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Every day is exactly the same

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tiredftm Sun 07-Feb-21 11:01:14

I’m just fed-up really. I’m a first time mum to a gorgeous 9 month old baby. Every day is almost exactly the same, because there’s nowhere to go, no one to see, nothing to do except the same old walks in our very boring and not particularly nice area. Now the weather has turned miserable so even the usual boring walk is out.

I seem to spend all day cooking, cleaning, washing, tidying and feeding DS. I did batch cook a load of stuff last month but have almost come to the end of that now, so this week will be another big cooking week - joy.

I think the crappy weather has made me feel even worse. I just want to go sit in a cafe, go for a weekend away, meet a friend somewhere that’s not the sodding cold and muddy park or go to a baby group indoors without having to socially distance or wear the dreaded facemask.

Not sure what the point of this post is really - just needed a rant. If you got this far then thanks for reading.

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Sls668 Sun 07-Feb-21 11:45:59

My baby is 12 weeks and I feel exactly the same. I love having her, she’s amazing and I really enjoy our time together but I’m just so bored. We walk the dog, go to my mums and that is literally all we can do! I want to be able to go to a couple of classes or baby groups or just meet friends for a coffee somewhere inside. Obviously I have no advice but just felt like moaning along with you!

Bringallthebiscuits Sun 07-Feb-21 11:46:57

Same... my current baby is my second child and it was so much easier being a mum a few years ago. It’s miserable now, only being able to meet people shivering in the cold, no playgroups to go to, only children for company. Trying to home school my eldest around a toddler doesn’t work either!

brushlaptop Sun 07-Feb-21 11:47:06

I have a gorgeous little 14 month old and feel exactly the same. It's really hard. Really hope the lockdown is lifted soon

TheGonnagle Sun 07-Feb-21 11:49:19

If it makes you feel any better I don’t think it’s a baby thing! My dd is almost 11 and every day is exactly the bloody same here too. Frankly, this year is bollocks. Roll on spring and I hope you all get to enjoy your lovely squashy babies out and about really soon.

user1493413286 Sun 07-Feb-21 11:49:52

I feel like that; my maternity leave is coming to an end and I feel sad that it’s been like this.

Onedropbeat Sun 07-Feb-21 11:53:17

I’m on mat leave and going back to work next month and I’m so down about it too

What a year to have off

The monotony is almost deafening

On a different level I’m feeling way more nervous about returning to work this time as I’ve not left baby with anyone yet. We’ve been together the whole time

Baby number 1 was having regular visits to grandparents where I was able to go shopping or do some exercise and have some peace and quiet to myself so I wasn’t so nervous about leaving him

Avvii Sun 07-Feb-21 11:56:14

Same, OP! My DS is almost 13 months. It’s awful, isn’t it. I feel so sad most of the time.

tiredftm Sun 07-Feb-21 11:58:14

It’s miserable now, only being able to meet people shivering in the cold

This is what gets me down - it’s so crap standing in a freezing cold and muddy park.

Honestly the constant cooking and preparing food is really getting to me too. It feels like a full time job at times.

I feel so lethargic and low on energy.

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Jigglyjugs Sun 07-Feb-21 12:03:12

It's horrible. My DS is 2 thus month, so has spent half his life in lockdown. He gets really cross when we go to the supermarket now because it's the only place I take him except for a walk, which are sporadic with the amount of rain we've had.

Buttercupcup Sun 07-Feb-21 12:07:12

OP I feel the same Iv got a 6 month old and maternity leave has been hard! I’m due back to work in 10 weeks and I’m torn between so excited to get back and see people in the real world, terrified (I’m going back as a nurse in a area that is hit hard by covid) and anxious that my little girl is going to nursery 3 days per week after spending 0 time with anyone other me/dad/brother! I’m also quite pissed off Iv not had a load of lovely coffee dates, weekends away to my parents in the lakes and DH got made redundant in lockdown one and is now out of the house 6.30-6 working his arse off in a shite job to pay the bills. I’m a bundle of over the moon in love with little one/pissed off/tired/anxious/lonely my emotions don’t know quite what to do! Sending tea cake flowers and wine!!
When this is over I’m having a ceremonial burning of the puddle suit and wellies and if anyone suggests going to a sodding park this summer if there isn’t Prosecco and friends involved I refuse!

Letsallscreamatthesistene Sun 07-Feb-21 12:17:04

I have a 10 month old and my entire mat leave has been like this. Im a key worker and went back to work early for a bit of variety in my life. My mat leave has been rubbish.

PotteringAlong Sun 07-Feb-21 12:27:07

Mine are 8, 6 and 4 and I feel the same! I think this is just the state of the world at the minute flowers

FTEngineerM Sun 07-Feb-21 12:30:08

Me too, DC is 8m and I’m going back to work soon sad

HamSandwichKiller Sun 07-Feb-21 12:35:07

It must be awful. I have a 7 year old and while the days are endless it's not the same as having a baby at all. He can speak to his friends and chats away endlessly (Minecraft grin), but with a baby you don't get so much back. It must be such a lonely maternity experience.

Thatwentbadly Sun 07-Feb-21 12:59:16

I have a 4.5 yr old and a 1.5 yr old and other than no home school and DH isn’t working at weekends every day is the same.

tiredftm Sun 07-Feb-21 13:04:03

Thank goodness the vaccine rollout is happening quickly, because I don’t think I can take much more of this. I’ve been fine for ages but it’s suddenly finally got to me - I think because of the crap weather (and maybe because there is kind of an end in sight thanks to the vaccines?!)

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Kayleighwood Sun 07-Feb-21 13:33:14

I'm so fed up with this lock-down, i wasn't cut out for home schooling at all, i feel i spend most of my time pulling my hair out

fatima2019 Sun 07-Feb-21 13:59:20

i have 8 months old daughter, and i am enjoying time with her but during this lockdown its very difficult not to meet my friends , hope all this virus thing will end soon

ApolloandDaphne Sun 07-Feb-21 14:13:22

I have no children at home now and everyday is still like Groundhog Day. I think it is a lockdown thing in general.

modgepodge Sun 07-Feb-21 14:43:12

I’ve got an almost 2 year old and feel the same. I work 4 days and actually dread the weekends...there’s nothing to look forward to. At least when I’m working my child is with other children and mostly having a nice time and I’m distracted by work. Weekends are go for a walk and playground trip, come home, watch tv and play with toys. I know I’m slipping in to depression but everything that would help me is illegal.

Bringallthebiscuits Sun 07-Feb-21 14:49:51

@ApolloandDaphne I think it’s true that it’s a lockdown thing but also I think it’s maybe a bit harder doing lockdown with small children. If I didn’t have them to worry about I could just do things I enjoy, like baking/drawing/watching films/reading. But now I have to entertain them all day long instead, at a time when all the usual options to entertain them are shut and we can’t even meet up with friends or family for a play.

tiredftm Sun 07-Feb-21 14:52:15

I think that sums it up for me @Bringallthebiscuits! Add to that the fact that DS is still not mobile and I’m exhausted trying to entertain him for hours at a time.

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Namechange200121 Sun 07-Feb-21 14:55:43

Feel totally the same, I’m actually going back to work after 9 months rather than the year as it’s been a rubbish mat leave and I’m desperate for DC to go to nursery a couple of days a week to get out and get socialised! We did manage to do a couple of baby sensory and swimming classes during the various lifted lockdowns but not a lot in almost 9 months! It really is like Groundhog Day isn’t it, I think everyone feels the same confused and yes! Why is there so much cleaning, tidying, washing, washing up?! grin hang in there ladies x

becca3210 Sun 07-Feb-21 17:04:40

@tiredftm I hear you. Maybe take some of the pressure off in terms of the cooking. My 9 month old regularly has quick bits eg. toast with various spreads, scrambled eggs, left over bits from our dinner etc.

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