I’m a long time regular poster but have NC here.
I’ve only been married for six months to a man I’ve lived with for four years. My vows were important and I want this marriage to work, I really do. But he’s turned into a monster, in fairness the red flags were there, but I suppose I didn’t want to look.
Problem is my job is tied into his, and my home. To up and leave would mean not only throwing in my marriage but my job and home. I know I’ve been stupid to put all my eggs in one basket but isn’t hindsight marvellous.
I’ve got a small amount in savings but not enough for a house rent deposit if I’m not working.
I’m genuinely thinking I have no options.
Last night he pushed me into the wall,
Yelled in my face and was just so horrible. He’s totally uninterested in any problems I might have at work, he just walks away. He plays sport up to five times a week and has told me next year he’s going on a boys holiday for a week all inclusive costing £1000, it means we won’t have a holiday next year. Every single time we fall out he blames me for everything, he takes no responsibility for anything. He told me last night if I don’t like it I can just move out (it’s his tied Cottage we live in).
I don’t have children but he does. They’re almost adults and mostly live with their mum.
No one actually knows him, he comes across as a kind sensitive man, he’s anything but.
Any ideas? I’ve contemplated ending it, or running away.
Sorry this is a bit garbled,
I’m a mess.
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JoylessNewMarriage · 11/07/2019 19:06
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