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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

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Mouseface Wed 01-May-13 17:32:28

Hello, I'm Mouse smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. smile

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing wink.

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a brew. Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers wink

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.



ohcluttergotme Fri 03-May-13 10:10:05

Aw I know what you mean, I've started moisturising at night which not done in a while. Feels good to go to bed organised & not wake up in the morning having to play catch up from night before. Does sound like you are having to juggle an awful lot just now no wonder you want to run away for a bit.
Could you maybe try a rota so that if you made tea, dd washes dishes, dh bathes little one & you could go for a swim/run/scream! & when you come back little one ready for bed, dishes done? This is kinda what we do altho I've never left, I normally wash dishes & dd dries or other way if dishes not too bad. Dd gets allowance £5 per week & this is if she helps with dishes, room tidy.
I've heard candy crush is highly addictive but not fair of them to leave it all to you.

dementedma Fri 03-May-13 10:46:34

he lives locally
have texted him again asking if ok - still no answer....
If no response, will go round at weekend and see if he is there.
got a real horrible feeling about this..

babyjane1 Fri 03-May-13 11:07:13

clutter that's a great idea, will discuss this tonight, never tried a rota but sometimes things written down carry more weight, thanks babe x x x ma this is a dreadful situation for you to be in, I truly hope everything is ok, warm hug coming your way x x x

obrigada Fri 03-May-13 11:28:01

Ma, hope Richard is oksad

Orchidlady Fri 03-May-13 11:43:47

Morning all, another spectacular fail last night, too much Red wine and Whiskey. Still not feeling so bad this morning, Other than panicking as found wobbly tooth, oh god I am going to end up toothless old hag. mouse hope all goes well with dr, the more you talk about your symptoms seems more likely diabetes. It is all about carb control if it is. Keeping fingers crossed for you

aliasjoey Fri 03-May-13 11:44:38

ma can you go tonight and put your mind at rest?

Lemonylemon Fri 03-May-13 13:31:17

Afternoon ladies...

mouse didn't think you'd appreciate that little story grin Glad that nemo had a wonderful day. Your DD is so lovely too.

ma keeping my fingers crossed for your brother.

Everyone else: Onwards and upwards. Stay strong. x

Day 4 here.

dementedma Fri 03-May-13 14:32:29

ok, his curtains are drawn and not answering door. DH has been round and hammered on it. Barman in nearby pub says last saw him on Tuesday! angry sad
Dh will go round again this afternoon.

Orchidlady Fri 03-May-13 14:41:10

ma I don't know your story re DB but you sound upset. Is it likely he could have gone away? if you have real cause for concern, maybe go to police. Sorry I can't be more helpful.

obrigada Fri 03-May-13 15:05:34

Is it rented flat Ma? Any chance of contacting landlord?

PurpleWolfe Fri 03-May-13 16:02:18

Ma It really might be time to get the police involved if DH can't get an answer. Praying there is another obvious answer. Hugs. xxxxxxx

Theala Fri 03-May-13 16:45:01

It does sound like time for the police, Ma. Sorry.

Thanks for the welcome (back) guys. Dp came around last night after I posted and has said he still loves me and wants to sort things out. So we'll see what happens there.

I'm home alone this evening as he's away. I was meant to be going to a friend's house, but I know I'd just end up drinking too much with him, and I'm already exhausted and I have a lot on tomorrow, so I've cancelled. I have a good book and a lot of green tea instead.

Mouseface Fri 03-May-13 17:21:59

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Fucking hell Ma, what a complete shit bag worry he is. I'm sorry but I'm livid on your behalf, I KNOW that you love him, I KNOW that he is your brother but look at what he's doing to YOU and your family. He's selfish and irresponsible and I am sick and tied of reading the hurt, the worry, the anger and the absolute terror in your posts so can't begin to understand how you feel.

Ma - I care so much about you and your family, Richard is slowly destroying you all and himself. It's heart breaking, and seems to be up to you to deal with all of this, I'm sorry that you are going through such uncertain times, day in day out not knowing where he is, who he's with and how he feels? It's shocking, it's horrid and terrifying for you all.

I hope with all of my heart that he is safe, alive and well enough to get through this current drinking binge. He is a very sobering reality for us all....... much love to you all Ma. Please keep posting xxxx

lonnika Fri 03-May-13 17:26:55

Hi all and thanks for the welcomes - I am on day 4 whoop whoop !!!! - A bit of background I think I am a habitual drinker and following a health scare 5 weeks ago I decided to evaluate my life and cut down on drinking. I have done that but since finding and reading this thread amongst others I have decided to stop altogether smile) I want to be fit and healthy smile). Excited about the future - have a real goal to aim for - I AM NOT DRINKING TODAY smile
Good luck to all

dementedma Fri 03-May-13 18:14:06

Thanks all. Bless you mouse for getting how it feels.
I'm telling myself it could just be his phone isn't working, or he's away for a few days...don't want to be melodramatic. I can get access to the flat tomorrow when I can get hold of the landlord. I will do that if no response tonight. If he's' there I will deal with it whatever state he is in. If he isn't there is he a missing person? How many days before an adult is considered missing?
orchid lady thank you. My brother is an alcoholic. Nuff said.

ruralreynard Fri 03-May-13 18:29:52

Ma thinking of you. Hope you manage to contact your brother tonight.
If not access to the flat tomorrow sounds good and should lead to some answers.
Sort of want to say he's probably OK as I have late 20's son who is alcoholic and he does that sort of thing all the time.
Having said that he scares me to death and I think the worst until I speak to him again, so sort of know what its like iyswim.
isinde thanks for remembering me great to see you here.
mouse you know I think you are wonderwoman, hope all is well with you today.
Still drinking, life with not so dear husband still just that.
Will get back on the bus soon and so jealous of you sober babes.
Keep going ODAAT.

Mouseface Fri 03-May-13 18:47:07

Ma - if he has not been seen for 24 and you are concerned then yes, after 24 hours, he is a missing person. You have every reason to report him as such and of you feel he is in danger MUST DO SO.

The police have a duty of care, alcoholic or not to make sure that he is safe.

Hang on a mo...............

greeneyed Fri 03-May-13 18:47:42

ma you poor thing sad . I hope to goodness things are okay. Assume DH is coming with you tomorrow. How's your mum?

Mouseface Fri 03-May-13 18:51:39

Ma - Have a look HERE


Sorry Ma - it's not 24 anymore, so do what you have to. Lots of love, prayers and thoughts for you my lovely xxx

aliasjoey Fri 03-May-13 18:53:44

Right it is a MYTH that you have to wait before calling the police about a missing adult. Depending on the circumstances (illness, mental health, age) the police will investigate immediately.

Sorry, I just read that stupid myth in a book yesterday, and think it's so irresponsible for an author to write something which so many readers may believe.

aliasjoey Fri 03-May-13 18:57:44

Sorry, hope that didn't come across as rude, I meant the author was stupid and irresponsible.

And x-posted with mouse grin

Mouseface Fri 03-May-13 19:01:25

IF you have the slightest concern, esp with Richard's background you can contact the police. xx

Mouseface Fri 03-May-13 21:52:43

Right, I'm offski.

Ma - you have my number if you need anything. Are you okay?

Sleep well Babes, busy day tomorrow. Cake making for Nemo and cleaning ready for when my mother arrives smile

Be safe xxxxx

dementedma Fri 03-May-13 22:35:29

I'm OK. Been out for a meet up with the lovely venus and the roughasabadgersarse equally lovely indie
No word from Richard. Flat was in darkness when I went past on way home. Will find him tomorrow - one way or another

greeneyed Fri 03-May-13 22:54:41

Thinking of you Ma

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