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Who's going to start dating thread No57?

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akaWisey Sat 22-Jun-13 20:16:20

Or am I going to be 'one' <smirks at irony>

Flipper924 Sat 22-Jun-13 21:25:28

Whoops, forgot to welcome nkf. I'm not actively dating at the moment, it's not a prerequisite of the thread.

Disclaimer: i'm not actively avoiding dating. I'd be there like a bloody shot if anyone decent actually asked me out.

Ikeameatballs Sat 22-Jun-13 21:27:13

I split up with ex-p of over 10 years and 2dc in Feb and I am starting to think about dating again but feel really strange about it all. Is OD the best way to start given I never seem to meet single straight men irl?

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:27:18

Thanks, guys. I feel very welcome and also like a complete fraud. My closest to dating has been occasionally looking on Guardian soulmates and a half completed profile on Parship.

brokenhearted55 Sat 22-Jun-13 21:28:12

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TortillasAndChocolate Sat 22-Jun-13 21:30:51

Place marking. Going to grab a glass of wine and catch up.

Met up with ex friend of ex last night. Will explain and update properly once I've found out what's going on elsewhere.

So far I gather basically all shall be well. So I'm reassured. grin

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:34:37

Woohooo I've found some booze I'd forgotten about <does I have booze dance>

Broken how long ago was all this ? (And apologies if you've said before and I've missed it )

brokenhearted55 Sat 22-Jun-13 21:40:05

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Flipper924 Sat 22-Jun-13 21:41:37

Ooh, Nora, what have you found? Please tell me you're not raiding the cooking sherry...

OhWesternWind Sat 22-Jun-13 21:43:45

Ooh nkf I think Parship might be a little bit odd as you can't see photos or anything til you pay ... Might be better options out there but it all depends on what you're looking for and whereabouts in the country you are. Looking and lurking is a good plan though to get you in the mood.

Ikea why not give od a try and see how you get on with it? The thought of it is probably more daunting than the reality!

Broken lovely you really don't seem in the right place for dating at the moment. Maybe leave it for a little while? But please feel free to keep posting on here whether you're dating or not.

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:48:15

I'm a bit nervous about the idea of photos, so that doesn't worry me. I would hate to put a photo up. Soulmates I read for a laugh really. They all sound so soulful and earnest. I live in London and so the lists that come up usually feature photographers and poets and free spirits. Nothing wrong with any of those things, but it all sounds a bit odd on a profile.

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:48:59

I bet it's not cooking sherry. It's some Croatian liqueur brought back from holiday.

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:49:34

You still sound terribly sad, petal. I'd love to be able to dispense wise words that will make it easier but I haven't managed to discover any that work, the trick is to be gentle with yourself and incrementally you will start to feel better - there will still be bad days but it will happen.
Everyone on here understands, you know.

brokenhearted55 Sat 22-Jun-13 21:50:13

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KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:51:55

Pssshaww Flipper, way more classy than that - a small bottle of M&S Cava, tucked away in my suitcase.

(I am drinking it from the bottle though. In bed )

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:52:44

nfk Soulmates is Land of The Knobber.

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:54:22

Thanks for the heads up!

Winefiend Sat 22-Jun-13 21:55:03

I like your style Nora. I made an Irn Bru/tequila concoction at 2am (ish) this morn out of desperation. Sadly my hangover has led to me tanking the rest of the Irn Bru and I have just spent the last of the pennies in me purse on chips sad

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:56:46

Honest, Soulmates has just been dire, I thought it'd be right up my street, no one likes a pinko liberal, sensitive man than me (I have form) but it's been a parade of earnest, flaky twonks.

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:57:03

I had a gin and tonic in bed last night. Really, I have no hope. My domestic habits have become so sluttish that no man would ever want to know. Thing is the idea of becoming a slightly dotty old lady who drinks a little too much sherry of an evening is very appealing.

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 21:57:55

Irn Bru is magic.

In desperation I once squeezed out Capri Sun pouches into vodka.

nkf Sat 22-Jun-13 21:58:20

Oh dear. Guitar players? 50 and not sure if they can commit? Permanently on courses?

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 22:00:55

Oh aye, I had a rash of artists too.

( Earlier I found myself checking the nudes that Software has put online in the last month, desperately hoping none of them looked like me)

Winefiend Sat 22-Jun-13 22:06:45

I am also becoming incredibly sluttish (sadly not in the preferred manner but that's what Lovehoney is for) since living here on me own. It is so so so enjoyable though. I love my ex to bits (in a platonic sense) but it is so good to be able to eat/watch/plod about doing my own thing without raised eyebrows/questions. Soooo good grin

Capri sun. Now there's an idea.

stopusingmynicknames Sat 22-Jun-13 22:14:07

well, wind, I am still fairly new to dating sites. Came out of a relationship 3 months ago and rashly got on a site last month. chap tomorrow is the first one. it all looks good regarding matching our profiles, but I'm worried that it'll all go wrong on the date!
gotta remember to just be me but then if I'm rejected it is ME he's rejecting! Argh! What's wrong with lounging on the sofa on my own for the rest of my life????

OhWesternWind Sat 22-Jun-13 22:21:17

Sounds good Nickname. The way to look at it is, is he good enough for you, rather than the other way round. First first date is the worst one, it does get easier. I think if you go expecting a pleasant evening out and nothing more then it's a lovely surprise bonus if there is that old elusive spark, and not too much of a disappointment if there isn't. Will you do a loo update?

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