DD6 when fighting with DD4 (which happens constantly and about everything) keeps touching her (DD4s) privates. She will do it in front of me. It really upsets DD4 who then tells me and tells nursery who have confronted me about it (thankfully). I gave DD4 lots off praise for telling me about it.
Things I have done
- asked DD6 about her privates and checked nobody has done it to her - she says know and says that if someone did it to her then she would feel sad.
- explained to DD6 that privates are private and she shouldn’t touch our peoples and they shouldn’t touch hers
- bought DD6 a book about private parts and read it to her repeatedly
- ignored it and focused on DD4 being upset and comforting her
- I have removed a privilege because of it
- i have got cross about it and told off DD6 about it (end of my tether)
DD6 struggles emotionally and is having ELSA support at school and at home.
I am really worried about the impact on DD4 but i am running out of ideas and approaches here and its starting to get me down as nobody seems to be able to give me advice on it.
Please be gentle with me, i just want it to stop for both children.
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