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How to deal with item being stolen from DS ar school?

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LMonkey Sun 16-Dec-18 15:31:02

We gave DS a smart watch which cost £35 for his 6th birthday a week ago. We forbade him from taking it to school as obviously its too good a toy to risk losing. He was caught out trying to sneak it in to school one day. The next day he successfully sneaked it in to school but the teacher, knowing that he wasn't meant to have it (as he'd seen us take it off him the day before) quite rightly took it and kept it on his desk all day. He gave it back to DS at the end of the day. DS says he put it in his book bag, however by the time he had come out to me (right outside the classroom) it was not in there. We went back in, looked around with the teacher, no luck. The teacher posted a message to all the parents on the online journal that evening to ask the parents to "ask the children if they had seen the watch". He also asked the children about it next day in class. Still nothing.

How do you think I should deal with this from now? The teacher said that he had done all he could, and I accepted that initially, but now what is bothering me is that one of my son's classmates has taken the watch, either stolen it or maybe hidden it, and it's not being dealt with?? It's definitely one of the kids in his class. Surely it can't just be forgotten about so that the kid who took it thinks he can just take stuff and get away with it?

I do realise its 6 year olds I'm talking about here but surely it needs to be addressed!

Sirzy Sun 16-Dec-18 15:33:55

I don’t think there is much else you can do.

In a way I would just use it as a good lesson in what happens when you decide to ignore rules!

SweepTheHalls Sun 16-Dec-18 15:34:34

There is nothing you can do. He knew he was not allowed to take it to school. He ignored you. He now has the consequences.

adviceonthepox Sun 16-Dec-18 15:36:11

It's not the schools responsibility to keep your sons belongings safe. He should never have taken it in and has learnt the hard way why expensive items are not to be taken in.

CottonSock Sun 16-Dec-18 15:36:56

He lost it. Lesson there. Accusing 6 year olds of stealing is a bit low really.

LMonkey Sun 16-Dec-18 15:37:44

That's the only thing that can be taken from this at the moment sirzy, I agree!

From DS's point of view it will be a lesson learned, just seems so wrong that there's no consequence for the kid who took it sad

GreenTulips Sun 16-Dec-18 15:38:56

It may turn up. Not sure how much time you expect staff to have to look for lost items.

He's done his bit.

Your son knew the rules and ignored them. His loss.

FlibbertyGiblets Sun 16-Dec-18 15:39:00

Your son has learnt the hard way not to take valuables into school.

Don't replace the lost watch either.

purplecorkheart Sun 16-Dec-18 15:39:32

In all fairness, what else do you expect the School/Teacher to do?

FlibbertyGiblets Sun 16-Dec-18 15:39:39

You don't know that a child took it.

RebelWitchFace Sun 16-Dec-18 15:39:52

The things is there's not a lot they CAN do unless they have CCTV where the bags are which I doubt. They can't strip search the kids or interrogate them until they crack.
If a parent does come forward then they can deal with it as they'll know who did it.

RavenWings Sun 16-Dec-18 15:41:53

What else do you expect the school to do, polygraph the kids?

Fairenuff Sun 16-Dec-18 15:43:23

Most parents will return things they find in their child's bag.

School can't do any more though. What do you think they could do?

LMonkey Sun 16-Dec-18 15:44:48

But they are stealing, cottonsock, I'm not about to go up to the kids, stare them in the face and outright accuse them, but the fact is it has been taken.

I was rather hoping it had accidentally made its way into someone's bag and the parents would find it and bring it back in.

Agreed it's not the schools responsibility, agreed it's a lesson that's been learned but surely strealing property needs to be addressed??

Kind of feel that my point is being missed here confused

Mayra1367 Sun 16-Dec-18 15:45:06

Nothing school can do .

Ethel36 Sun 16-Dec-18 15:45:55

A similar thing happened to one of my children. It is upsetting when you realised a classmate must have stolen it. But at least it teaches them a lesson, to leave valuables at home! You never know it might be found by a parent and brought back in.

BlueberryCat Sun 16-Dec-18 15:45:54

Unfortunately there's not much that can be done - it's a very (difficult!) lesson learned!

I work in a school and have seen this happen many times. If a parent/child chooses to bring something in of value then it is their responsibility. As much as I try to remind them that it's not a good idea!

IShitChristmasGlitter Sun 16-Dec-18 15:49:24

Its been lost wether its stolen or not is irrelevant he lost it. Its his own fault he should have listened to you in the first place.

purplecorkheart Sun 16-Dec-18 15:50:05

No you are assuming it was stolen. Your son could have broken it between it being returned to him and getting home and threw it away thinking he would get in less trouble. He could have lent it tona friend etc. There are other possibilities. I am guessing in the current legal climate no school is going to make accusations in these circumstances and leave themselves open to potential lawsuits.

Fairenuff Sun 16-Dec-18 15:50:09

What do you want the school to do OP?

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat Sun 16-Dec-18 15:52:44

‘They’ aren’t stealing. One has possibly stolen but you can’t tar all of them with the same brush. Your ds is equally as guilty of misbehaving because he didn’t listen to your rules.

Thesearmsofmine Sun 16-Dec-18 15:53:38

Agree with pp to use it is a lesson, the teacher can’t do anything more.

If a child did take it they probably hid it so their parent may not be aware that their child has it.

LIZS Sun 16-Dec-18 15:53:50

It should not have been in school and you do not know it was stolen rather than dropped/lost. Ask school to mention it in a newsletter in case it is found. Was it insured?

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Sun 16-Dec-18 15:54:33

I can see that it's really frustrating, but realistically what do you think school and or should do next? I think they've done as much as they can. It may still turn up.

RebelWitchFace Sun 16-Dec-18 15:58:24

Well they might have a chat about stealing or even an assembly. Things about trust and feeling safe and what not.

There's nothing they can actually do to find and sanction the kid who did it. Not only do they not know who it was, but there's no proof it was actually stolen, your DS might've lied, given it to a friend, lost it (on the way to his bag, fell out of the bag etc).

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