Has anyone else felt this way? I had DS2 five days ago and I know it's normal to feel emotional at first so I'm hoping it's mostly down to that.
I think I'm just mourning the relationship DS1 (18 months) and I had, he was my little mate and we did everything together and it's never going to be the same again. When I'm putting him to bed I just want to cry because he's so innocent and oblivious and has no idea that I've changed his life forever and it's never going to be just the two of us again.
Also I'm struck by the complicated love I feel for newborn DS2. I love him, but not in the simple way I loved DS1. This time I have my love for my toddler to compare to the love of my newborn, which feel like different types of love. Is that okay to love DS2 differently? I love my toddler because of his personality and because of our shared experiences, as well as the pure mother love. But with my newborn I only have the pure mother love. So I just feel a bit sad I suppose and worried that I love them differently. Will the love grow when I build up experiences with DS2 and when he starts developing a personality? Or should I love them equally already?
To be honest I think a lot of this is just down to hormones and my milk coming in, because when I think rationally not emotionally I can see that I'm giving DS1 a great gift of a little brother and I don't need to feel any guilt about our relationship because I love him just as much, if not more.
Also, I think what might help is if I start thinking of us 3 as a little team, instead of me and DS1 as little mates and now a baby. It is a different relationship, but it doesn't have to be a worse one. It's just going to have to take adjusting to.
Sorry for rambling - I'm right in the middle of that post partum hormone crash! Any experiences welcome
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luckiestgirlintheworld · 12/08/2015 10:37
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