December 2019 babies

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Hi All,

Thought I’d just start a December 2019 babies thread for those who have given birth in December and want to catchup/chat/rant/need support etc.

We are 11 days in...!
How is everyone doing?

[Fivebyfive2]

Hi!! Our ds is 3 weeks tomorrow 🙂 How are you getting on? Ours was born 4 weeks early but is gaining weight well so far. Lack of sleep is a struggle, obviously!

Anyone else keep changing their minds on feeding?? I'm mostly breastfeeding atm and giving one or two bottles of formula a day for a break. Am torn all the time between trying to push through and continue bf or to move to more formula to try and get more routine / have more idea what he is having.

How's everyone doing? Xx

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Hi @Fivebyfive2
Congratulations on your little one! Glad he’s gaining weight :)!
I’m struggling with night times as she doesn’t sleep at all. Sleeps all day though.

I’m exclusively breastfeeding, I’m planning on continuing and building up a stash in the freezer so DH can help out but it’s really time consuming, feeding takes hours! Then expressing takes even longer!

How are you finding getting out of the house? It’s proving a bit of a struggle as feeding takes so long as is based on when she wants it, so it’s hard to plan when we can actually leave the house!

[Fivebyfive2]

My little Joe is similar... Late afternoon into evening he's really chilled, then about 10pm he is wide awake! We give him a bottle now to get him down, that gives us about 2 hours. Then I breastfeed him throughout the night, but he usually only goes down for about an hour at a time, if that. Things I've found that (sometimes!) help him go down in his basket...warming the basket, white noise and wrapping him in something that smells of me.

How do you get on with winding?? We always wind him as he takes a bottle, but on the breast, he usually falls asleep on me so I'm never sure if I should wake him to wind him or just let him sleep / put him down... I hold him so he's lying a bit upright.

Getting out the house hasn't been too bad, but we've only really gone to our parents or to the midwife around the corner so far. I try to feed him about 45 mins before I want to go and then just feed him when I get there if needed. We were 40 mins late to in laws on boxing day, but they understood 😂

[forevercurious]

Hello :) my little boy is now 4 weeks old and it has flown by! I’m breastfeeding which is going well, just a few minor issues which I’m hoping I can get support for at the next breast feeding support group in my town. I’d like to start expressing to build up a milk supply (I have quite a lot of milk!) and DP would like to be able to give the baby a bottle now and again. However there seems to be so much conflicting advice on when to start expressing & offering a bottle.

Re winding: he really struggles with wind and can be sick quite a bit after a feed. I think this is because the milk flow is so fast he just has to gulp it down. if he falls asleep on the breast I tend to try and wind him over my shoulder anyway and most of the time he will burp. He does seem very uncomfortable at times when he’s put down after feeding in the night.

I also never realised getting out of the house would be so hard, we seem to take so much stuff with us and it just takes so long!

Looking forward to chatting with you ladies about our babies :)

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Ahh yes winding has been an issue here too. She’s got reflux and the wind causes bad tummy pains so we just have a vicious circle of feed, wind, sick, scream, feed...
I’m sure we’ll get there eventually but I’m so tired from being awake all night every night!

Yes getting out of the house is really difficult, I have to get in the shower super early while DH has her while she’s quiet then I have to feed etc and get her sorted which can take hours because of the sick and screaming! Leaving for appointments has been chaos 😂!

[Fivebyfive2]

Omg mine always looks kind of happy when spitting up, I think he's my little weirdo 🙂😂 He does that possett thing, where they keep milk in the mouth after feeding.

Someone at work sent me this when I mentioned about finding the best way to burp him, not sure if it will help?

kidshealth.org/en/parents/burping.html

Dh goes back to work tomorrow, I'm kind of dreading it ☹️ My mum is coming over though so that will be nice. I'm hoping that we can try to get into some kind of rough routine once he's back in the swing of work... Probably a bit ambitious but hey ho!

[bespokepaininthearse]

Hello all, we are on day 4 over here 🙋🏽‍♀️am breastfeeding with the odd top up as he seems to be permanently hungry 😨 I think I had a o it 2 hours lasts night where I wasn't feeding him continuously, any advice or tips on the best routine for breast feeding?

I feed him, he falls asleep on boob, I have tried to keep him awake, so I take him off assuming he is full, wind him then try to put him down and because I have winded him he is wide awake again! This seems to be a pattern. What am I doing wrong

[starflake]

My little girl is 3 weeks old Wednesday. Breastfeeding going well but yes very time consuming. She tends to cluster feed in the morning from about 9-12 and then in the evening before bed from about 8-11! Going out isn't an issue, I've worked out she isn't that hungry through cluster feeding once we are about an hour in so once she's in her buggy or car seat she will drop off asleep with the motion.
She is protesting about her cot, doesn't like going into it.... Prefers in the bed between us as she's breastfed she likes being close but we don't sleep when she's in the bed! Put her down in her cot beside us & leave my hand in cot stroking her gorgeous face till she drops off, she wakes at about 4.30 for a feed so I bring her into bed then as it's easy to breastfed then. She sleeps in the bed then with us till morning. She's super spoilt already & I'm looking forward to the children going back to school to get more of a routine sorted with her

[starflake]

@bespokepaininthearse I think that's normal for establishing your supply. My DD is nearly 3 weeks old & is still doing it, shesfeeding constantly in mornings & evenings. She falls asleep on the boob but if moved she will wake & want more. It's a comfort thing for them also, they use it as a soother.

[RLI1105]

Hi everyone - just coming over from the pregnancy thread!

Great to hear everyone's getting on okay! Our baby boy is 2 weeks tomorrow. He is just an absolute dream, such a little chilled out guy and we're completely obsessed! The only issue has been feeding which has truly made me ill with stress.
He has never successfully latched onto me, we have to use shields and even then it was terribly painful and he obviously couldn't drain the breast well enough. He had a tongue tie which we got revised yesterday so we'll see but the whole experience has been so upsetting. Tongue tie,Jj cup boobs with flat nipples, severe anxiety over the whole situation..... not a winning combination! I'm currently expressing, using formula and still trying to get him to latch so there's something for everyone! 😂
It's great you're all doing so well with breastfeeding- it truly is so so hard!

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

@bespokepaininthearse we are now two weeks in and have the same issue, she is awake ALL night. There was me thinking newborns would sleep a bit then wake up to feed - no no, she feeds and has bad reflux so vomits, has bad wind and then gets in a terrible state and wants to feed again so it’s just a continuous circle from 10pm to about 6am.
I’m shattered, trying to sleep in the day but difficult when there’s stuff to be done or people coming over etc.
So don’t worry you aren’t alone!!

@RLI1105 I haven’t any experience of tongue tie but my friend found it impossible to breastfeed until her little ones tongue tie was cut then it was a totally different story so you may find it’s easier now, good luck!!

Welcome @starflake! Ours doesn’t like her cot in the night but is fine in it in the day! Typical!! :)

So nice to hear all your newborn stories :)

[AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps]

My DD is 3 weeks on Monday 🥰

[Fivebyfive2]

Hi ladies! Loving reading all your experiences 🙂

Yesterday was tough, Joe was almost 'resisting' going on my boob, he just kept tensing up and screaming, even though he was making his hungry face?! Caved in the afternoon and gave him a bottle! Called the midwife who suggested lots of skin to skin, so tried that and he seemed a little more settled. We've had a day chilling on the sofa today and he's just been feeding, sleeping and pooping so I guess all is well 😂

@RLI1105, how are you getting on now your little one has had their tongue tie looked at? Xx

@starflake, Joe is also unimpressed with being put down, but will sometimes settle if he's sleepy enough.. White noise and swaddling help sometimes.

@TTc2019BabyNo1, omg yesss... I really need the person who said newborns sleep 18 hours a day to inform our little one 🙄😂

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend? Xx

[AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps]

We went for a walk to the village jumble sale, picked up some clothes for DD. Changed and fed her at the little tea room bit.


And she's been feeding every hour or so since! Needs to sleep. She won't settle anywhere but arms in the day

[RLI1105]

@Fivebyfive2 I think it's so nice just cuddling them on the sofa sometimes and just forgetting you have other things to do! 😂 obviously I am no expert but there's nothing worse when they're visibly hungry and won't play ball!

@TTc2019BabyNo1 that sounds pretty brutal sleep wise! My husband has been moshing because he's only getting "6 hours" I had to remind him that he doesn't know he's been born! 😂

Tongue tie wise it's early days... I'm really going to need to push myself and him to try. The last couple of days using formula and expressed have been a godsend for me mentally. New Years eve was one of the worst night of my life - knowing I couldn't adequately feed my child. You just feel so low! With that being said it's been easy to give a bottle. He's a great little sleeper - gets up three times a night, has his feed, cuddle for 10 minutes and back down. When I was trying to exclusively breastfeed I was sitting in the living room for hours trying to latch him.... if I really want to give it a go I'm going to have to keep going that. My plan is to do it for no longer than an hour before giving him a bottle. I don't want to trie him out or frustrate him too much. He's 2 weeks tomorrow and not up to his birthweight either (although close) so I want to get in everything I can.

[Fivebyfive2]

@RLI1105, just remember to cut yourself some slack with the feeds xx If your little one is happy on a bottle and you've been feeling better too, maybe that's the way for you guys? Everyone is different. Joe is just over 3 weeks and I'm finding myself constantly wavering about how long I'll keep breastfeeding for 😕 If you do want to breastfeed though, just be a bit careful about topping him up; my midwife advised me that at this young if they're constantly feeding, it's them getting your supply up so sometimes topping them up can lead to a bit of a vicious circle. Hope you don't mind me chirping in... Sending you a big hug! Xx

[jpaws]

Hi everyone, just found this thread. We are 11 days in and I am doing combination feeding. My little one send to be fine going from breast to bottle and vice versa. I originally wanted to just BF but I wasnt filling him so ended up topping him up in hospital and have just kept on doing it. It makes it easier to feed in company (for me) and means my partner has been doing a night feed too. He has been weighed today and has gained 11 oz too, now 8lb2. I could just stare at him all day 😊

[December2019]

Hi everyone my little Charlie is 11 days young today finding it difficult with a just turned 1 year old too who is also not sleeping... all hail coffee!!
I'll have a good read through the thread and catch up when I get a good minute to myself (usually a loo break) 😂
Hope all you lovely mommas and babies are good 😊

[AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps]

What are you doing to keep yourself save whilst feeding.?

I've got a puzzle book, reading a book, browsing the net.... Trying to figure out how to crochet one handed 😂

[Fivebyfive2]

@AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps, if I'm downstairs, have been burning through episodes of friends and law and order svu! In the night in bed I just scroll through my phone... Made a few impulse purchases at 3am 😂 Crochet with one hand would be a very impressive set of skills, I could hardly do it with 2!!

[AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps]

Dies anyone have any suggestions about day time naps?

3 week old DD sleeps fine in Moses basket overnight. I feed her, she fakk asleep in me and about 20 minutes later I transfer her to MB, and she sometimes grizzles, but usually stays asleep for anywhere between 1.5-4 hrs.

But, during the day if info the same thing. She's awake within moments and crying for me. But she will sleep on me/dad/willing victim.

DH is off back to work on Monday. I'm happy using a sling/carrier for now, but not being able to put her down in day makes things like having a shower quite tricky!
I am thinking maybe having the shower etc whilst she had her first/last session of sleep at night time.

Will she grow out if it?


I know about 4th trimester and keeping her close. But Mumma needs to shower and have a bit of baby break each day!

[Teamthree]

Hi everyone!

My DD is 3 weeks today! She will only sleep being held and gets horrible reflux like symptoms at night when we try and put her in her Moses basket. Averaging 4 hours broken sleep a day. Safe to say we are thoroughly exhausted. I'd give anything to switch off my need to sleep!

I too have been back and forth with putting her on formula. BF has been okay, but I think I have fast let down that's causing the reflux like symptoms. She is always so fussy on the boob and always arches her back.

[Comps83]

I’m can echo the lack of sleep
I had him 3am Wednesday and last time I had slept was briefly on Monday night
I’ve probably had about 5 hours all in since and I don’t know how I’m functioning
He will only sleep on me and won’t settle in the basket even for 5 mins
I’m managing to just catch an hour here or there when dh has him downstairs

[Comps83]

We’ve also totally ran out of baby clothes already even though it seemed we had a ridiculous amount
How is everyone holding up with their own injuries? I’m still pretty sore. Not sure I’ll be venturing out any time soon

[AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps]

I only had two stitches. All seems well downstairs. However I do have piles >.<

Bump has mostly gone. Just stretched skin and flab now!!!