To be sick of this woman and her (unsolicited) skincare advice?

[abstractmaths]

A couple of months ago, I joined an indoor cycling studio, and became acquainted with this woman whose weekly timetable coincided perfectly with mine. All is great, aside from the fact that she can’t seem to quit talking about my skin despite me telling her (repeatedly) “thanks, but no thanks”!

For context, I had the most awful cystic acne from my late teens all the way till my early 20s, which left me with a whole bunch of boxcar and rolling scars. The discolouration is all gone now, thank goodness. Unfortunately though, despite having undergone multiple rounds of fractional lasers etc, the “textured” scarring has only had maybe a 30% improvement? Either way, it’s not ideal, especially under fluorescent and/or angled lighting.

Anyway, back to this woman. I usually get the classic lines of “have you tried drinking more water”, “do you wash your face frequently”, “have you tried x”, “do you use y” and the like. Scarring aside, my skin is somewhat great now (I’m sure she’ll scoff if I ever say this out loud), so none of this is actually in any way helpful. I know she probably means well, but it just comes across as incredibly condescending and I’m pretty much done with it at this point.

AIBU?

[WifOfBif]

She is being incredibly rude.

Could you say something like ‘I’m not sure why you comment on my skin all the time, I’m sure you mean well but it is going to have an effect on our friendship if it continues. Please stop”.

[Witchofzog]

This would drive me bonkers and she must have the skin of a rhino if she doesn't realise how rude she is being.

I would be blunt and tell her you do not wish to discuss your skin anymore. You had acne for years and there is nothing she can advise or tell you that you don't know already thank you very much

[MijasMaddie]

How rude?? You might have to get to the point with her as she sounds the type that doesn’t ‘get it’.
Something like ‘I really appreciate your concern but I’m here to exercise and feel good about myself! Please do not mention my skin again. Thank you ‘

[DointItForTheKids]

"Why don't you fuck off with your unwanted personal comments about my skin, cheers" would work for me.

[MooseHoose]

I’d say, “I really don’t like the way you keep telling me that my skin needs improving. It’s really awkward for me and you need to stop.”

The rude cow.

[sue51]

Just say that you find her rude and condescending. People like her need to be told how ignorant they sound.

[MayFayner]

I would have started avoiding her after two comments.

One is my limit!

[MijasMaddie]

Doinforthekids 🤣

[slipperywhensparticus]

Tell her it's not spots its scar tissue and water doesn't fix that

[Ilikethinkingupnewnames]

I have this but over my weight. A friend can not compute that I am happy with my size. Every single. Bloody time we meet she tries to recommend something. I called her out on it one night when we were out drinking and she was rude again. However rather than being apologetic she turned it all on her and sulked. I'm of the opinion it says more about them than it does about us.

[Absolutepowercorrupts]

I'd just tell her to fucking shut up about your skin, but then I'm very blunt. You are not being in the least bit unreasonable, she's tactless and obviously doesn't realise that's she's being obnoxious.
I know the MN response is, did you mean to be so rude, that's too tame. Maybe ask her if she knows what it feels like to have constant negative comments about an aspect of herself that she can't change

[marshmallowkittycat]

She's being rude, I do wonder also if she's gearing up to trying to sell you some overpriced MLM skincare shite.

[ElspethFlashman]

I'd do a Tinkly laugh and say "Can we NOT talk about my skin again please?!"

[MissLadyM]

Cheeky rude bitch. I would just tell her to fuck off! But I appreciate that could make it awkward. Just tell her straight to stop talking about your skin then distance yourself. If she keeps doing it ignore ignore ignore

[ticketsonsalenow]

Give it a couple more weeks and she'll be trying to sell you something with aloe vera in it.

[RateThisState]

I’d be tempted to do it back.
“Gosh, your hair is so dry. Do you use conditioner? What about Moroccan oil? Do you ever use moisturising hair masks? How often do you get it trimmed?”

[RateThisState]

Give it a couple more weeks and she'll be trying to sell you something with aloe vera in it
Bingo. My bet is on this

[pepperpot99]

YANBU. Some people are just unbearably rude.

[DointItForTheKids]

YES - I too straight away thought, supplements or aloe vera / other form of MLM!!!! Then again, she's been terribly restrained if she's waited this long - usually they're straight in with an attempted sale!!

[brizzlemint]

She's extremely rude. You really need to either tell her directly to shut up or change your time at the gym.

[thesnapandfartisinfallible]

Have you tried winding your fucking neck in? Said with a bright smile in a chirpy tome.

[Littlechocola]

Just tell her to stop

[NaturatintGoldenChestnut]

'Look, you need to stop commenting on my skin if you wish for me to speak to you, otherwise I'm going to have to ignore you because you're being incredibly rude.'

Ilike why on Earth do you speak to this person at all? She's no friend.I'd ghost the bitch.

[BlatheringOn]

"Have you tried drinking more water"!! The woman is a patronising moron.
Or other posters could be right and she is planning to sell you something.
Either way, next time she mentions your skin you could mention the massive flaw she has (because absolutely no one is ever perfect!)

[RosaWaiting]

pp mentioned the hide of a rhino....I'd tell her she's got that!

really rude, no excuse for this whatsoever.