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Bearbehind Tue 19-Nov-19 16:02:29

New thread with the vote enabled this time!

Unless the giver is actually good enough at making what ever it is to sell then I wish they just wouldn’t give homemade stuff, especially food

Fortunately I don’t generally receive them but I have a friend who’s a teacher who’s inundated with them at Christmas

It just seems such a waste as it pretty much all gets binned

Bearbehind Tue 19-Nov-19 16:03:19

Bugger it’s posted twice now!

I’ll ask for the other one to be deleted!

heartsonacake Tue 19-Nov-19 16:06:25

YANBU. It’s lazy and selfish. It’s all about what the giver can or wants to make with no thought or regard to the receiver bar maybe sticking their favourite colour in there somewhere.

It’s all “well this is what I make so this is what everyone’s getting”. There’s no choosing of a individual present that someone might actually want.

They are also rarely any good. Except people are polite and will say how lovely they think it is and so the cycle of receiving crap homemade gifts and then throwing them away continues.

PooWillyBumBum Tue 19-Nov-19 16:06:47

I'll see your homemade gifts and raise you gifts, of any kind. I buy what I want and need throughout the year and am no longer a child - I really don't need/want vouchers or posh smelly stuff or chocolates or whatever, which only serve to create an obligation to reciprocate. Time and time again I suggest 'let's just go out for a meal' or try and duck out of gifts entirely and it's always ignored. I now just smile, nod, donate everything, buy everyone vouchers and try not to get too het up about it. Homemade stuff usually gets binned because charities can't resell it!

womanaf Tue 19-Nov-19 16:07:02

I hate shop bought gifts, they’re mostly a huge waste of money. 🤷‍♀️

YABU.

BlastEndedSkrewt Tue 19-Nov-19 16:09:53

I love a homemade gift & disagree that it's lazy - there's likely a massive amount of time & effort gone into it.

That said I am I have never given one as i'm just not that good at it and those that I have received are from people that sell these things

Bearbehind Tue 19-Nov-19 16:10:09

I hate shop bought gifts, they’re mostly a huge waste of money.

To be fair, I don’t like them much better either! 😂

Totally agree that gifts for adults are often a waste too but at least they tend not to go into the bin straightaway

goose1964 Tue 19-Nov-19 16:10:42

I would prefer hand made presents. Although it does depend on what and who sent it. Last year I gave my son's in law's after eight vodka. This year DD (adult) is having home coffee rum. I also make fudge for friends.

PsychosonicCindy Tue 19-Nov-19 16:11:16

I think it's the sentiment behind the gift that counts. People are trying to be nice!!

Bearbehind Tue 19-Nov-19 16:16:04

I’d love to see the correlation between those who vote for YABU and those who make their own gifts

StroppyWoman Tue 19-Nov-19 16:16:37

I think they’re lovely - someone putting thought and time. It costs as much for yarn to knit a scarf as to buy one, or sew something, or make something that means something to the recipient.

Some of my favourite presents have been homemade.
(Then again, I move in crafting circles)

I love choosing colours/styles to suit my loved ones as well, and making gifts personal to them.

NeopreneMermaid Tue 19-Nov-19 16:18:07

I have a friend who does this. A lot. The things she makes would be cute (but still abominations; think fake Scrabble letters and plastic beads glued on canvas) if my 6yo had made them but definitely not a 36yo woman. She comes to my house a lot though so I daren't chuck them.

Either that or she'll bake cakes with dry sponges and buttercream apparently made from margerine, sweetener and food colouring. I'd never had to spit cake out before (discreetly).

Thegirlwithnousername Tue 19-Nov-19 16:19:07

I would rather homemade stuff than just that picked off the shelf with no thought in to it at all.

shinynewapple Tue 19-Nov-19 16:21:03

I don't think I'm able to vote on the App and having just typed a long response which wouldn't then post as the old thread was being taken down I'll just say that some times home made gifts are appropriate if the giver is good at what the do and they know the receiver will appreciate the gift.

In cases like someone I know who gives people home made cup cakes but has really poor hygiene- then NO!

YANBU to not want these for yourself though.

Tableclothing Tue 19-Nov-19 16:23:38

Depends on the thing, really. I have a friend who always does homemade presents. Her knitting is a thing of beauty, she's made us some genuinely lovely items - lacy knit scarves in silk/cashmere yarn, gorgeous baby things, etc. Those I will treasure forever. Sometimes she does food gifts though, and knowledge of the presence of her multiple pet cats in the not-obsessively-clean kitchen always makes me feel a bit queasy.

runoutofideasnow Tue 19-Nov-19 16:24:16

I hate them too.

3yo DS making me something for Mother's Day is of course fine and lovely.

From an adult? No.

Wigglewagglee Tue 19-Nov-19 16:24:21

I did a cross stitch card for a 50th birthday last week. Took me ages to do

Aderyn19 Tue 19-Nov-19 16:24:50

Depends who is making them and their level of skill. My mum has made me beautiful scarves and blankets and a beautiful glass bead Christmas decoration. My dad makes awesome homemade wine.
I value those things more than anything they could buy me, but then I am sentimental about stuff like that.

runoutofideasnow Tue 19-Nov-19 16:25:29

I did a cross stitch card for a 50th birthday last week. Took me ages to do

Why? What is someone meant to do with that? Keep it forever gathering dust?

charm8ed Tue 19-Nov-19 16:26:17

I don’t like them either, I do however like it when people give meaningful photos in nice frames.

ConfusedAndStressed95 Tue 19-Nov-19 16:26:56

My friends quite like homemade gift's, but we're all students so have low budgets for gifts. We get each other a token gift and a homemade thing as well. So someone may draw or knit something, one friend might write a poem or short story or bake or something. We appreciate the time and thought that goes into it more than anything.

spoonfulofsalt Tue 19-Nov-19 16:27:22

The only homemade gifts I enjoy receiving is from DP. From everyone else, I tend to prefer food gifts as I can actually eat it instead of having it sit there in my house gathering dust and taking up space!

runoutofideasnow Tue 19-Nov-19 16:28:00

Disclaimer, I think knitted clothes for a baby are totally fine and not in the same league as the tat I assume op is talking about

Fakeflowersaremynewnormal Tue 19-Nov-19 16:29:20

I like homemade gifts as long as they are of reasonable quality (the sort of thing you might buy from a fete or market) and something I like. I love food things of that sort. I wouldn't be that bothered about a random mug with some cheap hot chocolate bunged in but I wouldn't hate it.

dementedma Tue 19-Nov-19 16:29:25

Bet you'd like a bottle of my fruit gin! It's bloody lovely

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