Fed up with MIL calling to the house non stop

[Rosiebelle17]

Hi I’m ready to explode
My mother in law calls non stop in person over 5/6 times every day
She calls at meal times bed times etc and will not go away , she calls when I have my own family and will not go away
I have tried pulling all the blinds but she keeps knocking and calling out
She knows I’m there as she sees my car outside the house
Someone please help me
I have two kids under 3 and the disruption is causing havoc
I asked my husband to tell her politely but he goes off on a rant that he will tell her stay away for good

[AteAllTheAfterEights]

Let him then... at least she’ll get the hint

[thistimelastweek]

Does she live next door?

[ComDummings]

She actually turns up in person 5/6 times a day? That is nuts and you definitely have a DH problem.

[Rosiebelle17]

Lives 500 metres away
I don’t know how to get rid of her
Any ideas ?

[Plmoknijb123]

Let your husband tell her to go away for good. Isn’t that a good solution? Alternatively just be firm and tell her yourself, and if she keeps arriving just ignore her. I think you have to be firm for your children’s sake.

[Rosiebelle17]

Calls in person at least 5/6 times
If I’m away she’s ringing my phone
I got a break during the lockdown with no visitors in house etc but today it has started again

[QuestionableMouse]

Tell her straight that it's disruptive and needs to stop.

Odds are she'll throw a major strop but stick to your guns.

Or if you know someone with pigs.... 🤔🤔😲😲😂😂😂

[Tolleshunt]

You have a very firm word with her about it, tell her when she’s welcome to call and when she isn’t, and don’t let her in if she turns up when you don’t want her there.

Is your DH always so dramatic?

[Rosiebelle17]

I don’t think my husband would tell her to be honest
I have tried closing gates and doors and blinds
Extremely persistent
She could be in the house 5or 6 hours in a day

[Weenurse]

That is way too much.
Tell her she is disturbing DC routine and you will be happy to see her Sunday for lunch 11-3.
Then every time she comes around tell her, now is not a convenient time, we will see you Sunday.
She will then whinge to your DH, but he can deal with that.
If your own family do what she does, you can’t complain.
You can’t have double standards.

[BobbieDraper]

Have you told her? You say she wont go away. So when you answer the door and say "sorry, we're in the middle of dinner. We will call you about this weekend" and shut the door... she just stands there and continues to knock?

Or have you not actually talked to her. You dont need your husband to do it. You can do it.

[Time2change2]

Oh gosh, how stressful for you. What does your DH think of it? Does it annoy him too? How come she lives so close to you- did you move near her or her near you? Is there. FIL on the scene? Is your DH her only child? How long does she stay when she comes over? Is she any help with the kids etc or just a hinderance?

[Lsquiggles]

Sorry OP the only way to get her to stop is to tell herself if your dh is being awkward about it, just say you need your space and warning in advance of her visits

[Rosiebelle17]

I told her to stop calling at bedtime and she took no notice , didn’t call for a day or two at that time then started again
Not letting her in doesn’t work as she knocks on the windows and the kids lift the blind and want to let her in
They are under 3 years

[AriettyHomily]

Fuck that. Move house and I'm not joking. What does your husband say / do about it?

[BobbieDraper]

So after you answer the door and tell her "sorry, we're busy" and then close the door on her, she continues to knock on the windows?

[ComDummings]

Tell her. Or this will ruin your marriage. Just be blunt. She’s obviously not bothered about upsetting or inconveniencing you at all so be honest.

[StylishMummy]

Move. Seriously she sounds bonkers!

[Rosiebelle17]

My own family always ask when they can call etc
She calls on their time slots and won’t go away
Just arrives
I’m so demented today 🙈

[ChrissyPlummer]

I remember Frank Skinner giving this tip; always answer the door with your coat on - if it’s someone you want to see you say “Oh, great I’ve just got in.” If it’s someone you don’t then you say “Oh sorry, we’re just off out.”. You might actually have to go out as she lives so close though.

[Rosiebelle17]

Yes and tries the door if I don’t answer

[ComDummings]

@StylishMummy

Move. Seriously she sounds bonkers!

Actually this ^

When we were looking for houses last year my MIL (who I actually like a lot) kept going on about a house on her street. There was no way that was happening. We opted for somewhere a 20min drive away and that is close enough.

[sadie9]

Why do you live so close to her? Because your DH didn't want to be very far away from her. Or do the PIL own the house or the land or something?
Tell her that you are trying to get the kids into a routine and that you don't want 'visitors' at their mealtimes anymore. So if she could call between 4pm and 5pm and leave before bedtime on weekdays (or whatever), that'd be great.

[Rosiebelle17]

He takes no notice
He works long hours so is away a lot
This is going on since the kids were born but today was the final straw 😩

[BMWL]

Next time she calls, look very stressed and emphasise that it has taken a long time for the children to get to sleep and you have things to do, so very sorry but I can't chit chat at the moment.
I would be quite straight with her if I could though and just be honest and tell her that you are finding it difficult that she is calling so much.
Does she do anything in her spare time or is she a lonely woman? Maybe this is her way of trying to have something to do?
I know you said you've tried the blinds closed etc but maybe just put a blunt sign on the door that says do not disturb and just do not answer the door to her if she persists.
How are you meant to have a private life if she is calling constantly - it's not fair