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Negative comments make me regret daughter’s name.

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evelynsmummy44 · 21/03/2019 11:43

I know people are going to say not to worry but it’s something that I think about regularly. My daughter is three and her name is Evelyn. She has never, ever been called Evie (not even once) and her name was picked for sentimental reasons. When we named her I had never been on a site like this and having never met another little Evelyn I didn’t know it was popular (still haven’t met another one in our area!) however I get really sad that it is pretty much always called boring or horrible on this site. I very rarely see anything positive about it and it makes me regret not calling her Eliza. I’m not sure how to learn to love my daughter’s name again (maybe just come off this site? But I love looking at it for inspiration for baby number two) anyone been/felt similar about their child’s name?

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UpsyDaaaisy · 21/03/2019 13:15

There's a new mum and mum's and toddlers group by me and her daughter is called Evelyn and I've been thinking what a lovely name it is! She's around 18 months old

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UpsyDaaaisy · 21/03/2019 13:15

At*

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NorthernRunner · 21/03/2019 13:16

I love that name and was on my shortlist for DD.
For the record I much prefer it to Eliza.

You will never get 100% totally in favour of your choice, you can open a can of worms asking for opinions on here.

I’m sure many people wouldn’t like my dd’s name, but she loves it and as the saying goes, “those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind, don’t matter”

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NutElla5x · 21/03/2019 13:20

I take it you are not 44 as your name might suggest op because you come across as very very immature. Who gives a flying fuck what anyone on here or anyone else thinks of your daughters name? In fact it worries me slightly because surely, seeing as your daughter is 3 years old.the name is now part of her so how could you possibly not love it? Are you so easily influenced in all areas of your life? Because I think that is what you need to change,not your daughter's name.

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glitterbiscuits · 21/03/2019 13:23

I was looking forward to opening this thread and discovering that your DC was called something hideous
But Evelyn is fine. Please don't give it another negative thought.

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Marlena1 · 21/03/2019 13:26

I called my daughter Sophie and the amount of times here I've seen negative comments about itHmmbut we like it and it's not changing. FWIW I love Evelyn.

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Saharafordessert · 21/03/2019 13:29

You chose the name originally so you must have loved it then.
Why are you letting yourself be influenced by strangers on the internet?

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dragoning · 21/03/2019 13:32

It's a very pretty name IMO. I know three young Evelyns around the age of ten, all very lovely girls. It's a classic name that will age well. Certainly not overly popular. I think that 'Evie' will probably date in a way that 'Evelyn' won't.

In our digital age there is a lot to be said for sticking with classic names. It makes a child less easily Googlable and protects their privacy as they go throughout life.

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lmusic87 · 21/03/2019 13:32

It's a very popular name at the moment, i must know about 10 Evies.

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Ploppymoodypants · 21/03/2019 13:35

If it’s any consolation we get loads of negative comments about both our DD names. But DH and I love them, they suit our daughters and we don’t give it a second thought.

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blueshoes · 21/03/2019 13:38

I’ve never to this day met anyone as morally strong and kind as her so to me the name means something special

That's an Evelyn- core of steel, heart of gold

Yes, Evelyns have your back when the chips are down. You'd want them in your corner.

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Jenasaurus · 21/03/2019 13:41

My friend named his DD Sybil, the name was ridiculed by some at the time and compared to the character in Faulty Towers, but she was a beautiful child, (inside and out) and is now a beautiful woman in her twentys, after the initial reaction to a name that's not typically fashionable the name becomes linked to the child and now I think of beautiful, happy, confident people when I think of that name. So a name, any name with a negative connotation can be turned around. Think of Maud Adams (Bond Girl). Evelynn is lovely

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Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 21/03/2019 13:45

It's a gorgeous name. My DS has a little friend called Evelyn at nursery (he calls her Evvy).

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BuildAParsnip · 21/03/2019 13:46

It's a really beautiful name.

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3timeslucky · 21/03/2019 13:46

I think it is lovely.

If it makes you feel any better I chose ds1's name with nooooo thought to how popular or not it might be. He ended up as one of three in school. Doesn't make it any less nice a name. And most importantly it is his name.

This is not the real world. Most people irl don't give a moment's thought to other people's names. Really. The bubbles you find on the internet are just that.

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chrismartinsfuturewife · 21/03/2019 13:49

It's a beautiful name

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thewinkingprawn · 21/03/2019 13:51

Come off the site - you can’t deal with people you don’t know having a different opinion so I would come off.

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RedBerryTea · 21/03/2019 14:04

Evelyn is a fine name. I have a daughter called Bobbie - not the name she was given at birth but a pet name that stuck and nobody calls her by her 'proper' name anymore. I love it, she loves it, everybody remembers it and it just really suits her. Having grown up reading P.G.Woodhouse and watching films like "The Railway Children", the name for me evokes a smart, capable girl who stands no nonsense (a bit head-girlish I suppose), but I saw a thread on here that mentioned the name and most people disliked it, some said it was chavvie etc. Fair enough. The world would be a boring place if we all liked the same things.

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Milicentbystander72 · 21/03/2019 14:10

OP, Evelyn is so beautiful. Please don't change it.

On MN, my name and both my children's names are consistently called boring and unimaginative. I don't care. I know the reasons they were named and still love them.

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sagradafamiliar · 21/03/2019 14:14

I've never seen anyone post negatively about the name. It's not in the slightest bit controversial, or 'chavvy', or forrin sounding.

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Antonin · 21/03/2019 14:20

Evelyn has an elegance about it that ensures it will be timeless.
Don’t regret it OP as I’m sure you daughter won’t as long as you are positive about it. You don’t need to feel defennsive about it if others criticise it __ you did what we do — you gave your daughter the name you thought would suit her best given the era and community she’ll grow up in.

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Tattletale · 21/03/2019 14:35

Evelyn is a lovely, timeless name. Remember when you name a child, you are naming an adult too. I can't stand all these cutesy names which sound adorable on little kids, but will sound ridiculous on an adult.

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daisypond · 21/03/2019 15:28

Evelyn is a lovely name.

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YouBumder · 21/03/2019 15:33

I think you might be taking the comments a bit much to heart. Not everyone likes all names, I’ve seen negative comments about my kids names too, people saying they’re boring and dull etc. I don’t care, it’s just something people say on forums, they’re entitled to their view. FWIW I dislike Evelyn and Evie but what does the opinion of random people matter, they’re perfectly good names :)

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wittyusermane · 21/03/2019 15:48

I love the name Evelyn!

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