AIBU about positing child's school report on Facebook?

[Glitterlikeawinner]

Just that really! A mum from DS class has posted pictures of the full report on Facebook, bragging about child's amazing abilities and essentially how she is such a good parent to have a child exceeding expectations for her age. I get it, shes proud but not half a kick in the teeth for all the other parents in the class who's children have struggled for one reason or another, but still so proud of their children, rightly so.

[JacquesHammer]

Notwithstanding the fact that posting a picture of the report is crass, YABU.

I get it, shes proud but not half a kick in the teeth for all the other parents in the class who's children have struggled for one reason or another, but still so proud of their children, rightly so

You all have the right to be proud of your children. Comparison is the thief of joy.

[littlepaddypaws]

that's an awful lot for that dc to live up to, why do people do this ? i feel sorry for her ds, what happens if the next report isn't so top notch ?

[PolkadotLollipop]

Those sorts of smug posts are annoying but YAB(a bit)U, her child’s success (and her pride in it) are nothing to do with how anyone else’s children are performing academically.

[formerbabe]

I'd happily post that I was proud of them and they'd had a good report. I wouldn't post their actual report though because it feels like a breach of their privacy in a way.

[Glitterlikeawinner]

Yeah meant to say, posting 'super proud of DS school report......' fine, I think it's posting a picture of the actual report and words that's got me a bit

[GinUp]

It's not something that I would choose to post myself but is it really any different to posting about a child's sporting success when other children may not be fast runners or strong swimmers?

Why do we celebrate sporting achievements but not academic ones?

[GinUp]

Cross-posted.

No, posting the actual report would feel wrong to me too.

[Nanny0gg]

Being proud is one thing but posting report is another.

Wonder what the authors of the report would think?

[Glitterlikeawinner]

Yeah I don't think the teacher would be keen as it shows phrases they've cut and paste .

[YouJustDoYou]

Crass.

[WhiteWineAndMagnums]

FB is full of similar posts this time of year.

The best one was one I saw recently saying "Brilliant parents evening tonight, it should have been called the Archie appreciation society"

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

I disagree it’s a ‘kick in the teeth’ for other children - the child’s achievement is theirs alone, not something to mock other children with.

But I agree posting the report isn’t on. It’s pretentious and unfair on the child - he or she might not want it shared with all and sundry.

[NoSauce]

She’s a twat. Nobody else cares. If she has family she wants to boast to then she could do it in a private group. Cringetastic.

[Socksontheradiator]

I wouldn't. Amazes me how everyone has to share so much on social media.
But I'm old!
I also wonder how the children will feel about such things when they are older.

[MyOpinionIsValid]

She's pleased and over excited. Hardly a 'kick in the teeth' for others is it? That's a complete over reaction

[missyB1]

Just embarrassing for the child and the parent that posted it! But the same sort of people post pictures of their child’s huge pile of presents under the Christmas tree, it’s competitive parenting - a modern scourge

[ChicCroissant]

I don't think you should post the child's report as a photo, no, but I'd expect some proud words (wait until they get 3 or 4 a year in secondary!).

[ballsdeep]

As a teacher I HATE this. I wrote the comments to the parents and I think it's so crass on social media

[stillmoving]

There are several issues surrounding this, but I'm sorry 'a kick in the teeth' isn't one of them. Mum can be proud irrespective of how other kids have done. I don't agree with posting the report, but like I said, that's for other issues.

The idea that a parent should not show pride for fear of upsetting someone else is ridiculous. I have this issue within my family, one DC a high achiever and another who has to try very hard to get average results. Should I not be proud?

[JacquesHammer]

I must admit one year I was sorely tempted because the handwriting was so utterly beautiful, it was like one of those entries on Buzzfeed “20 examples of handwriting so perfect you won’t believe it”

[BazaarMum]

I’d just feel a bit sorry for the kid to be honest. What happens when he gets less than a good report? Or struggles with something? I bet those reports won’t get posted with pride.

That kind of public crowing about ability is such a hostage to fortune to kids.

[LadyRannaldini]

If this is the first time she's done it, comment on FB that you're pleased to see such an improvement this year that she feels it's necessary to publish it, the others must have been pretty dire!

[staydazzling]

i totally agree OP a final line between proud and smug

[Orangecake123]

Ah that's so cringey, but i'm not surprised.

[BazaarMum]

I know literally no one that does this kind of thing. Do certain school cultures feed this boastful behaviour?