Negative comments make me regret daughter’s name.

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evelynsmummy44 Thu 21-Mar-19 11:43:09

I know people are going to say not to worry but it’s something that I think about regularly. My daughter is three and her name is Evelyn. She has never, ever been called Evie (not even once) and her name was picked for sentimental reasons. When we named her I had never been on a site like this and having never met another little Evelyn I didn’t know it was popular (still haven’t met another one in our area!) however I get really sad that it is pretty much always called boring or horrible on this site. I very rarely see anything positive about it and it makes me regret not calling her Eliza. I’m not sure how to learn to love my daughter’s name again (maybe just come off this site? But I love looking at it for inspiration for baby number two) anyone been/felt similar about their child’s name?

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Longtalljosie Thu 21-Mar-19 11:45:13

Oh good grief - it’s a lovely name. My DD2’s name was universally panned on here when I was pregnant, now the last thread I saw where it came up, the consensus was that it was beautiful. You stick with your beautiful daughter’s beautiful name.

CoastalWave Thu 21-Mar-19 11:45:33

ooh Evelyn is a gorgeous name! Honestly. Beautiful.

Ignore the haters!

Disfordarkchocolate Thu 21-Mar-19 11:45:44

I'd ignore all the negative name comments on this site, some people are weird, tactless and just plain unpleasant. It's a lovely name and you sound like a lovely Mum.

CrunchyCrumpet Thu 21-Mar-19 11:46:15

OP ignore the comments, Evelyn is a beautiful name and I've also not met anyone under nine with that name! You loved the name once and will you again, just ignore the opinions of people who don't matter to you on here!!

formerbabe Thu 21-Mar-19 11:47:01

It's a nice name. I actually don't like the shortening to Evie. If I was called Evelyn, I think I'd shorten it to Eve.

Longtalljosie Thu 21-Mar-19 11:47:29

Plus try nameberry for kids names inspiration. I always find the names threads on here hilarious:

OP: I’m pregnant and it’s a girl! I can’t decide between Rose or Delilah...
Response 1: I don’t like either, how about Harriet?


AndItStillSaidFourOfTwo Thu 21-Mar-19 11:47:35

I'm not fond of it personally, but there's nothing wrong with it and it's a lot more durable than Eliza, which is having a real faddy moment atm.

LailaByron Thu 21-Mar-19 11:47:54

I think it’s a beautiful name! You can’t please all the people all the time- and you shouldn’t have 2! You picked her name for your own reasons so who gives a toss what other people think!

LazyLizzy Thu 21-Mar-19 11:47:55

Eveyln is lovely, but I would pronounce it EV- E-LIN and not EVE-LIN.

Maybe that's why they are relating it to Evie?

FaceLikeAPairOfTits Thu 21-Mar-19 11:50:17

Evelyn is lovely, particularly as you're not shortening it to Evie, which is also lovely but hideously popular.

Great name for all ages, OP, and the sentimental reasons behind it are a bonus.

Maybe you're just attuned to the criticism as it's your DD's name. You see much more dislike on here of modern unisex names eg Harley.

Ohyesiam Thu 21-Mar-19 11:51:31

My dds name is seen as dull and samey here.
It really doesn’t matter

Seniorschoolmum Thu 21-Mar-19 11:51:45

Evelyn is lovely, and Evie is pretty too. Don’t regret it

Sizeofalentil Thu 21-Mar-19 11:52:39

Things is, with these sites, you tend to assume you're being judged by your peers - when really, we're quite a diverse bunch of different ages from different parts of the world.

Those other posters probably came from small towns overrun with Evies, all a lot older than yours, so are sick of that name. Therefore, are biased and their opinion isn't applicable here.

I've not met any evelyns, ever, and love the name. So it would be a beautiful, rare jewel of a name on the middle class mum circuit here.

Double0FeckingBollocks Thu 21-Mar-19 11:52:55

I can never for the life of me understand why people come on MN to get opinions about their choices of names. We are all different. We like different clothes and food and house decoration styles. Paying heed to the taste of Mumsnetters is the same as going out into a busy street and shouting " what shall I name my precious firstborn?"
Evelyn is the name you chose for very good and careful reasons. Don't listen to people who like to call each other "chavvy" or "twee" or whatever from the safety of their anonymity.

OydNeverDeclinesGin Thu 21-Mar-19 11:53:29

I've ways thought Evelyn is a lovely name.

Sizeofalentil Thu 21-Mar-19 11:54:35

Also, you have sentimental reasons behind your choice. Which makes it even more beautiful and unique.

Babdoc Thu 21-Mar-19 11:56:37

OP, names are totally a matter of personal preference. Evelyn is not some weird or embarrassing name that might upset your DD when she grows up, and it really doesn’t matter whether people on here like it or not. The important thing is that you like it, and it has emotional significance for you.
One of my DDs was named after her great grandmother, but happened to share the name with a tv character of 40 years ago. I got the odd comment, including from the health visitor who always jokingly addressed the baby as Miss X (the tv character’s surname). DD is now in her late 20’s and her name isn’t an issue - it’s just who she is.
If your DD really doesn’t like it when she grows up, she can use any name she likes. Don’t waste any more time fretting over it. For what it’s worth, I actually like it!

Cattenberg Thu 21-Mar-19 11:57:00

My DD’s name sometimes pops up on baby name threads. Some people like it, some people like every name on the OP’s list except DD’s name! I don’t mind. It would be awful if we all liked the same names and there were 15 Olivias in each class.

dreichuplands Thu 21-Mar-19 11:57:59

I think Evelyn is both a nice name and a classic one. There are two common ways you could pronounce it which would impact a nn. Do you want her to have a nickname? If so I would just start calling her it, others will follow.

sue51 Thu 21-Mar-19 11:58:04

Evelyn is a lovely name and not in the least bit boring.

Itstartedinbarcelona Thu 21-Mar-19 11:58:43

There was a thread on here about DDs name recently as well and it was universally voted down as too common with most people being “over it”. I still love it and so does dd (12). Don’t worry about anyone else she will grow into it and you won’t be able to imagine her being called anything else.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino Thu 21-Mar-19 11:59:23

I really wouldn't care what anyone says on MN!

DD has a very popular name, we had no idea when we chose it and in fact have still met fairly few girls with this name. It's still a lovely name.

Evelyn is a beautiful name.

pasbeaucoupdegendarme Thu 21-Mar-19 11:59:33

I think it’s very pretty. I only know two little ones (and one is in a different continent!). My ds’s first “self-made” friend at nursery is called Evelyn which makes me feel nice about it too!

GetStrongKeepFighting Thu 21-Mar-19 11:59:53

Ny husbands cousin has an Evelyn a few years older than yours. Some posters would have an attack of the vapours at their other children's names but it doesn't matter. Nothing to do with them and doesn't affect their lives in any way.

Don't change her name. You love it and that's literally the only person along with her dad who needs too.

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