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Am I suffering second infertility

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user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 05:55

Okay... I am 17 years old me and my boyfriend had our beautiful daughter 4months ago I was breastfeeding I stopped after two months. My period returned a month after she was born whilst I was breastfeeding I have had 4periods since and have noticed my cycle is now 36days... I have not got pregnant me and my boyfriend have had unprotected sex everyday and still no pregnancy? I am scared that I might be suffering second infertility or how long does fertility to return after birth?? Someone please tell me there is a reason

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user1477282676 · 05/02/2017 05:58

It's probable that your body is simply not ready. You're 17 which isn't even fully grown. Why do you want a baby so soon?

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:22

I've had a baby already I'm wondering if it's second infertility or something

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user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:27

I've had a baby and it's like I'm not getting pregnant and I want to know why is it cause I'm infertile and I want to know when does fertility come back after birth

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Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 06:30

You sound like you have no idea about fertility, for someone who already has a baby.

You were breastfeeding for two months, and your current baby is 4 months old, is that right? You've had a few periods in that time - so having been trying(are you trying?) for a couple of months you think you are infertile?

It can take several months and sometimes over a year to get pregnant naturally. You are not suffering from any kind of infertility if you have only been trying for a couple of months.

If you really want another baby this soon, then you should buy ovulation sticks and chart your ovulation, and have sex around this. Then you will be more likely to become pregnant.

Unless you are desperate for two children roughly a year apart, I would give your body a short break to recover before you start to try again.

Motherfuckers · 05/02/2017 06:30

Many people get pregnant again quickly, many don't. You may be infertile, you may not. I don't think any doctors would look into this at only 4 months postpartum.

PenelopeParmesan · 05/02/2017 06:31

It's normal to not conceive while breastfeeding a newborn. So your cycle probably only returned in the last 1 or 2 months.

But 17,with a new baby and trying for another? Why on earth do you want another already? You haven't had time to get to know the first one yet.

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:33

Thankyou guys I just am not sure what's going on with my body? I want my children close together it's just not working and I have no idea why the reasearch I'm doing just isn't giving me answers 😩 So how long after birth does it take for fertility to return... I hope I'm not I fertile

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Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 06:37

They will still be pretty close together even if it takes you another year to conceive. You are having periods regularly, you are only 17 years old, you have recently had a baby. These facts make it quite likely that you will conceive a baby within a year of trying.

Motherfuckers · 05/02/2017 06:38

I was pregnant again within 6 months. But my sister has a 5 year gap between her children. Everyone is different. Maybe you should concentrate on other things besides getting pregnant. Like an education?

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:41

I have got education 😌 Passed all thankyou that isn't what I'm here for. Thankyou very much guys so within a year I will hopefully get pregnant I was scared for a moment xx

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Bluebellevergreen · 05/02/2017 06:43

The research is not telling you because there isnt a universal answer.
Buy trying for 2 months at your age is no reason for concern.
I am pregnant at 35 and it took a lot lot lot longer than that.
I want to be supportive and non judgemental but I think this post in infertility could potentially upset some people.

You just had a baby, it is normal for fertility to (maybe) take a while to come back.

My midwife recommended waiting a year for body to heal.

Motherfuckers · 05/02/2017 06:44

But you may not be, no one can tell you definitely. This is why education is so so important. You are taking half a dozen comments on a chat forum as being the absolute truth of what will happen.

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:45

Well I don't mean to offend anyone? That's not my intentions all I wanted to know if I was suffering from second infertility

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Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 06:47

nobody knows the answer to that OP. It is not super likely under your circumstances, but as you've only been trying a couple of months no one would be able to tell you.

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:48

I'm not taking anyone comment for the absolute truth thankyou👏🏽That's enough from you ... I only deal with positivity and you telling me to do education and telling me what I am doing when I'm not is not very necessary to the post I never mentioned nothing about education so don't talk about education

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Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 06:49

also if you take a moment to read some of the heartbreaking posts about fertility, and secondary infertility on this forum, you might not have even asked this question. People try for years and years, go through intervention after intervention and still don't get to have a child at all so perhaps try and understand that no one knows the answer to your question, and you should try for at least a year at your age before you access any medical help.

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:50

I never read anything on here I just asked a question that's all this is the first time in on this don't know how it all works

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Buddahbelly · 05/02/2017 06:50

Id say it's highly not likely anything other than your body adjusting again rather than anything more.

But I would question why at just 17 you seem desperate to have another baby so soon when your first is only 4 months?

Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 06:52

op, have a read through on the infertility threads. You might find a better answer to your questions than another thread.

Buddahbelly · 05/02/2017 06:53

And I write that as someone who is suffering from secondary infertility. Im not offended OP so dont worry about that.

I actually feel quite sad that you're so young and there are so many other things you could be doing rather than just churning out children so young, but Offended. No.

whateverandever · 05/02/2017 06:53

I'm baffled by your maths. 4 month old baby, periods started after 1 month. You've had 4 periods with a 36 day cycle.

Anyhow, if you've done enough research to have come up with the term "secondary infertility" aged 17 you've also done enough to know that it's not considered that anything is wrong unless it's taking over a year to conceive.

Im also reporting your post as given where you've posted it it's a best inappropriate due to sheer stupidity, at worst cruel as really upsetting and triggering for those with genuine fertility problems.

user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:56

Report all u want 😌😌👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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user1486273640 · 05/02/2017 06:57

I love the way you guys decide to talk down to me cause I'm JUSTTTT 17 😂😂💪🏽👏🏽

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Buddahbelly · 05/02/2017 07:01

And there's your answer why, because you answer like a 17 year old child still with a lot of growing up to do.

Im assuming you dont work? So how are you expecting to pay for these children you so desperately want to have? I'd worry more about getting a job and showing your child something to aspire to.

I'd be ashamed if I had a 17 year old daughter with 1 child, desperate for another.

whateverandever · 05/02/2017 07:13

Oh don't take it the wrong way, other than its relevance to your fertility, age is not the issue I have with your post. I'd "talk down" to a 40 year old with such an idiotic OP. Even my 82 year old grandma could google "how long does it take to conceive again after birth" and find out that it's not considered secondary infertility after a couple of months.

I'll bite though as it's a dull morning.

Are you trying to jump the housing list?

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