZippy · 18/02/2014 20:48
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