Hi! Great, new thread... OK I'm posting this here too in case it gets lost in the previous thread:
Morning everyone, wow, this thread moves very very quickly !!
We had a couple of bad nights- DS has a blocked nose poor thing, & we had to keep unblocking his nose a couple of times with that instrument of torture, the snot-sucker (which does its job, but babies definitely don't like it!). Lots of cuddling & breastfeeding went on in between to calm him down ...
As for sleep, yes, I agree that there are no support networks for modern mothers, and that's a huge shame (especially in the early post-partum period during which mothers are so sensitive anyway & need all the support they can get). However, I don't agree- or maybe I don't completely agree- that there is a pressure for mothers to get their babies to sleep through. I think parents themselves are really knackered- well at least they are in my circle- and try to find ways to get their babies to sleep more. In our case, just creating a bit of a routine in our day, after 4 months, has really helped with Linos' sleeping. And I think generally a routine- especially after a certain point- is a good idea & does help with sleep. Even the 'No cry sleep solution' advocates a routine, & I'm convinced it makes a difference. I'm not talking about a strict, rigid routine, I'm talking about a structure to the day... But then again, I accept that there are good sleepers & bad sleepers, not all babies are the same. It's just, I don't believe anymore (although I used to believe that) that leaving a baby completely create their own rythm means they'll at some point learn to sleep better. They might- or they might not; we all know of parents who are sleep deprived months or years down the line. My partner & I were headed in that direction (after 4 months of demand feeding) & that's when we decided to try to change things, & we quickly got results. By the way, we've never ever done anything that made us feel uncomfortable or that pushed our baby in anyway...
Anyway. Just my thoughts... I think that the most important thing is support, and that's quite hard to find nowadays, especially for couples (like us) who live on their own, without family around them