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12 week scan. Nightmares.

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Blast182 · 12/08/2015 18:46

I know this has probably been said time and time before but I am really scared about my 12 week scan. This is my first pregnancy so I don't really know what to expect. I keep having nightmares about there being no baby, or having a MMC. All of my pregnancy symptoms have gone (although maybe being over-emotional would be the reason to all this?). Anyway, Did anyone else feel like this? I haven't told many people yet, just my OH and one friend so I have noone to talk to about it.

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TenForward82 · 12/08/2015 18:59

Totally understand, I was pretty convinced there was something wrong. Tried to confide in my mother who was ZERO help. I read a lot of horror stories the day before and made myself feel worse.

I know it doesn't help to hear it, but try to remember that problems are really rare. Your preg symptoms will abate as you move into the 2nd trimester, so it could be that. You said you don't know what to expect, did you want to hear what happened at mine? Had it last week.

zannyminxoxox · 12/08/2015 19:50

Im exactly the same as I had a mmc with my first baby this will be my 4th pregnancy, 3rd baby if all goes well and im so worried about the 12 week scan and something being wrong with the baby. I have been having dreams about something being wrong, not on your own

Blast182 · 12/08/2015 20:16

At least I'm not the only one who is that worried then. Tenfoward, I know the genral jist of what will happen as I always read up obsessive ammounts before heading into the unknown. It's just my over worried head, thinking about the small details. How long is the whole appointment, how hard is it for them to find the baby in the first place and also (this might sound morbid) how soon would I know that something is wrong? Or fine fingers crossed. Again, these are probably silly questions but I'm the type of person that likes to plan everything in my head first, or I panic. I'm 24, so I would consider myself as a young(ish) mum, but unless your under 18 you don't get much support. I kinda feel chucked in head first. If it wasn't for the internet, I'd definatly be screwed.

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Brummiegirl15 · 12/08/2015 20:22

This is my 4th pregnancy, 1st baby so after 3 mc's I completely get the fear and stress!!

I know it's frightening but you do just have to take it a day at time. The relief when you see your baby on the scan though is indescribable!!

You are right though, you don't get any help / support and this is the same for everyone. Unfortunately it's down to resources and ( and I don't mean to sound harsh) looking after those who really need it which being young and healthy you probably don't need.

I know it doesn't help you feel any better but whilst mc affects 1 in 4 pregnancies, that's still a 75% chance of a healthy viable pregnancy and those are pretty good odds.

It's not easy though I know

TenForward82 · 12/08/2015 20:25

No silly questions at all.

My appointment took about 45 minutes. Easy to find the baby (took them about 10 seconds). They give you running commentary as they go, as they check each part of the baby's body they point it out to you and tell you it's fine. I cried when she told me the level of nuchal fluid was normal! They check stuff like blood flow very closely, which can actually get boring once you know everything's ok. But in between the boring stuff they move the probe around and suddenly you get a full view of your baby jerking its little arms and legs (ours wouldn't stop moving - I think the sonographers were getting annoyed). At the end you get a full written report and they verbally tell you if anything is amiss, but since they covered everything as they went through it was all mostly ok. (There was a small problem with blood flow to the baby because I'm high risk for pre-eclampsia, but I knew that beforehand.)

You'll be ok, ask any questions you want and if you don't hear something they say, get them to repeat it. You want to make sure your mind is fully at ease! Good luck!

Nousername2015 · 12/08/2015 20:28

blast It's very probable (as brummie said) that everything is just fine.
Is this your first scan? The wait while they find baby and do the checks will feel like hours but in reality it is only a few minutes. Be prepared for that. The silence does not mean that anything is wrong, they are just concentrating. Are you taking somebody in with you? They will provide a good distraction in the room. Best of luck for the scan.

ollieplimsoles · 12/08/2015 21:07

You are absolutely not on your own. I was a nervous wreck before my 12 week scan.

I'm 30+2 weeks now and I agree that taking it one day at a time really helps.

Try to relax, explain to the sonographer you are nervous (thats what I did) and they take their time to explain everything to you and make the experience nice. I burst into tears when they said everything was ok, I had so many nightmares over it all.

Just take each appointment as it comes and try to find something positive about being pregnant every day, however small. That seemed to help me get through.

Good luck op I'm sure everything will be fine

Blast182 · 12/08/2015 23:11

Thank you everyone, I definatly feel a bit better just by reading your experiences and thoughts. My scan is on monday so will update in here. Fingers crossed. Like a few of you say, just one day at a time. To be honest I'm trying to forget about it at the moment. Rather than get myself worked up.

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sepa · 13/08/2015 12:18

I have my scan in 3 weeks (first time) so this is very helpful!

tinyme135 · 15/08/2015 09:53

I was exactly the same. As I didn't know when I ovulated and my last period was (as I have PCOS) and all symptoms had gone I was for certain I had lost the baby or I wasn't actually pregnant and it was something worse. I got to the appointment and found out I was 12+4 I am now 18+6 and going for my 20 week scan on Wednesday :)

Jaimelee2014 · 13/11/2016 20:32

I had a dream last week as soon as I received my scan date that they scan my belly and there's nothing there and it's just a dream I'm roughly 12 weeks no symptoms apart from nauseous every now and then and headaches my scan is tomorrow I'm sooo nervous!!

PeachBellini123 · 14/11/2016 09:02

Yep I was the same. DH was really excitds but I was convinced there would be no baby/be something wrong.

I'm now nearly 34 weeks pregnant.

Lots of luck for your scan and enjoy seeinf your baby for the first time!

Jaimelee2014 · 14/11/2016 18:51

Had my first scan today and they told me I lost the baby :'( only in the past couple days as baby was still implanted and had thickening as I would in pregnancy but there was no heartbeat :(

Littlelegs19 · 14/11/2016 22:37

I didn't sleep for 2 days before because I was so nervous! I was convinced I was going to be told there was nothing there and all my symptoms i had been feeling were all in my head! I got real upset while sitting there waiting and once I was scanned and she said "Theres your baby" I burst out crying! I'm 35 weeks now. It's normal to feel nervous, I hope your scan goes well

halfbuffy · 15/11/2016 00:25

I'm the same! Have my scan next Monday but I've had so many dreams over the past couple of weeks about bleeding or losing the baby...so I'm keeping my fingers crossed and trying to stay positive.

On the subject of dreams, my partner said that on the day we found out we were pregnant he had a dream that we were expecting twins!! So only a few days to wait and find out!

ConvincingLiar · 15/11/2016 06:38

Jaimelee2014 I'm sorry for your loss. There's a dedicated section to miscarriage and pregnancy loss in the body and soul section within talk if you want more support/info.

PeachBellini123 · 15/11/2016 17:04

So sorry for your loss. Look after yourself

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